Breakup to Blessing

Welcome to 'Breakup to Blessing,' the podcast where Sylvia, a breakup and relationship therapist, guides you through the intricate journey of heartbreak and relationships with empathy and expertise. Join her as she explores practical tips, insightful advice, and proven strategies to not only cope with the challenges of heartbreak, but also to discover the path towards healing, personal growth, and building healthy relationships. Tune in for a transformative experience, turning heartbreak into a powerful catalyst for positive change.

Are You Dating For Connection or Just The End Goal? Ep. 113 03/10/2025

The Life You Want Is One Decision Away Ep. 112 03/02/2025

Why Saying Goodbye Is Harder Than You Think Ep. 111 02/23/2025

Bonus Valentine’s Day Episode – Finding Strength & Joy No Matter Your Relationship Status Ep. 110 02/13/2025

The #1 Reason Your Fights Keep Escalating (And How to Fix It) Ep. 109 02/09/2025

How To Heal Faster - Bringing It Back To Basics Ep. 108 02/02/2025

If You Feel Like You're Behind In Your Love Life Ep. 107 01/26/2025

Letting Go Without Closure: Ambiguous Loss Explained Ep. 106 01/19/2025

The 5 Powerful Mindset Shifts To Get Through Painful and Challenging Times Ep. 105 01/12/2025

The 5 Powerful Mindset Shifts To Get Through Painful and Challenging Times Ep. 105 Welcome back to another episode of Breakup to Blessing! I hope you're having a good start to the new year. If you're not, hang in there—you’re doing all you can right now, and that’s enough. In today’s episode, I’m sharing some powerful mindset shifts that helped me navigate some of my own deepest challenges. We’ll talk about the importance of not letting anticipation ruin the present, why embracing change is key to growth, and how to stop thinking there’s only one “right” way to do things. I also explore how we deal with pain and difficult emotions, why it's crucial to learn how to sit with discomfort, and how to break free from the need for control. I also draw parallels between these life lessons and what I’ve been experiencing as a parent to a toddler going through the “terrible twos.” It’s been a reminder of how important emotional regulation is—not just for kids, but for adults too. Finally, I dive into the transformative power of acceptance, especially when faced with situations you can’t control. Finding acceptance may feel impossible at times, but it’s the first step towards healing and growth. If you're going through a tough time right now, whether it’s a breakup, a life setback, or just the overwhelming weight of life’s challenges, I encourage you to tune in. This episode is about how to shift your mindset to navigate life with more strength, clarity, and peace. Key Takeaways: • Why the anticipation of something often feels worse than the actual event. • The power of reframing your thoughts to focus on constructive actions. • How embracing change can lead to unexpected blessings. • The importance of learning to regulate your emotions and deal with pain. • Why letting go of the "right way" opens up possibilities for growth. • How acceptance is the key to moving forward, even in difficult circumstances. Remember: You can create an even better life, no matter what you're going through right now. If you're ready to move forward, this episode is for you. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free Consultation: /episode/index/show/85871c7a-d3ae-4b42-953a-6815e234caee/id/34782930

How To Attract The Relationship You Desire Ep. 104 01/05/2025

Clarify Your Vision for 2025: 5 Steps to Achieving Your Best Year Ep. 103 12/29/2024

Healing During The Holiday Season Ep. 102 12/22/2024

Showing Up For Yourself Even On The Hardest Days Ep. 101 12/15/2024

100 Episodes: My Top Relationship Lessons That Changed My Life 12/08/2024

When Letting Go Feels Like Giving Up Ep. 99 12/01/2024

Stop Believing Stories That Hold You Back Ep. 98 11/24/2024

Leave The Past Behind And Reinvent Yourself Before The New Year Begins Ep. 97 11/17/2024

Leave The Past Behind And Reinvent Yourself Before The New Year Begins Ep. 97 Hey everyone, welcome back! As we near the end of the year, it’s a great time to reflect on what’s worked – and what hasn’t. In this episode, I’m speaking directly to those of you who’ve had a tough year, especially if you’ve been struggling to move past a difficult breakup. Together, we’ll look at why it’s been so hard to get unstuck and, more importantly, how you can make next year different. I’ll share insights on the stages of grief and how we often find ourselves holding onto emotions like denial, anger, and regret far longer than we realise. If you feel as though you’re looping in these stages, you might be reinforcing patterns that keep you from moving forward. Let’s talk about the difference between healthy processing and unhelpful rumination, and explore strategies to leave those habits behind. This episode is all about preparing for 2025 with purpose. Instead of waiting until New Year’s Eve to set resolutions, I’ll guide you on how to gradually build a new version of yourself, starting right now. By identifying what truly motivates you and setting small, achievable goals, you’ll set yourself up for long-term success instead of quick burnout. Questions to ask yourself: What kind of person do you want to be a year from now? How do you want to feel about yourself and your life? What’s one step you can take today to start moving forward? If you’re ready to start letting go of the past and embracing the possibilities ahead, this episode is here to support you. Listen in, take notes, and let’s make the next year your best one yet. Thank you for tuning in. Don’t forget to subscribe if you haven’t already, and I’d love it if you could leave a rating or review. Here’s to a beautiful week and an even better year ahead! Show Links: Ready To Join Breakup to Blessing? /episode/index/show/85871c7a-d3ae-4b42-953a-6815e234caee/id/33922357

Addressing the REAL PROBLEMS in Your Relationship Ep. 96 11/10/2024

Addressing the REAL PROBLEMS in Your Relationship Ep. 96 Today, we’re diving into a topic many of us face: the way we handle conflict in our relationships. Often, we wait until tensions peak before addressing issues, but I’m here to encourage a different approach—discussing these things before they escalate, while we’re in a positive, calm state. This allows us to communicate more constructively and prevents the cycle of recurring arguments and unresolved feelings. In this episode, I explore the difference between focusing on symptoms (the surface-level problems) and tackling the roots (the deeper issues driving these conflicts). When we only address symptoms, it’s like covering a wound without cleaning it—temporary fixes won’t heal the deeper issues. Some key points we discuss: • Why “symptom-fixing” often fails: Without addressing the underlying emotions, resentment and frustration can build up, leading to recurring conflicts. • Missed opportunities for growth and intimacy: By avoiding difficult conversations, we miss out on moments of vulnerability that foster deeper connection. • Self-reflection in conflict: Often, symptom-fixing leads us to blame our partner’s actions instead of exploring our own role or the dynamics between us. Common examples of symptom-focused behaviour include: • Trust issues: Addressed only by setting boundaries instead of exploring underlying insecurities. • Communication breakdown: Limiting phone use without tackling the root issue of emotional disconnection. • Physical intimacy: Creating “reminders” for physical affection rather than exploring unspoken feelings or shifts in priorities. To build a healthier approach, I discuss the importance of self-awareness, learning to self-regulate, and effective listening. I also talk about reframing complaints as needs, so we can better understand and communicate our deeper emotions and desires. Take some time to reflect on your relationship. Are there issues that keep resurfacing? Could there be a deeper root you’re overlooking? Try making one small change this week—take a step back, look deeper, and open up an honest conversation Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a Free Consultation: /episode/index/show/85871c7a-d3ae-4b42-953a-6815e234caee/id/33864737

Why People Cheat and How to Move Forward Ep. 95 11/03/2024

Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Ep. 94 10/27/2024

Learning To Be Okay With Not Being Okay Ep. 93 10/20/2024

How To Rebuild Your Life After Heartbreak Ep. 92 10/13/2024

How to Shift Your Mindset and Take Control of Your Life Ep. 91 10/06/2024

Heartbreak Hijack, Stress and How to Reduce Anxiety Ep. 90 09/29/2024

Inserting Hope and Possibility Into Your Life Ep. 89 09/22/2024

Moving On, One Small Step at a Time Ep. 88 09/16/2024

When You’re the One Who Messed Up: Rebuilding Trust After a Mistake Ep. 87 09/08/2024

Why They Left - Inside The Mind of the One Who Ended It Ep. 86 09/01/2024

Why They Left - Inside The Mind of the One Who Ended It Ep. 86 In this episode, we dive into a crucial yet often overlooked stage in relationships—the period before a breakup. While there’s plenty of advice on what to do after a breakup, today, we’re focusing on the internal process someone goes through when they start to consider whether their relationship is still right for them. We’ll explore the doubts, the inner conflicts, and the stages of deliberation that lead up to the decision to end a relationship. We also touch on insights from Esther Perel, who reminds us that relationships involve three entities: you, your partner, and the relationship itself. It’s crucial to nurture all three, but when one is neglected, it can lead to significant issues down the line. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a breakup and felt confused or blindsided, this episode will offer you a new perspective. We’ll unpack the typical stages someone might go through when contemplating a breakup, from feeling discontent to mentally weighing the pros and cons, to the fears and uncertainties they might face. Whether you’re currently in a relationship or still processing a past breakup, this episode is full of insights that can help you understand what might have been going on for your ex or even prepare you to navigate similar situations in the future. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the pre-breakup phase and learn how to create a safe environment in your relationships where honest communication can thrive. Key Points Discussed: The internal process of considering a breakup The role of doubt, discontentment, and emotional dissatisfaction How individuals weigh the pros and cons before making a decision The importance of aligning needs, desires, and future goals Common fears faced by those contemplating a breakup The subtle signs of emotional distancing Creating a safe space for open and honest communication in relationships Show Links: Early Bird Retreat Registration DM Join Breakup to Blessing /episode/index/show/85871c7a-d3ae-4b42-953a-6815e234caee/id/32851617

How YOU Can Move On In 12 Weeks Ep. 85 08/25/2024

When The Breakup Doesn't Make Any Sense Ep. 84 08/18/2024

When The Breakup Doesn't Make Any Sense Ep. 84 In this episode of the Breakup to Blessing podcast, I delve into the complex feelings surrounding breakups that leave us searching for answers, especially when they just don't seem to make sense. As a breakup and relationship coach, I'm passionate about helping individuals navigate their emotional landscapes and find clarity during turbulent times. This particular discussion centers on the common misconception that we find closure solely through understanding our ex’s actions, and how often what we really need is to accept that their reasoning may forever remain a mystery to us. I begin by addressing the concept of closure, a term often thrown around in the aftermath of a breakup. It's easy to believe that closure is something we are owed by our former partners, but the truth is that many people already possess enough information to grant themselves a degree of closure; it’s simply a matter of accepting it. For those who grapple with confusion regarding the breakup, I challenge the belief that their ex's feelings and actions should align perfectly. The reality is that emotional complexities can cloud judgment and lead to decisions that might seem illogical from the outside. Throughout this conversation, I emphasise the importance of recognizing emotional variability. It's crucial to accept that people are not only influenced by their feelings but also by a multitude of external factors. I discuss how some individuals, particularly women, often find themselves replaying past conversations, seeking meaning in each word spoken, yet failing to reach a resolution. This mental spiral can prevent growth and healing if we become too entrenched in our need for answers that may never come. I highlight how differing emotional processing skills can lead to misinterpretation of a partner's feelings. Many people, especially in romantic contexts, operate with distinct emotional frameworks. It’s common for someone to express love and commitment one moment and then act in direct opposition when caught in inner turmoil. This dissonance can be particularly confusing and painful. I draw parallels with childhood experiences to illustrate how quickly feelings can shift, reflecting on the dualities we struggled to comprehend as children and how that same complexity exists in adult relationships. The episode further explores the intersection of logic and emotion in decision-making, underscoring the divergent ways we each approach relationships. Some individuals prioritise rational thinking, while others lean heavily on their emotional instincts. This dissimilarity can lead to misunderstandings about the depth and permanence of feelings, particularly in a breakup scenario. I introduce the idea that although we may feel uniquely connected to our ex-partners, each person's internal experience is vastly different, shaped by their own beliefs, backgrounds, and emotional literacy. Toward the close of our discussion, I address the call to find acceptance in situations where clarity eludes us. I propose shifting perspectives: rather than focusing on our partner's decisions that we may not understand, we should redirect that energy towards our own growth and healing. Releasing the need for definitive answers is a vital step in moving forward. Understanding that our self-worth is not tied to another's choices can be liberating and, ultimately, empowering. This episode serves as a gentle reminder that it’s okay to not have all the answers right away. Instead, I encourage listeners to embrace the ambiguity of life and trust that clarity will come in its own time. The essence of healing lies not in dissecting our past relationships but in focusing on ourselves and our journeys ahead. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing and Transform Your Life /episode/index/show/85871c7a-d3ae-4b42-953a-6815e234caee/id/32568487

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