Episode 114: Challenges in Coaching: When is a law not a law?
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Episode 114: Challenges in Coaching: When is a law not a law? Is a certain amount of stress good for you? Definitely! Is there a point at which the amount of stress becomes detrimental? Most certainly! Is there a law, a model, or a formula that tells us how much stress is too much? Contrary to popular opinion, probably not! In this episode Tom airs his frustrations about an often rolled out piece of research called the ‘Yerkes-Dodson Law’. We discuss the law’s origins, what Yerkes and Dodson were actually measuring and how the law has become a universal measure for all...
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Episode 113: Episode 112: Topic: Leadership Coaching Part 2
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Episode 113: Episode 112: Topic: Leadership Coaching Part 2 In our last episode we explored how leadership might show up in the coaching room, even if we’re not formally engaged in leadership coaching and why, as Transformational Coaches, we might choose to feel confident in coaching those in leadership positions. In this episode we’re putting an element of theory behind the concept of leadership and in doing so, explore a number of different leadership styles; ten in fact. We discuss the pros and cons of each leadership style and when it might be useful to engage in...
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Episode 112: Topic: Leadership Coaching Part 1
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If you’ve coached an individual within the NHS there is a good chance that you have been called upon to have a conversation around leadership. Not necessarily about the mechanics of the leadership role but perhaps around how the coachee shows up and how they interact with other people. Leadership presents itself throughout organisations and often those without a defined leadership role are taking responsibility for heading up certain initiatives or leading on certain aspects of the culture. Tom has been coaching leaders for 15 years and has found that the main topic of...
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Episode 111: Coaching Topics: Difficult Conversations - How to have good ones.
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Following on from our previous podcast episode where we discussed why people might choose to avoid difficult conversations, in this episode we talk about the difference between having difficult conversations badly or having them well. From considering the pros and cons of having a particular conversation; deciding whether to have the conversation or not; preparing for the conversation; and then managing the conversation, we’ve got it all covered. Join us for this podcast, as we take you through some practical approaches that you might wish to explore with coachees who find...
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Episode 110: Coaching Topics: Difficult Conversations - Why do we avoid them?
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Your coachees may tell you about a sticky situation or problematic people that they have in their lives, and talk about the stress that this is causing them. Often, one of the options that the coachee has to help resolve the issue is to have a conversation with someone else involved, but they may be avoiding this option. Understanding why a coachee might be choosing not to have what they might perceive as a difficult conversation is useful and may help you to facilitate the coachee’s thinking. This may well result in them deciding to have a crucial conversation with someone that improves...
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Episode 109: More Love in the Coaching Room
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If you listened to Episode 108 you will have heard Tom discussing the ways in which we might show up in the coaching room. Tom made the point that an approach of judgement might be an easy way for us to show up in our coaching , but perhaps love might be a more useful way to be in order to draw out the real coachee sitting before us. Well, one podcast episode didn’t provide Tom with enough space to consider the fact that often either the coach or the coachee could show up in fear in the coaching room, for all sorts of reasons. So this episode continues where Tom left...
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Episode 108: Love in the Coaching Room
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Just to avoid any confusion, we are not addressing the topics of romantic love, sexual attraction or attachment in the coaching room in this episode, although they might crop up in a future episode. Tom is on his own for this podcast and is offering some reflections on how we might show up as a coach. It would be very easy for us to show up in judgement of our coachees and to prove our worth by pointing out the error of their ways. We’re the experts after all. We know what’s what. Or maybe, just maybe, we can show up with love, and hold that loving space for someone whilst...
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Episode 107: Coaching Challenge – Presence
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We consider the coaching space a sacred one. It is a safe, welcoming, confidential and non-judgemental space that allows the coachee to engage in conversation in an authentic, open and honest way. It is a space that fosters trust and connection. That’s the space that we, as coaches, are looking to create in the coaching room and that requires some presence on our part. But what do we mean when we talk about coaching presence? In this episode we explore what coaching presence is. We also explore how we might create the optimal conditions for an open and honest coaching...
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Episode 106: Interview – Dr. Jo Hacking
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It is always wonderful when we hear about the different ways in which our coaching doctors are using their skills, so when Dr Jo Hacking told us about the retreats that she is running, and how impactful adopting a coaching approach on them has been, we thought we really ought to find out more In this episode Helen catches up with Jo to do just that. Jo has a background as a Consultant in Paediatric Emergency Medicine but experienced burnout in 2017/18. She stepped away from medicine completely in 2022 to focus on her family, and her business. Listen in as Helen finds out about Jo’s...
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Episode 105: Coaching Topic – Emotional Intelligence
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Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new phrase but not a new concept. The Greeks and the Romans were giving thought to the problems we all have with our emotions thousands of years ago. The fact that we’re all still struggling to master our responses to events that produce emotions suggests that we haven’t evolved very much emotionally in the last few millennia. So, Emotional Intelligence is definitely a concept worth exploring. Which is exactly what we’re doing in this podcast. Turning to the granddaddy of modern Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman, we’re exploring the different...
info_outlineWe love that coaching helps our coachees to generate new thinking. If you’re self-aware as a coach and continue to engage in reflective practice your coaching conversations are going to help you to develop your own thinking too.
But what happens when your unconscious thought processes start to get in the way of your own performance in the coaching room, and your coachee’s unconscious prohibits their ability to think through their situation in an open and expansive way.
In this episode we explore unconscious bias and how the phenomenon might impact us as coaches, as well as limiting our coachee’s ability to do some really good thinking. The problem with unconscious biases is that we don’t know we have them, even though we recognise that other people are subject to them; a phenomenon known as the bias blindspot.
We believe that unconscious bias is a fascinating subject to shine a light on and to identify some rather interesting specific biases. So, we’ll be doing a little bit of that as well as exploring how we, as coaches, can remain open to the possibility of us bringing our own biases into the coaching room. We’ll also discuss how you are able to introduce the idea of unconscious bias to your coachees, allowing them to consciously bring some of their own biases to light and start to unpick them. Awareness is the first step to being able to mindfully dispel some of our more unhelpful unconscious thinking.
We hope you enjoy the conversation and that it starts your own journey of self-discovery around your unconscious biases.
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