TB9, S11, E13: Author and Therapist Colette Fehr — Why Staying Quiet Leads to Divorce
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
Release Date: 02/03/2026
TB9, S11, E13: Author and Therapist Colette Fehr — Why Staying Quiet Leads to Divorce
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
Most relationships don’t end because of one big blowup. They end because too much goes unsaid. This week on The Back 9, therapist and author Colette Fehr returns to the show to talk about her new book, The Cost of Quiet, and why avoiding conflict can quietly push couples toward distance, disconnection, and divorce. The three of us dig into how “keeping the peace” turns into resentment, how intimacy fades when hard conversations don’t happen, and why this pattern shows up so often in midlife relationships and second marriages. If you’ve ever stayed quiet to avoid a fight — and...
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TB9, S11, E12: Expat Business Coach Linda Perry: Designing a Life You Actually Want
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
What does it actually take to design a life you want? And do you earn your way to that clarity by going through the harder chapters first? We’re joined by someone who can answer those questions. Expat business coach and former federal criminal defense attorney Linda Perry has created a life that is a perfect model of what it looks like to build with intention. Linda shares how a 17-year career in law, a difficult ex-husband, and the work of self-reflection all shaped her understanding of who she really was and what she wanted next. Linda brings both lived experience and...
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TB9, S11, E11: Financial Advisor Mike Gyzl – Getting Your Kids in the Money Conversation
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
On this episode we give you some bang for your buck, as we sit down with financial advisor Mike Gyzl of Cetera Investors to talk about a topic most families avoid until it becomes urgent: money. Mike explains the “retirement red zone,” how to think about replacing a paycheck after work ends, and why the coming wealth transfer makes family planning more important than ever. We also dig into how to bring kids and young adults into the conversation, why they often tune out their parents but will listen to a trusted third party, and how to use simple tools to keep the transfer of wealth...
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TB9, S11, E10: Joyce Feldman: Fitness That Sticks and Why Showing Up Changes Foster Teens’ Lives
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
We kick off the new season with our Wellness episode. Joyce Feldman, the leader of South Florida’s Big Children’s Foundation, which focuses on teens in foster care. Our discussion focuses on the importance of mentorship from men, and how early support, consistency, and real relationships matter more than quick fixes. Joyce is also a long-time health and fitness expert, and she leans into that expertise to share tips on how we can keep our fitness resolutions heading into the new year. It’s a conversation about showing up, building habits that last, and how physical...
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New Year, New Elements — Making the Turn TB9, S11
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
Kick off the new year with The Back 9 as we take you inside what’s ahead in Season 11 to preview all our new elements of the show — including an updated format designed to help you quickly find the conversations that matter most to your life during midlife. We are emphasizing the topics our beloved listeners ask for most: parenting, modern masculinity, health and wellness, friendship, purpose, and legacy. Along the way, we look back at holiday travel chaos, laugh about over-cologned Uber drivers, and share what’s changed behind the scenes. So let’s make turn into 2026...
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TB9 — 19th Hole: A Year-end Reflection on Relationships (TB9, S10)
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
In this season and year-end wrap-up of The Back 9, we reflect on the conversations, moments, and themes that defined Season 10. From a viral clip with Kerri Ballinger to powerful discussions on wellness, early detection, loss, and personal reinvention, this season delivered big moments of depth, honesty, and perspective at every turn. We share the insights from guests including Sean Springman, Ross Deutsch, and Sheryl Campbell, and take a personal look at our recurring themes of setting boundaries, healing, and building healthier relationships. Some of this comes from our own...
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Integrative Wellness Founder Judy Mackey: How to Be Healthy in the New Year (TB9, S10, E18)
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
On this episode of The Back 9, we sit down with integrative wellness leader Judy Mackey to explore a smarter, whole-person approach to healing and cap a season devoted in large part to wellness. In facing her own health crisis, Judy discovered the power of Eastern medicine and integrative care — a journey that ultimately led her to help build StrataMed at Garden of the Gods. She explains how integrative approaches help uncover illness, and why trauma, behavior, and mindset often matter just as much as labs and scans. Judy also shares the beautiful moments when skeptical patients...
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Entrepreneur Chase Glick: How to Drink Healthy (TB9, S10, E17)
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
Okay, maybe not how to drink healthy, but how to drink healthiER! On this episode of The Back 9, we sit down with Chase Glick, founder of Chay Spirits, to talk about personal reinvention, massive weight loss, and building a better-for-you alcohol brand from scratch. After losing more than 150 pounds, Chase rethought his relationship with alcohol — and set out to create an alcohol brand that actually fit a healthy lifestyle. He breaks down how keto changed his life, why ingredients matter, and how Chay delivers smooth flavor without the burn. The conversation also dives into...
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OUR LIVE SECOND ANNIVERSARY SHOW (Recorded from 12/3/25) — TB9, S10, E16
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
We’re celebrating two years of The Back 9 with our Second Anniversary Show, recorded live. We revisit the conversations that shaped our biggest episodes of the past year — from modern masculinity and leadership to healing, reinvention, and emotional resilience. Kerri Ballinger returns to complete the story behind her viral clip, sharing what EXACTLY was in her bath, and the rest of her journey through chronic illness. And Suzette Bravo joins us to break down what aspects of masculinity women genuinely find attractive, and why self-awareness matter more than performance. It’s a...
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Author Sheryl Campbell: Literally Rebuilding Life One Mountain at a Time (TB9, S10, E15)
The Back 9 - Midlife, Best Life.
We sit down with author and Adirondack 46er Sheryl Campbell, whose powerful back-nine journey includes surviving breast cancer, navigating divorce, and losing her business during COVID. Sheryl shares how a single winter hike in the Adirondacks sparked her mission to climb all 46 high peaks, helping her quiet the noise, reclaim her identity, and finally let go of the past. Her story — including how losing a treasured object helped her find something far more meaningful — is an inspiring reminder that healing, purpose, and strength often begin with one unexpected step forward on...
info_outlineMost relationships don’t end because of one big blowup. They end because too much goes unsaid.
This week on The Back 9, therapist and author Colette Fehr returns to the show to talk about her new book, The Cost of Quiet, and why avoiding conflict can quietly push couples toward distance, disconnection, and divorce. The three of us dig into how “keeping the peace” turns into resentment, how intimacy fades when hard conversations don’t happen, and why this pattern shows up so often in midlife relationships and second marriages.
If you’ve ever stayed quiet to avoid a fight — and wondered later how things slipped so far — this conversation will hit home. It’s a topic worth shouting about, on The Back 9.
Contact Colette
Preorder The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love
https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book
Website
https://www.colettejanefehr.com
Instagram and TikTok
@colettejanefehr
Substack
https://colettejanefehr.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips
TEDx Talk, “Secrets from a Couples Therapist”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tSUOB2yEd0
Contact Dennis & Josh
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