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The Truth About Fornication w/ Dr. Delman Coates

Release Date: 05/28/2025

Faith Deconstruction for Dummies (And Why You’re Not Broken) w/ Dr. Mashaun D. Simon

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

Yes, you heard that correctly: this will be our last AUDIO ONLY release for the foreseeable future. We are at our max capacity for output at the moment, so we will discontinue releasing audio-only episodes until we're in a position to expand our production team. Suscribe to the TFC Virtual YouTube channel for new releases here: Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here: In this episode we discuss what is faith deconstruction—and what isn’t it? In this conversation with Dr. Mashaun D. Simon, author of Faith Deconstruction for Dummies, we unpack why deconstruction is not about abandoning...

Protesting Peace: The Theology Behind Christian Narcissism

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

In this segment, we examine how fundamentalist Christianity can produce theological narcissism—a belief system rooted in superiority, control, and moral absolutism. Using a viral confrontation between a Christian protester and Buddhist monks walking for peace, we unpack how warped theology distorts love, empathy, and accountability. This is a necessary conversation about faith, mental health, and coexistence. This segment comes from the Live Virtual Patreon recording of "Am I the Drama: What Happens when you Stop Deflecting?" Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here: Purchase full-length,...

Are the Christians OK? Because This Is Getting Weird

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

In this episode, we ask the uncomfortable question many people are already thinking: are Christians actually OK? From online outrage and moral panic to certainty, control, and public faith performances, this conversation explores what’s happening to Christianity in real time — and why so many people are walking away from the church. Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here: Purchase full-length, uncensored episodes of the podcast here: Join the Wait List for Kristian's upcoming e-book, "How to Deconstruct," here: Get Merch here: Order Breaking All The Rules here: Apply for a Pay it...

What 2025 Taught Me About Faith, Certainty, and Letting Go | Year in Review

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

In this 2025 Year in Review, the crew reflects on the spiritual, emotional, and theological shifts that reshaped our faith over the past year. From deconstruction and grief to clarity, growth, and deeper questions about God, certainty, and identity, this episode explores what it means to evolve spiritually in real time. If you’re navigating faith changes or rethinking what you believe, this conversation is for you. Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here: Purchase full-length, uncensored episodes of the podcast here: Join the Wait List for Kristian's upcoming e-book, "How to Deconstruct,"...

Your Certainty Is the Idol: The Theology the Church Won’t Confront | Theology of Idolatry

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

In this episode, we unpack the theology of idolatry and how certainty, patriarchy, and supremacy culture shape the way many Christians talk about God. From gendered God-language to rage-driven faith, this conversation exposes how defending beliefs often replaces genuine worship. If you’re navigating deconstruction, reconstruction, or questioning Christian certainty, this episode will hit home. Subscribe for more! Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here: Purchase full-length, uncensored episodes of the podcast here: Join the Wait List for Kristian's upcoming e-book, "How to Deconstruct,"...

Why Yolanda Adams Broke The Internet: God Beyond Gender - BONUS episode

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

In this bonus episode, we break down Yolanda Adams’ now-viral statement that “God is bigger than gender” — and why church folks absolutely lost their minds over it. Kristian is joined by Myron The Mystic, Nikki The Anchor, and Auntie Mazda Miles for this convo. We explore how patriarchy, biblical interpretation, and supremacy culture shape the way people imagine God and why the idea of a non-male God triggers so much rage. If you're interested in theology, liberation, gender, or the modern Black church, this deep dive is for you. Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here: ...

The Theology of Gospel Music w/ Yolanda Adams

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

Join Holy Smokes as we sit down with the legendary Yolanda Adams for an unfiltered conversation about the theology of gospel music, harmful church doctrines, love, identity, and what God really expects from us. We dive into the tension between sound and theology, how sin has been misdefined, and why the people we hate reveal more about us than God. If you've ever wrestled with faith, tradition, or evolving spirituality, this episode will speak directly to your soul. Subscribe for more! Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here: https://www.patreon.com/c/tfcvirtual Purchase full-length,...

From You Made a Way to MAGA: The Travis Greene Reckoning | BONUS EPISODE

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

This bonus episode takes a deep dive into Travis Greene’s controversial sermon denouncing Black Greek organizations and explores how his message connects to a broader rise of Christian nationalism within the Black church. The crew unpacks spiritual bypassing, emotional manipulation, and how prosperity theology has been weaponized against Black institutions. Tune in for a sharp, unfiltered look at the intersections of faith, race, and politics in contemporary church culture. Subscribe to the TFCVirtual Patreon Here: Purchase full-length, uncensored episodes of the podcast here: Join the...

The Theology of Perfectionism | Everything doesn't deserve 100%

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

For generations, the church has told believers, “Be perfect as your Father in heaven is perfect.” But what if Jesus never called us to perfection — only to wholeness? In this powerful conversation, we sit down with Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes to unpack how toxic theology, respectability, and race have shaped our obsession with perfection — and how we can finally get free. This episode of Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality is proudly sponsored by Eden Theological Seminary. Join Eden online or in-person for an unforgettable evening with Dr. Chanequa Walker-Barnes as she delivers her...

When Christianity becomes Anti-Black

Holy Smokes: Cigars and Spirituality

Let's talk about the call for Black Christians to place their Christianity over the Blackness. Let us know what you think in the comments. And Subscribe for more! Subscribe to Patreon Here: Purchase full-length, uncensored episodes of the podcast here: Join the Wait List for Kristian's upcoming e-book, "How to Deconstruct," here: Get Merch here: Order Breaking All The Rules here: 00:00 – “If You Think Your Blackness Has to Pass Away to Follow God…” A bold opening on how anti-Black theology distorts faith. 02:00 – Christian Before Black?! The crew unpacks the growing...

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What if we told you fornication is not what we have been traditionally taught?

What if we told you there are more responsible ways to do sexual ethics?

What if we told you to release the shame and guilt of safe and consensual unmarried sex?

As Dr. Delman Coates will share later, "Sex is not a problem to be solved. It is an appetite to be managed."

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Check out Dr. Coates' political advocacy movement here: https://ourmoneyus.org/

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Episode Chapters

00:00 - Intro & Highlights

05:01 - The Viral Clip about Fornication

08:49 - Sex & The Greatest Commandment

15:30 - Dr. Delman Coates joins us

23:00 - Black Scholarship Matters

30:39 - Dr. Coates' stance on LGBTQ

37:00 - What should I tell my kids?

48:43 - The interpretation of tongues

57:02 - Unpacking "Lean Not to your own understanding."

1:04:50 - Theologian vs Bible Scholar

1:09:15 - How are you navigating politics?

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