Why We Choose the Wrong Partners (and How to Choose Better) Ep. 121
Release Date: 05/11/2025
Why You Can't Get Over Your Ex: The Delusion Keeping You Stuck After a Breakup Ep. 140
Breakup to Blessing
When a relationship ends, it’s easy to get stuck in denial—replaying “what ifs,” clinging to hope that your ex will come back, or creating a fantasy that things weren’t as bad as they really were. But staying in this space only delays your healing. In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, I talk about the difference between denial and reality after a breakup, why false hope keeps you stuck, and how facing the truth (even when it hurts) sets you free. You’ll learn: The common signs you’re living in denial after a breakup How denial protects you emotionally—but also keeps you...
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Stop Chasing Outcomes: How to Actually Get Your Ex Back or Find Love Ep. 139
Breakup to Blessing
Are you obsessing over getting your ex back, finding "the one," or stopping the pain after a breakup? In this episode, I reveal why our outcome-focused thinking is actually sabotaging our success in love - and what to do instead. What You'll Learn: Why focusing on outcomes keeps you stuck in breakups and dating The counter-intuitive truth about getting an ex back How to shift from desperate outcome-chasing to empowered process-building Why dating with a "find the one" mentality backfires My personal story: How my husband and I broke up, grew apart, and came back together as different...
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Encore: Why loneliness has nothing to do with being single (Being single vs being lonely) Ep. 138
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We often think being single means being lonely – but that's one of the biggest relationship myths out there. The truth? You can be single and completely fulfilled, or in a relationship and feel totally disconnected from your partner. In this essential episode, I'm breaking down why we confuse relationship status with happiness, and what to do about the loneliness that has nothing to do with whether you're coupled up or not. What You'll Learn: The four relationship states we all cycle through – and why only one of them actually matters for your happiness. Why being in a relationship and...
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You Are Not Defined by Your Ex: Healing Self-Worth After a Breakup Ep. 137
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Breakups can leave you questioning everything about yourself — your value, your identity, even your worth as a person. You might be doing all the “right things” people recommend after heartbreak — staying busy, seeing friends, diving into hobbies — yet still come home to that deep, overwhelming emptiness. In this episode, I explore why so many people feel worthless after a relationship ends, and why it can seem like you only exist in relation to your ex. Together we’ll unpack: ✨ The missing piece most people overlook when healing after a breakup ✨ Why you’ve been giving your...
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How the Decisions You Make After Heartbreak Define Your Future Ep. 136
Breakup to Blessing
What if the pain you’re in right now is actually the turning point of your life? When life falls apart — through heartbreak, betrayal, or unexpected change — it can feel like everything is over. But what if this crisis could be the moment that transforms you into someone stronger, wiser, and more authentic than ever before? In this episode, I’ll share how to stop staying stuck in anger and blame, and instead use disruption as a catalyst for growth. You’ll learn how to see relationships more clearly, build deeper connections, and make choices from courage instead of fear. Whether...
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5 Things For You to Do Immediately After a Breakup Ep. 135
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Going through a breakup and don't know what to do with yourself? This episode is for you. Whether you're in shock, having a breakdown, or feeling completely detached, all reactions are normal. Instead of the typical breakup advice, I'm sharing 4 practical, actionable steps that will set you up for your next chapter - one that's better than before and intentionally focused on creating your best life. What You'll Learn Why your breakup reaction is normal (and often learned from childhood) The 4 unconventional steps to take immediately after a breakup How to use this ending as a catalyst for...
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How To Find The Parts of You That Need Healing Ep. 134
Breakup to Blessing
In this episode, we dive deep into the often unseen—but deeply felt—impact of untreated emotional wounds and how they shape our everyday lives, choices, behaviours, and relationships. Whether you’re someone who feels “stuck,” overwhelmed, or confused by recurring patterns in your life, this episode will help you understand how unhealed pain manifests and why acknowledging it is the first essential step toward healing. 💔 Topics Covered: Why emotional wounds don’t disappear with time or avoidance How unresolved pain can influence your choices and decision-making The role of...
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How to Fix Relationship Problems: Foundation First Approach Ep. 133
Breakup to Blessing
In this episode, we explore a game-changing framework for understanding relationship issues: the hierarchy of relationship problems. Just like Maslow's hierarchy of needs, relationships have different levels of problems that must be addressed in the right order to create lasting, healthy partnerships. The Relationship Hierarchy (Bottom to Top) Foundation Level: Basic Relationship Needs Respect Trust Safety (emotional, physical, psychological) These are non-negotiable - your relationship equivalent of food, water, and shelter Middle Tier: Communication and Connection Effective...
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Why You're Still Stuck After Your Breakup (And How to Finally Move Forward) Ep. 132
Breakup to Blessing
Are you stuck in a loop of anger and hurt months or even years after your breakup? In this powerful episode, Sylvia explores the crucial difference between resistance and acceptance—and why one keeps you trapped while the other sets you free. If you've been replaying what happened, wishing things could go back to how they were, or feeling like life is happening TO you instead of FOR you, this episode will show you the path forward. What You'll Learn: The Two Paths After Heartbreak: What resistance really looks like (and why it keeps you powerless) How acceptance differs from giving up or...
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Breakup Anxiety and Loneliness: What It Means and How to Cope Ep. 131
Breakup to Blessing
Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing. In today’s episode, we’re diving into two of the most common – and most challenging – emotions that come up after a breakup: loneliness and anxiety. If you’ve ever felt isolated after the end of a relationship or found yourself spiralling into “what ifs” about the future, you’re not alone. We talk about why these feelings show up, what they’re really trying to tell us, and how we can begin to respond with compassion and connection rather than fear. We explore: Why loneliness and anxiety are normal, not a sign of failure The loss...
info_outlineIn this episode of Breakup to Blessing, Sylvia dives deep into the patterns behind how we make decisions in our relationships — whether it’s choosing who to date, who to commit to, or even why we stay in relationships longer than we should. Are we being led by logic, or are our emotions quietly in control? Sylvia explains how we often create logical stories to justify emotional decisions, and she helps listeners uncover the hidden patterns that may be guiding them.
Key Topics Covered:
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Logical Stories vs. Emotional Truths: How we convince ourselves our choices are logical when they’re actually driven by fear, insecurity, or unmet needs.
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Identifying Hidden Patterns: Understanding why you may be drawn to similar types of partners, even when they seem different on the surface.
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Attachment and Early Influences: How the emotional patterns formed in childhood with caregivers can impact your relationship choices in adulthood, as explained by Andrew Huberman.
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Recognising Your Own Patterns: A reflective exercise to help you identify your decision-making triggers — is it logic, emotion, or fear?
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Real-Life Example: The story of a woman who thought she was dating different types of men but realized they all had one thing in common — an inability to provide emotional connection.
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Making Healthier Decisions: How to challenge the stories you tell yourself and start making relationship choices that are genuinely aligned with your goals and values.
Want to Connect with Sylvia?
If you’d like to discuss your own situation and get personal insights, you can book a free consultation with Sylvia at sylviasuwan.com/consultation.