5 Things For You to Do Immediately After a Breakup Ep. 135
Release Date: 08/17/2025
No Contact Challenge Day 2: Reality vs. Fantasy & Why Grief Isn't Linear
Breakup to Blessing
Are you missing who they actually were, or who you hoped they would become? This is the question that changes everything. In Episode 2 of the 28-Day No Contact Challenge, we get real about the difference between facts and the stories you're telling yourself. We'll explore why some days feel impossibly hard even when you thought you were making progress, and why grief doesn't follow a straight path to healing. What You'll Learn: The difference between missing the person and missing the potential How to separate facts from the story you're hoping is true Why living in delusion keeps you...
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No Contact Challenge Day 1: Why No Contact Works & What Your Brain Is Doing Right Now Ep. 149
Breakup to Blessing
Going through a breakup and can't stop thinking about your ex? Your brain is literally in withdrawal - and understanding why changes everything. In this first episode of the 28-Day No Contact Challenge, I break down the neuroscience behind why breakups feel like physical pain, what's happening in your brain when you can't stop checking their Instagram, and why no contact is the most powerful tool you have for healing. What You'll Learn: The science behind breakup pain (and why you're not weak for struggling) What dopamine withdrawal actually means and how it affects your healing Why any...
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The 28 Day No-Contact Challenge Ep. 148
Breakup to Blessing
I'm so excited to announce something I've been wanting to do for you all—a 28-Day No Contact Challenge starting next Monday. If you've been struggling to maintain no contact on your own, if your resolve keeps wavering, or if you just need support to keep going, this is for you. Over the next 4 weeks, I'm releasing 2 episodes per week to walk you through this journey together. This isn't just about not texting your ex—it's about rediscovering who you are, understanding your patterns, and using this experience as a catalyst for genuine transformation. With the end of the year approaching,...
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Letting Go of Control: How to Stop Forcing Love and Start Trusting Ep. 147
Breakup to Blessing
In this episode, Sylvia explores how our need for control and rigid life plans often block the very love, joy, and opportunities we’re hoping to find. From relationship timelines and dating expectations to the stories we tell ourselves about how things “should” unfold, Sylvia unpacks why flexibility and openness are key to true connection and happiness. Through real-life examples and client stories, she reveals how letting go of rigid beliefs allows life to surprise us in the best possible ways. You’ll learn how to recognize where control is holding you back, how to question the...
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How to be Yourself and Still Be Loved Ep. 146
Breakup to Blessing
In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, we’re diving into one of the most powerful shifts you can make in your relationships — learning the difference between speaking from fear and speaking from true vulnerability. So often, when we feel hurt, rejected, or misunderstood, our words come out as accusations, defenses, or silence. We push the people we love away while desperately wanting them to come closer. But what if there’s another way — one that actually builds trust, intimacy, and safety instead of conflict? In this conversation, I unpack: ✨ The three ways fear-based communication...
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How to Stop Feeling Anxious and Overthinking in Dating and Relationships Ep. 145
Breakup to Blessing
If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake replaying conversations, analysing every text message, or feeling an overwhelming wave of panic that makes you want to pull away from someone you care about — this episode is for you. In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into anxiety in dating and relationships — what it looks like, why it happens, and how to begin healing it. You’ll learn: The hidden ways anxiety shows up in your dating life Why your nervous system reacts as if emotional vulnerability is a threat How to tell the difference between intuition and anxious overthinking ...
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The Five Buckets of Love: Building the Foundation for a Healthy Relationship Ep. 144
Breakup to Blessing
In today’s episode, I’m exploring a concept inspired by Steven Bartlett’s book The Diary of a CEO: 33 Laws of Business and Life — specifically his idea of “The Five Buckets.” When I read this, it instantly clicked for me how perfectly it applies to dating and relationships. Steven’s framework explains how success is built — starting with knowledge and skills, which then create your network, resources, and ultimately your reputation. But what happens when we skip the foundation? When we try to jump to the outcome — the successful career, the perfect relationship — without...
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Breakup Healing Mistakes: Why Gym, Journaling, and Retreats Aren’t Enough Ep. 143
Breakup to Blessing
Are you months or years post-breakup and still feeling worse than the day it happened? You’re not alone. So many people tell me they’re doing all the right things—going to the gym, journaling, talking to friends, maybe even booking a retreat—yet they still feel stuck in pain. In today’s episode of Breakup to Blessing, I’m diving into why actions alone aren’t enough to heal, and what’s really missing when you feel like you’re “ticking all the boxes” but not moving forward. We’ll explore: Why support from friends can sometimes keep you stuck instead of helping you heal....
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Why We Choose Emotionally Unavailable Partners Ep. 142
Breakup to Blessing
Why do we keep getting drawn to partners who can’t give us what we need? In this episode, I explore the fascinating neurological and emotional reasons behind our attraction to emotionally unavailable people. You’ll learn how the same attachment systems that formed in childhood with your caregivers continue to shape your adult romantic relationships—and why rejection or abandonment can feel so overwhelming. I also break down the role of bonding hormones like oxytocin, dopamine-driven reward circuits, and stress regulation systems in how we connect with others. We’ll look at: How your...
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Why You Can't Get Over Your Ex: The Delusion Keeping You Stuck After a Breakup Ep. 140
Breakup to Blessing
When a relationship ends, it’s easy to get stuck in denial—replaying “what ifs,” clinging to hope that your ex will come back, or creating a fantasy that things weren’t as bad as they really were. But staying in this space only delays your healing. In this episode of Breakup to Blessing, I talk about the difference between denial and reality after a breakup, why false hope keeps you stuck, and how facing the truth (even when it hurts) sets you free. You’ll learn: The common signs you’re living in denial after a breakup How denial protects you emotionally—but also keeps you...
info_outlineGoing through a breakup and don't know what to do with yourself? This episode is for you. Whether you're in shock, having a breakdown, or feeling completely detached, all reactions are normal. Instead of the typical breakup advice, I'm sharing 4 practical, actionable steps that will set you up for your next chapter - one that's better than before and intentionally focused on creating your best life.
What You'll Learn
- Why your breakup reaction is normal (and often learned from childhood)
- The 4 unconventional steps to take immediately after a breakup
- How to use this ending as a catalyst for building an amazing life
- Why healing isn't passive and requires intentional work
- How to shift from reactive mode to creative mode
The 4 Steps to Transform Your Breakup
1. Create Your Values List
- Find "values exercises" on Google (takes 5-10 minutes)
- Examples: integrity, loyalty, connection, authenticity, adventure
- Use your values as a compass for all major decisions
- Notice where you're expending energy that doesn't align with who you want to be
2. Complete a Life Wheel Exercise
- Rate 10 life areas on a scale of 1-10 (health, career, finances, relationships, spirituality, etc.)
- Identify which areas have been neglected while focusing on your relationship
- Get an honest assessment to rebuild intentionally
- Focus energy where it will create the most balance and fulfillment
3. Commit to Something Outside Your Comfort Zone
- Choose something that makes you nervous but excited
- Examples: learning to surf, guitar lessons, solo travel, art classes
- Build evidence that you can handle uncertainty and figure things out
- Expand your world instead of shrinking it after a breakup
4. Write Down Your Perfect Day
- Visualize from wake-up to sleep - be detailed
- No limitations based on current circumstances
- Your ex cannot be part of this picture
- Use it as a north star for decision-making
- Ask: "Does this move me closer to or further from my perfect day?"
Key Takeaways
- There's no "right" way to react to a breakup
- Your reaction is likely a coping pattern learned in childhood
- Healing requires intentional work, not just waiting for time to pass
- This breakup is giving you a clean slate and opportunity to rebuild consciously
- People who come out stronger use disruption as a chance to make conscious changes
- You get to choose what to keep and what to leave behind
Resources Mentioned
- Values Exercise: Search "find my values exercises" on Google
- Life Wheel Exercise: Search "life wheel exercise" on Google or book a consultation with Sylvia
- Personal Consultation: DM @sylviasuwan on Instagram for booking link
Connect with Sylvia
- Instagram: @sylviasuwan
- Book a Consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation
Quote to Remember
"The people who come out of breakups stronger, happier, and more fulfilled are the ones who use the disruption as an opportunity to examine their lives and make conscious changes. They're the ones who refuse to just go back to how things were before."