Breakup to Blessing
Welcome to 'Breakup to Blessing,' the podcast where Sylvia, a breakup and relationship therapist, guides you through the intricate journey of heartbreak and relationships with empathy and expertise. Join her as she explores practical tips, insightful advice, and proven strategies to not only cope with the challenges of heartbreak, but also to discover the path towards healing, personal growth, and building healthy relationships. Tune in for a transformative experience, turning heartbreak into a powerful catalyst for positive change.
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Anxious Attachment: Signs, Triggers, and What to Do Ep. 127
06/24/2025
Anxious Attachment: Signs, Triggers, and What to Do Ep. 127
Are you constantly worried your partner might leave? Do you replay texts, second-guess your worth, or feel like you love harder than others? If so, this episode is for you. This week on Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving deep into anxious attachment — what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes the way you connect with others. I unpack the core fears that drive anxious patterns, including the fear of abandonment, overthinking, people-pleasing, and the need for constant reassurance. I also explore: How anxious attachment develops from early relationship experiences The anxious/avoidant dynamic — and why it feels so magnetic yet painful What an anxious/anxious cycle can look like The subtle but powerful ways anxious attachment shows up in dating and long-term relationships And most importantly: how to start healing from the inside out I’m not giving you cookie-cutter advice — I’m sharing deeper, longer-lasting strategies to build emotional safety within yourself, stop over-functioning in relationships, and move toward secure, grounded love. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a relationship — understanding your attachment style is one of the most transformational things you can do for yourself and your future connections. 💬 If you’re ready to take the next step and want clarity, guidance, or support for the next 6 months of your personal growth or relationship journey, you can book a free one-hour breakthrough session with me by or just DM me the word “breakthrough” on Instagram ✨ Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode, and share this with someone who could use it.
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Avoidant Attachment: Why You Pull Away When Things Get Real Ep. 126
06/16/2025
Avoidant Attachment: Why You Pull Away When Things Get Real Ep. 126
In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving deep into avoidant attachment—what it really looks like, where it comes from, and how it shows up in relationships. If you've ever experienced “the ick,” felt overwhelmed by emotional closeness, or found yourself pushing people away without really knowing why, this one is for you. We explore: The connection between avoidant attachment and the “ick” Why avoidants may idealise partners early and then suddenly devalue them The push-pull cycle of anxious-avoidant relationships (and why it’s so common) How avoidant/avoidant couples often mistake emotional distance for compatibility Practical steps you can take to move toward secure attachment and deeper intimacy Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers self-reflection tools and healing strategies to support your journey toward healthier, more fulfilling connections. 📌 Mentioned Episode: [Episode 37 – What Attachment Style Are You?] (DM me "37" on Instagram if you want the direct link!) Episode 37: Book a free consultation: Emotional labeling practice How to plan vulnerability in conversations Challenging black-and-white thinking Micro-commitments that build emotional safety
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How Your Past Can Hold You Back From Being in a Healthy Relationship Ep. 125
06/08/2025
How Your Past Can Hold You Back From Being in a Healthy Relationship Ep. 125
Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same relationship patterns, even when you know better? Or wondered why certain triggers in love feel so intense—like you’re reliving something old? In this episode, I explore how unresolved past experiences—especially from childhood and previous relationships—can quietly shape the way we show up in love. From emotional triggers to attachment styles, I unpack the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways our past can get in the way of building safe, fulfilling connections. We’ll talk about: The hidden patterns that often go unnoticed Why your nervous system reacts the way it does in relationships Common signs your past might be running the show How to begin breaking free from protective behaviours that no longer serve you This is a reflective, gentle, and honest conversation that invites you to look inward with compassion—not criticism. Whether you’re single, dating, in a relationship, or navigating healing after a breakup, this episode offers insight and hope. 🗝 Key Takeaways: Our earliest relationships shape how we relate, connect, and protect ourselves Emotional triggers in relationships often point to old wounds—not just current problems People-pleasing, avoidance, or hyper-independence are often protective responses Healing is possible through awareness, self-compassion, and safer relationships 💬 Journal Prompts or Reflection Questions: What relationship patterns do I keep repeating? When do I feel most emotionally reactive in love—and what might that be connected to? What would it look like to show up as my authentic self in a relationship? Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free consultation:
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If You Want More Peace, Start Here Ep. 124
06/01/2025
If You Want More Peace, Start Here Ep. 124
In this heartfelt episode, I explore one of the most powerful, yet often overlooked foundations of a meaningful life: emotional health. Whether you're navigating a breakup, parenting, building a business, or simply trying to stay grounded in a chaotic world — this episode is for you. I share my personal journey of learning (sometimes the hard way) that emotional health isn’t just “nice to have” — it’s everything. It's what determines the quality of your relationships, your capacity to grow, and your ability to truly enjoy life. We’ll talk about: What emotional health really means Why it’s the key to showing up as your best self How to start investing in your emotional wellbeing today What happens when we ignore our inner world Practical steps for building emotional resilience and inner peace If you're in a season of change, heartbreak, or simply feeling overwhelmed — this episode will speak directly to your soul. You’ll walk away with insights and tools to start tending to the part of you that truly matters: your emotional self. Take a breath, slow down, and tune in. Your healing begins here. 📝 Mentioned in this episode: Start With Why by Simon Sinek The power of nervous system regulation Signs your emotional health needs attention Tools like therapy, journalling, meditation, boundaries & self-awareness 💛 If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend or leave a review on Apple or Spotify — it helps more people find this work. Join Breakup to Blessing Book a free consultation with Sylvia
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When Life Doesn’t Go to Plan Ep. 123
05/25/2025
When Life Doesn’t Go to Plan Ep. 123
What happens when the life you planned doesn't unfold the way you imagined? Maybe you're not where you thought you'd be by now. Maybe a breakup, job change, or unexpected twist has thrown your story off track. In this episode, we explore the pressure of sticking to life "scripts"—the timelines and plans we think we should follow—and what happens when reality doesn’t match the plan. I share a personal story about how letting go of a rigid idea opened the door to something even better. You'll also hear why clinging to old plans can keep you stuck, and how making space for change can actually lead to more alignment, freedom, and joy. Whether you're grieving a path that didn’t unfold or you're feeling stuck because your life looks different than you imagined, this episode is here to remind you that your worth isn’t tied to a timeline—and that sometimes, the best stories come from the plot twists we never saw coming. In this episode, we cover: Why we cling to life plans—and how that can hold us back What to do when your path changes unexpectedly The importance of checking in with old dreams and seeing if they still fit A reframe for those moments when you feel like you're "behind" How the “wrong” turn can lead you exactly where you need to be If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend, leave a review, or hit follow so you never miss a moment of Breakup to Blessing. Connect with me: Book a free consultation:
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The #1 Reason You’re Still Heartbroken (And How to Finally Heal) Ep. 122
05/18/2025
The #1 Reason You’re Still Heartbroken (And How to Finally Heal) Ep. 122
Heartbreak can feel like an endless cycle – even when you think you’re doing everything right, you still feel stuck. Why does it feel so hard to move on? In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, I’m diving deep into the one thing that quietly keeps you trapped in heartache without you even realising – resistance. Join me as I unpack: 🌿 What resistance really is and the many ways it can show up in your healing journey. 🌿 Why your thoughts, beliefs, and even your well-meaning attempts to heal can actually keep you stuck. 🌿 How to recognise the subtle ways resistance holds you back from peace and acceptance. 🌿 Practical steps to finally release resistance and find true healing. Whether you’re freshly heartbroken or have been struggling for a while, this episode will help you understand why you feel stuck and show you a path toward genuine peace. 🎧 Listen now and take your first step towards letting go and embracing true healing. 👉 If you find this episode helpful, please leave a review or share it with someone who needs it. 👉 Want to work with me one-on-one? Book a free consultation at
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Why We Choose the Wrong Partners (and How to Choose Better) Ep. 121
05/11/2025
Why We Choose the Wrong Partners (and How to Choose Better) Ep. 121
In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, Sylvia dives deep into the patterns behind how we make decisions in our relationships — whether it’s choosing who to date, who to commit to, or even why we stay in relationships longer than we should. Are we being led by logic, or are our emotions quietly in control? Sylvia explains how we often create logical stories to justify emotional decisions, and she helps listeners uncover the hidden patterns that may be guiding them. Key Topics Covered: Logical Stories vs. Emotional Truths: How we convince ourselves our choices are logical when they’re actually driven by fear, insecurity, or unmet needs. Identifying Hidden Patterns: Understanding why you may be drawn to similar types of partners, even when they seem different on the surface. Attachment and Early Influences: How the emotional patterns formed in childhood with caregivers can impact your relationship choices in adulthood, as explained by Andrew Huberman. Recognising Your Own Patterns: A reflective exercise to help you identify your decision-making triggers — is it logic, emotion, or fear? Real-Life Example: The story of a woman who thought she was dating different types of men but realized they all had one thing in common — an inability to provide emotional connection. Making Healthier Decisions: How to challenge the stories you tell yourself and start making relationship choices that are genuinely aligned with your goals and values. Want to Connect with Sylvia? If you’d like to discuss your own situation and get personal insights, you can book a free consultation with Sylvia at .
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Replay: How to Let Go When You Don't Want to Let Go
05/02/2025
Replay: How to Let Go When You Don't Want to Let Go
Letting go can be one of the most painful and confusing parts of a breakup—especially when your heart isn’t ready, even if your head knows it's time. In this replay of one of our most-loved episodes, we explore why letting go is so hard and guide you through practical steps to help you move forward. Whether you're in the middle of heartbreak or still struggling to let go of someone from your past, this episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to support your healing. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why letting go feels so difficult (even when it's necessary) How the no-contact rule works like addiction recovery Powerful tools for emotional regulation and self-reflection How to reframe obsessive thoughts and reclaim your sense of self Ways to build self-worth and cultivate emotional independence How staying present can support long-term healing Key Takeaways: Letting go is an emotional process, not just a logical decision. Acceptance and emotional regulation are essential for healing. Building independence and practicing mindfulness can move you toward peace. Links & Resources: 💔 Join the Breakup to Blessing program: Download the Breakup Journal:
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When Your Mind Won’t Let Go After a Breakup Ep. 119
04/25/2025
When Your Mind Won’t Let Go After a Breakup Ep. 119
In this episode, we’re talking about how to grieve your heartbreak in a way that actually helps you heal—not keeps you stuck. So many of us unknowingly make heartbreak harder by spiraling into painful thoughts and self-blame. We wonder if our ex still thinks about us, obsess over what went wrong, and tell ourselves stories that deepen our pain. But healing doesn't happen in the “what ifs” and “if onlys”—it happens when we come back to us. We’ll explore: Why your brain becomes addicted to the emotional intensity of heartbreak The sneaky ways your thoughts keep you stuck in suffering How to interrupt negative thought loops and rewire your brain for peace Why choosing yourself—again and again—is the most powerful decision you can make Practical steps to let go with self-respect and intention How to create a healing container for your own growth and self-love And if you’re ready for deeper guidance, my Breakup to Blessing program takes you step-by-step through this process with tools, support, and heart-centered coaching to help you move from heartbreak to healing—and into a life you love again. Links & Resources: 🌿 Join the Breakup to Blessing program:
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What Parts of Me Are Asking To Be Healed? Ep. 118
04/18/2025
What Parts of Me Are Asking To Be Healed? Ep. 118
In today’s episode, we’re diving deeper into a question I shared with you in last week’s episode: “What parts of me are asking to be healed?” If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships—over-giving, avoiding conflict, falling too fast, trying to fix others, or keeping people at a distance—this episode is for you. I’ll walk you through five common ways our unhealed parts can show up in love, and I’ll invite you to reflect with some powerful questions to help you get closer to the root of these behaviours. This one’s tender, honest, and deeply validating. It’s not about blame—it’s about self-understanding, self-compassion, and slowly rewriting the stories that no longer serve us. 💬 In This Episode We Explore: The Over-Giver: Why you might feel like you always have to earn love The Conflict Avoider: How silence became your way of staying safe The One Who Falls Fast: The deeper need underneath the intensity The Fixer: When love becomes entangled with responsibility The Distant One: How emotional self-protection can quietly sabotage intimacy Reflective questions to help you meet these parts of yourself with curiosity, not judgment What healing looks like in each of these patterns 📝 Reflective Journal Prompts: What role do I most identify with in relationships—and why? What part of me is trying to feel seen, safe, or worthy through this role? What would it look like to offer myself the love I’m trying to earn from others? Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free consultation:
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When They Say They Don't Love You Anymore Ep. 117
04/06/2025
When They Say They Don't Love You Anymore Ep. 117
Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In today’s episode, we dive into one of the most difficult and confusing experiences in relationships: when your partner says they don’t love you anymore. Whether they say they’ve “fallen out of love,” are “no longer in love,” or just “don’t love you anymore,” it can feel like a sudden and painful blow. This episode explores how to make sense of this news and how to handle the aftermath. We discuss: Why this news often feels like it came out of nowhere. The key questions to ask yourself to heal, grow, and let go—without falling into the trap of self-blame or spiraling into negativity. How to reflect on the reality of your relationship beyond your idealized version of it. Why it’s important to look at patterns in your relationships and how you show up in them. The importance of self-forgiveness and releasing feelings of shame and regret that keep you stuck. A powerful question to ask yourself: What does it look like to choose myself now? This episode is for anyone struggling with a breakup or a partner’s sudden shift in love. Tune in to gain clarity, insight, and a sense of empowerment as you navigate the next steps of your healing journey. Resources: Episode #83: How to Let Go When You Don’t Want to Let Go – Apple: Spotify: Free Consultation: Book a free consultation with me at Join Breakup to Blessing: sylviasuwan.com/program Connect with Us: Instagram:
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Preparing For Your Next Relationship While You're Single Ep. 116
03/30/2025
Preparing For Your Next Relationship While You're Single Ep. 116
Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of Breakup to Blessing! Last week, we talked about second chances in relationships—what it takes to make things work the second time around. But what if getting back together isn’t an option or isn’t what you want? That’s exactly what we’re diving into today. This episode is all about the inner work you can do now, while you're single, to grow into the person you want to be in your future relationships. Because even if there’s no hope for a second chance with your ex, the work you do on yourself today is what sets the foundation for a healthier, more fulfilling relationship down the road. We'll cover: ✅ How to reflect on past mistakes without getting stuck in regret ✅ Why insight alone isn’t enough—and what real growth requires ✅ How to practice new relationship skills before you're in a relationship ✅ The power of letting go of your past identity so you can create a better future If you’ve ever felt frustrated that you’re repeating old patterns despite all the growth you’ve done, this episode is for you. True change happens when you integrate what you've learned into your everyday life—not just in theory, but in practice. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free consultation with Sylvia:
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Second Chances: Do They Really Work? Ep. 115
03/23/2025
Second Chances: Do They Really Work? Ep. 115
In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we dive deep into the topic of second chances in relationships. Whether you’re the one asking for a second chance or you're on the receiving end, there’s an important truth to remember: a second chance only works if something actually changes. Insight alone won’t change behavior. Real change happens when you become someone who can show up differently, especially when it comes to handling conflict and emotional regulation. We explore how emotional reactivity can escalate situations and why learning to pause, regulate, and communicate effectively can transform your relationships. You’ll also hear about the importance of self-awareness, choosing your battles wisely, and understanding when an argument is about connection vs. control. If you’re hoping for a second chance or thinking about giving one, this episode is full of tools and insights to help you make sure it leads to real transformation, not just repeating old patterns. Key Takeaways: Why insight alone isn't enough to create change in a relationship. How emotional regulation and self-awareness play a key role in avoiding conflicts. The importance of pausing and reflecting before reacting in moments of tension. Choosing your battles wisely: how to assess whether an argument is worth having. The essential relationship skills of self-regulation, accountability, and emotional intelligence. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free consult with Sylvia:
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Finding Yourself Again After Heartbreak Ep. 114
03/16/2025
Finding Yourself Again After Heartbreak Ep. 114
In today’s episode of Breakup to Blessing, I’m addressing a question submitted by someone who recently ended a 3-year relationship and is feeling lost and lonely. I also want to extend this conversation to anyone currently in a relationship and feeling disconnected from themselves. It’s common to prioritise others—partners, families, children—and forget what makes us come alive. If that resonates with you, this episode is for you. We’ll explore how to reconnect with yourself after a breakup or in the midst of a relationship where you’ve lost touch with your individual needs and desires. This episode will help you rediscover what makes you feel truly alive, so that you can reestablish a strong connection with yourself and start living authentically again. In this episode, we dive into: Reframing the question from “finding yourself” to “reconnecting with yourself.” Why it's important to revisit your past to rediscover what brought you joy before the relationship. How to identify the things that made you feel most connected to yourself, and how to bring those feelings back into your life today. Practical examples of how to reconnect with activities and passions that made you feel alive. Overcoming the challenge of putting yourself first when you’ve spent years prioritizing others. If you’re navigating a breakup or simply realising it’s time to focus on yourself again, this episode will offer insights and actionable steps to help you on your journey. You don’t need permission to prioritise your own happiness—you’re worthy of it! Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free consultation with Sylvia:
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Are You Dating For Connection or Just The End Goal? Ep. 113
03/10/2025
Are You Dating For Connection or Just The End Goal? Ep. 113
Are you too quick to disqualify people when dating? Or do you stay in relationships longer than you should? In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving into the real questions behind “Is this worth it?”—and how shifting your focus can change your dating experience entirely. We’ll talk about: ✅ The fear of wasting time and how it holds you back ✅ Why focusing on checklists instead of connection can sabotage potential relationships ✅ How detaching from the outcome can actually bring you closer to what you want ✅ Practical ways to engage in the dating process with curiosity, not pressure Plus, I’ll guide you through some key reflections to help you reassess your approach to dating and relationships. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by the dating process or worried about running out of time, this episode is for you. 💡 Want personalised help navigating your relationships? Book a free consultation with me at Join Breakup to Blessing:
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The Life You Want Is One Decision Away Ep. 112
03/02/2025
The Life You Want Is One Decision Away Ep. 112
Hey everyone! Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing. In this episode, I dive into a powerful idea: "You are one decision away from a completely different life." I share two defining moments that shifted my perspective after my divorce and how I realized that I had the power to shape my future. We often live on autopilot, following the path we think we're supposed to take—until something disrupts it. But what if, instead of seeking comfort in the familiar, we embraced the unknown and created a future we actually want? I challenge you: What’s one decision you can make today that could change everything? Let’s break free from limiting beliefs and step into the life we truly desire. In this episode, we explore: ✨ How to stop living on autopilot ✨ The trap of seeking comfort instead of growth ✨ The power of a single decision to reshape your life ✨ A thought-provoking question that changed my entire outlook I'd love to hear from you! What’s the one decision you're making today? DM me on Instagram or email me [email protected] 💫 If you enjoyed this episode, please rate & review—it helps so much! See you next week!
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Why Saying Goodbye Is Harder Than You Think Ep. 111
02/23/2025
Why Saying Goodbye Is Harder Than You Think Ep. 111
Breakups are tough—whether you’re the one ending things or the one being broken up with. But why do so many people struggle to do it clearly and respectfully? In this episode, we’re taking a different perspective: what it’s like for the person initiating the breakup and why communication missteps can leave both people confused and hurt. I’ll explore: ✔️ Why breaking up is hard—even for the person initiating it ✔️ The rise of ghosting and why people avoid difficult conversations ✔️ How to end things with clarity, kindness, and integrity ✔️ What to do after a breakup to heal and move forward ✔️ Insights for those on the receiving end of a breakup If you’ve ever struggled with ending a relationship or been left with unanswered questions after a breakup, this episode is for you. 🔗 Join the conversation: Share your thoughts, experiences, or questions for a future episode! 💬 If you found this helpful, leave a review! Your feedback helps others find the show. 🎧 Listen now and learn how to break up the right way!
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Bonus Valentine’s Day Episode – Finding Strength & Joy No Matter Your Relationship Status Ep. 110
02/13/2025
Bonus Valentine’s Day Episode – Finding Strength & Joy No Matter Your Relationship Status Ep. 110
💔 Feeling down about Valentine’s Day? You’re not alone. Whether you're single, healing from a breakup, or in an unfulfilling relationship, this special bonus episode is here to offer comfort, encouragement, and a fresh perspective. ✨ In this episode, we’ll explore: ✔ How to reframe your thoughts and emotions around Valentine’s Day ✔ Why social media might be making today harder (and what to do instead) ✔ The real foundation of fulfilling relationships—beyond grand gestures ✔ Five powerful self-reflection questions to help you build the love and life you truly deserve ✔ Fun and unexpected hobbies to try (including Neurographic Art and handwriting analysis!) 💡 Remember, your happiness isn’t dependent on a relationship—it’s about creating a life that feels full and meaningful on your own terms. Show Links: Special Offer this week only 50% off Breakup to Blessing: Discount Code: VALENTINE50
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The #1 Reason Your Fights Keep Escalating (And How to Fix It) Ep. 109
02/09/2025
The #1 Reason Your Fights Keep Escalating (And How to Fix It) Ep. 109
In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving into one of the biggest missing pieces in relationship and conflict resolution—emotional regulation. We’ve all been taught communication techniques like “I” statements, active listening, and mirroring, but if you’ve ever tried these strategies and still felt stuck, frustrated, or unheard, you’re not alone. The truth is, no communication skill will work if you’re emotionally dysregulated. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✅ Why emotional regulation is the foundation of healthy communication ✅ Signs that you may be emotionally dysregulated (and what to do about it) ✅ How to stay present and grounded during conflict—without relying on your partner to change ✅ The mindset shifts that turn conflict from a power struggle into an opportunity for deeper connection By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to navigate disagreements with more clarity, confidence, and emotional control. 🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward transforming the way you handle conflict. ✨ Breakup to Blessing is now available as a self-paced course! ✨ If you’re ready to heal, let go, and step into your next chapter with confidence, you can now access my signature program at a lower price—with lifetime access and one private coaching session included. Get started today at or find the link in the show notes. Episode Mentions: What Attachment Style Are You? Pt.1 How To Become More Securely Attached Pt. 2 Connect with me: 🌟 Instagram: 🌟 Join Breakup to Blessing:
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How To Heal Faster - Bringing It Back To Basics Ep. 108
02/02/2025
How To Heal Faster - Bringing It Back To Basics Ep. 108
In this episode, Sylvia brings it back to basics and reminds us of the essential foundations for healing, especially when life feels overwhelming. Whether you're deep into your healing journey or just starting out, sometimes we need a reminder of the most important things to focus on. Sylvia discusses Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and how our basic needs—like food, water, shelter, and emotional safety—must be met before we can progress to higher goals, such as self-actualisation and personal growth. She explains why it's crucial to check in with ourselves to ensure we're addressing these fundamental needs, especially during times of hardship like breakups or major life changes. Along the way, Sylvia touches on how an unhealthy lifestyle—poor diet, lack of exercise, and nutrient deficiencies—can contribute to mental health struggles like anxiety, depression, and stress. She shares practical insights on how simple adjustments to your physical health can have a significant impact on your mental well-being. If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this episode is a reminder to return to the basics. By prioritising your health, security, and emotional well-being, you’ll be in a stronger position to face life’s challenges and continue your healing journey. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free consult with Sylvia:
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If You Feel Like You're Behind In Your Love Life Ep. 107
01/26/2025
If You Feel Like You're Behind In Your Love Life Ep. 107
Have you ever felt like life is passing you by while everyone else seems to be moving forward? In this episode, we dive deep into the feeling of being left behind—whether it's watching friends settle down, pursue their dreams, or take bold steps forward while you feel stuck in the same place. We'll explore why we compare ourselves to others, the biological and social roots of comparison, and how to shift our mindset to use it as motivation instead of discouragement. You'll also hear personal insights from my own journey, including how I reframed my past choices and learned to embrace the season I'm in. We'll discuss practical strategies to help you let go of regret, stop playing catch-up, and focus on building the future you truly want. In this episode, we cover: Why we feel left behind and how comparison plays a role The importance of acknowledging that your life is exactly where it's meant to be How regret can keep you stuck—and how to move past it Practical steps to start living the life you want today Insights from The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying and how they can inspire change Practical steps you can take right now: Start Small: Take one small step towards something you’ve been putting off. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection: Every small step counts. Shift Your Mindset: Reframe comparison as inspiration, not a measure of your worth. Embrace Fear: Growth happens outside your comfort zone. Set Intentions: Think about where you want to be in five years and take action today. Remember, life isn’t a race. You're exactly where you're meant to be, and each day offers a new opportunity to move forward. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book in a free consultation:
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Letting Go Without Closure: Ambiguous Loss Explained Ep. 106
01/19/2025
Letting Go Without Closure: Ambiguous Loss Explained Ep. 106
In today’s episode, we dive deep into the concept of ambiguous loss, a type of grief that doesn’t have the usual clarity, closure, or resolution. Whether you’re dealing with a breakup that ended without answers or a relationship that wasn’t serving you, this episode will help you understand how to navigate that uncertain emotional space. I’ll discuss why ambiguous loss can feel so difficult to process, particularly after a breakup, and offer practical advice on how to manage unresolved emotions and feelings of uncertainty. I’ll also share tips on how to build resilience in the face of ambiguity, from redefining expectations to focusing on personal growth, and how leaning into supportive relationships can help you move forward. If you’ve been stuck in an emotional limbo, unsure of how to grieve a relationship that you know wasn’t right for you, this episode will guide you through embracing the discomfort and finding a path toward healing. ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn: • What ambiguous loss is and how it affects the grieving process • How to manage unresolved emotions and prolonged grief • Practical strategies for building resilience when closure seems out of reach • The importance of redefining expectations and embracing uncertainty • How to use this tough experience as an opportunity for personal growth If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to hit the follow or plus button – it’s the best way to support the show and stay updated on new episodes. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free consultation:
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The 5 Powerful Mindset Shifts To Get Through Painful and Challenging Times Ep. 105
01/12/2025
The 5 Powerful Mindset Shifts To Get Through Painful and Challenging Times Ep. 105
Welcome back to another episode of Breakup to Blessing! I hope you're having a good start to the new year. If you're not, hang in there—you’re doing all you can right now, and that’s enough. In today’s episode, I’m sharing some powerful mindset shifts that helped me navigate some of my own deepest challenges. We’ll talk about the importance of not letting anticipation ruin the present, why embracing change is key to growth, and how to stop thinking there’s only one “right” way to do things. I also explore how we deal with pain and difficult emotions, why it's crucial to learn how to sit with discomfort, and how to break free from the need for control. I also draw parallels between these life lessons and what I’ve been experiencing as a parent to a toddler going through the “terrible twos.” It’s been a reminder of how important emotional regulation is—not just for kids, but for adults too. Finally, I dive into the transformative power of acceptance, especially when faced with situations you can’t control. Finding acceptance may feel impossible at times, but it’s the first step towards healing and growth. If you're going through a tough time right now, whether it’s a breakup, a life setback, or just the overwhelming weight of life’s challenges, I encourage you to tune in. This episode is about how to shift your mindset to navigate life with more strength, clarity, and peace. Key Takeaways: • Why the anticipation of something often feels worse than the actual event. • The power of reframing your thoughts to focus on constructive actions. • How embracing change can lead to unexpected blessings. • The importance of learning to regulate your emotions and deal with pain. • Why letting go of the "right way" opens up possibilities for growth. • How acceptance is the key to moving forward, even in difficult circumstances. Remember: You can create an even better life, no matter what you're going through right now. If you're ready to move forward, this episode is for you. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free Consultation:
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How To Attract The Relationship You Desire Ep. 104
01/05/2025
How To Attract The Relationship You Desire Ep. 104
Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! As we start the new year, it's a great time to focus on growth, self-discovery, and creating the life—and relationship—you truly want. In this episode, I’m sharing practical strategies to help you attract the relationship you’ve been dreaming of. Whether you’re ready to settle down, start a family, or just find someone who aligns with your values, this episode is for you. Here’s what we’ll cover: The most common barriers to finding the right relationship, like a lack of clarity, being overly rigid, or holding onto past hurts. How to shift your mindset to break free from a scarcity mentality and embrace possibility. Practical steps to date with intention and maximise opportunities to meet the right person. Why consistency, self-reflection, and emotional intelligence are key to building meaningful connections. The importance of committing to the journey of finding love, rather than focusing solely on the destination. Dating doesn’t have to feel overwhelming or frustrating. With the right mindset and tools, you can open yourself up to the opportunities that lead to the relationship you’ve been hoping for. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book your free consult:
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Clarify Your Vision for 2025: 5 Steps to Achieving Your Best Year Ep. 103
12/29/2024
Clarify Your Vision for 2025: 5 Steps to Achieving Your Best Year Ep. 103
In this final episode of the year, Sylvia shares a practical and simple 5-step framework to help you start 2025 with clarity and confidence. After offering free strategy sessions to some of her followers, Sylvia wanted to ensure that everyone has the tools to set meaningful goals and create a vision for the year ahead. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to take inventory of your life by reflecting on key areas like relationships, health, career, finances, personal growth, and more. How to identify your priorities and choose what matters most to you in the coming months. The importance of setting clear, achievable goals that are tailored to your needs. A fun exercise to create a vision of your ideal life and activate the power of your brain to help you achieve it. The importance of building accountability to stay on track and ensure progress throughout the year. This framework is designed to help you reflect, plan, and stay committed to your goals in 2025. Whether you're looking to improve your health, career, finances, or personal growth, these tools will guide you every step of the way. Tune in for a fresh start to the new year, and let’s make 2025 your best year yet! Links and Resources: Join Breakup to Blessing: Wishing you a Happy New Year!
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Healing During The Holiday Season Ep. 102
12/22/2024
Healing During The Holiday Season Ep. 102
The holiday season can be one of the most challenging times of the year, especially if you’re navigating heartbreak or on a healing journey. In this episode, I reflect on my own experiences with Christmas during a time of personal struggle and share practical strategies to help you cope during this festive period. We explore: • How to embrace acceptance and move through difficult emotions. • The power of choice and how it can transform unfair or challenging situations. • Why conflicting emotions, like sadness and excitement, can coexist, and how to hold space for both. • How to use the holiday season as an opportunity to reflect, dream, and set intentions for the year ahead. To help you kickstart 2025 with clarity and purpose, I’m offering 10 free strategy sessions for listeners who are serious about creating a better year. During the session, we’ll: • Identify where you are now and clarify your goals. • Define your relationship intentions—whether it’s moving on from an ex, building confidence to date again, or finding a meaningful connection. • Develop actionable steps to achieve your goals throughout the year. This offer is only available for the remainder of the calendar year, so book your spot now via the link in the show notes! Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. No matter how tough things feel now, you’re stronger than you realise, and the best is yet to come. If this episode resonates with you, I’d love to hear from you. Reach out to me on Instagram or email me to share your thoughts or takeaways. Show Links:• Follow me on Instagram:
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Showing Up For Yourself Even On The Hardest Days Ep. 101
12/15/2024
Showing Up For Yourself Even On The Hardest Days Ep. 101
In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re tackling a big question: How do you get yourself to do the hard things, especially when motivation is nowhere to be found? Whether it’s moving forward after a breakup or simply starting your day on the right foot, I’ll share actionable tips to help you push through resistance and build habits that stick. I’ll also get personal about how I’ve been struggling with motivation this week and what I’ve learned from recognising where my brain naturally pulls me toward procrastination and comfort. Together, we’ll explore how to override those instincts and take small, consistent steps toward growth. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: • Why your brain seeks comfort and “safety” instead of growth. • How procrastination and avoidance show up in everyday life (especially during tough times). • A simple framework to break down big goals into small, manageable steps. • Practical tools like the “Pause and Acknowledge” method to help you take action. • The importance of celebrating small wins to build resilience and momentum. If you’re feeling stuck, unmotivated, or overwhelmed—especially in the wake of a breakup—this episode is for you. Learn how to start where you are, take one small step at a time, and build the life you deserve. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book Your Free Consultation:
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100 Episodes: My Top Relationship Lessons That Changed My Life
12/08/2024
100 Episodes: My Top Relationship Lessons That Changed My Life
Welcome to the 100th episode of Breakup to Blessing! I can’t believe we’ve hit this milestone—thank you for being part of this journey. To mark the occasion, I’m sharing the most impactful lessons I’ve learned throughout my life in the realms of dating, relationships, and heartbreak. These lessons come from my personal experiences, and my hope is that they resonate with you. Take what feels helpful, leave what doesn’t, and apply them in a way that fits your life. Here’s what I’ll cover in this episode: Make a Decision and Accept It Fully Learn why embracing your choices—whether in dating or relationships—leads to greater satisfaction and less regret. You Decide Your Happiness How managing expectations and identifying non-negotiables can help you find peace in your relationships. You Are Stronger Than You Think Discover how resilience emerges during life’s toughest challenges, including breakups. Be the Person You Want to Date Attract the right partner by embodying the qualities you’re looking for. Stay Present, Stop Overthinking the Future Avoid losing sight of meaningful connections by being open to what’s unfolding in the moment. Find Peace Where You Are Why true happiness and meaning must come from within, not from external achievements or relationships. It’s Okay to Have Regrets—But Don’t Let Them Define You How to process regret in a way that helps you move forward instead of staying stuck in the past. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: Book a free consultation:
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When Letting Go Feels Like Giving Up Ep. 99
12/01/2024
When Letting Go Feels Like Giving Up Ep. 99
In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we explore a common fear that holds many people back from moving on after a breakup: the belief that letting go means giving up on the possibility of reconciling with an ex. This internal conflict can be paralysing, but today, I’m here to guide you through a healthier mindset. I’ll explain why moving on is not the end of hope but rather the start of personal growth that increases your chances of either reconnecting in a stronger way or finding happiness elsewhere. We’ll dive into the distortions our emotions can create and why genuine healing and independence are essential to building any successful relationship. I also share actionable mantras to help you reframe your thoughts and prioritise your well-being. From embracing the unknown to recognising that true love cannot be forced, these insights are designed to empower you as you move forward with courage and clarity. If you’re feeling stuck between wanting to move on and fearing what it might mean, this episode is for you. Key Takeaways: Letting go doesn’t erase the love or memories. Moving on creates space for mutual growth and healthy relationships. Prioritising your emotional well-being leads to peace and self-discovery. True love is reciprocal and cannot be forced. Embracing the unknown opens doors to opportunities and happiness. Listen now and start building the life you deserve. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing Book a free consult:
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Stop Believing Stories That Hold You Back Ep. 98
11/24/2024
Stop Believing Stories That Hold You Back Ep. 98
In this episode, Sylvia reflects on a life-changing lesson she learned from communications expert Vinh Giang. Inspired by his insights, Sylvia delves into how the beliefs and narratives we hold about ourselves are not fixed and can be changed. Drawing from personal experiences and neuroscience, she explores how our behaviours often stem from old beliefs and how we can consciously break free from them. You'll learn how to identify and challenge limiting beliefs that may be holding you back and discover the power of neuroplasticity—your brain's ability to reorganise itself and create new neural connections. This episode offers practical steps for creating a new narrative, one that aligns with the life you want to live. Key Takeaways: How old beliefs shape your identity and behaviours. The role of neuroplasticity in changing your habits and thought patterns. Tips for breaking free from limiting beliefs and rewriting your story. The power of taking conscious action to create a new future. Show Links: Website: Remember to subscribe, rate, and review if you found this episode helpful! Have a beautiful week, and I'll catch you next time.
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