EP 60 Dr. Jake Porter "How Can the Betrayed Ever Make Sense Out of Their Partner's Infidelity?"
Release Date: 11/20/2025
EP 63: Healing is Feeling: Learning How to Feel Again After Infidelity
Sam's Healing Podcast
Feeling anything after infidelity can feel impossible. As the unfaithful, you may believe you don’t deserve feelings—or that if you let yourself feel, you’ll drown in shame, grief, fear and more compounding failure. As the betrayed, your world has exploded into rage, panic, hypervigilance, and a kind of pain that feels like it will never stop. In today's episode, I'll do my best to slow all of that down and make room for both stories—without excusing harm and without minimizing anyone’s trauma. I'll begin by naming a hard truth many unfaithful partners never say out loud:...
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EP 62: How to Guarantee Personal Transformation In Healing from Infidelity
Sam's Healing Podcast
If there's one question almost everyone asks after infidelity or betrayal it's this: “Can I or we ever really heal from this devastation?” In todays episode, I share the one real guarantee that exists in recovery—not a gimmick or quick fix, but a way of showing up to your own healing that works whether you were betrayed or you were the one who did the betraying. This is the same approach that helped me rebuild my own life after my own worst failures and has supported countless clients walking through the wreckage of affairs and deception. You can’t control what your partner...
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EP 61 Guest Judith Nisenson Discusses Why Women Also Cheat the Shame of the Unfaithful Female
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Today you'll meet Judith Nisenson, a certified coach and expert in dealing with unfaithful women. She's also Adam Nisenson's wife whom many of you will also know as The Betrayal Shrink who has appeared on the podcast multiple times. Judith Nisenson is the founder of Women’sWRK, a Certified Life Coach (ICF-ACC) and Betrayal Trauma Coach (APSATS-CPC) specializing in helping women who have betrayed their partners. Her work focuses on guiding women to face the truth of their actions, dismantle denial and rationalizations, and step into authentic accountability and transformation....
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EP 60 Dr. Jake Porter "How Can the Betrayed Ever Make Sense Out of Their Partner's Infidelity?"
Sam's Healing Podcast
How can someone betrayed by infidelity and/or addiction ever begin to make sense of the experience? When your world is turned upside down by something as devastating and disorienting as betrayal, it’s natural to wonder: How do I even process this loss? Where do I turn for answers? How do I make sense of something so nonsensical? In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter—renowned counselor, trauma specialist, educator, and creator of the Couple–Centered Recovery® model—offers practical wisdom and clear, trauma-informed guidance for those seeking to understand both the betrayed and...
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EP 59 with Sharon Rinearson: "I Don't Think I Could Have Been More Disrespected by my Husband..."
Sam's Healing Podcast
How does the betrayed understand the heinous choices of the unfaithful? "If my unfaithful truly cared about me, how could they make the choices they have made to be unfaithful and go outside the marriage?" How does the betrayed work through the understanding of why the unfaithful had such a flurry of activity for their affair partners, but NOT for the betrayed spouse themselves? How could they and how DID they work so hard for the affair partners but yet so little on the marriage and for their spouses? Sharon Rinearson—an expert therapist with 30+ years of...
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EP 58: "It Was Like a Death to the Life I Had Planned." A Betrayed Guest Shares Her Story
Sam's Healing Podcast
If you’re a betrayed partner, you know: infidelity can feel like a death. The death of a marriage. The loss of the life you planned. The shattering of what you thought you were living. For those who haven’t faced it, that comparison might sound dramatic—but for survivors, it’s reality. The grief and pain after discovering infidelity or addiction can be overwhelming, and “moving on” can feel impossible. Yet, in today’s episode, you’ll meet Joanie—a client and survivor—who bravely shares her journey for the first time. Joanie’s story is raw, honest, and ultimately hopeful:...
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EP 57: Dr. Matthew Hedelius: Is My Spouse a Sex Addict or Just Dealing with Sexual Compulsivity?
Sam's Healing Podcast
Have you ever wondered if you or your partner was truly a sex addict? Perhaps you're wondering if you or your partner are maybe dealing with sexual compulsivity? What in fact is this 'sexual compulsivity?' Today you'll meet Dr. Matthew Hedelius Psy. D., LCSW, CSAT-S who has been a regular guest on the podcast over the years and is the Director of Paradise Creek Recovery Center. Dr. Matthew Hedelius earned a B.S. degree in Family Sciences, a Masters Degree in Clinical Social Work and a Doctor of Psychology Degree. He has provided treatment for both men and women who...
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EP 56: Guest Amanda Asproni "My Unfaithful Keeps Wanting me, the Betrayed, to Rescue Them."
Sam's Healing Podcast
Today’s episode of Sam’s Healing Podcast features a courageous and deeply empathetic interview with Amanda Asproni as we confront the raw realities of infidelity and betrayal trauma. Together, we examine why so many unfaithful partners desperately want those they've betrayed to show up for them—longing for their partner to absorb and manage their shame, rescue them emotionally, and shoulder responsibility for healing, even after breaking trust. Amanda offers clear, compassionate insight into the tangled mix of guilt, regret, and helplessness that often overwhelms individuals who...
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Helping the Unfaithful Move From "Not It!" to "Got it!"
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On today's episode of “Moving from Not It to Got It,” Sam takes listeners on an honest journey through the pivotal moment when an unfaithful spouse chooses to stop deflecting and starts owning their actions. The episode opens by breaking down the psychological reality of the “Not It” phase—where self-protection, avoidance, and justification keep an individual stuck, unable to truly connect with their partner or heal the damage from infidelity. The reality is, “Not It” causes a significant amount of collateral damage including but certainly not limited to: blocking all...
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EP 55: Dr. Jill Manning: Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and and the Use of Alcohol to Escape
Sam's Healing Podcast
In the aftermath of betrayal trauma, many adults turn to alcohol or other substances in search of relief. It might feel like a way to escape, to quiet pain and overwhelm, or simply to get through another day. What’s really happening is “numbing out”—using alcohol and drugs to suppress painful emotions, calm anxiety, and insulate from distressing memories. The urge to numb out is understandable, but over time, relying on substances creates new problems and blocks authentic healing. As a clinician, Dr. Jill Manning is seeing a troubling increase in alcohol use among those suffering...
info_outlineHow can someone betrayed by infidelity and/or addiction ever begin to make sense of the experience?
When your world is turned upside down by something as devastating and disorienting as betrayal, it’s natural to wonder: How do I even process this loss? Where do I turn for answers? How do I make sense of something so nonsensical?
In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter—renowned counselor, trauma specialist, educator, and creator of the Couple–Centered Recovery® model—offers practical wisdom and clear, trauma-informed guidance for those seeking to understand both the betrayed and the unfaithful.
Dr. Porter explores the mindset and decision-making behind infidelity and addiction, breaking down the mechanics of grief and the emotional aftermath for everyone involved.
What you’ll gain from this conversation:
*Expert insight into the psychology of the unfaithful partner
*Clear, actionable insight for betrayed spouses navigating the shock and turmoil
*A deeper understanding of grief, trauma, and the path forward after relational betrayal
Dr. Porter’s compassionate approach, clinical expertise, and innovative model have helped countless couples heal and rebuild after infidelity. If you’re searching for clarity, validation, and hope, this episode will guide you through understanding the seemingly inexplicable—and illuminate your journey toward healing.
It's not as impossible as it may seem.....
To Healing,
Sam
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