EP. 21: Why Can't ADHDers Ever Relax? The Fight-or-Flight Trap That Follows You on Vacation | ADHD with Jenna Free
Release Date: 08/18/2025
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You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Fight or Flight Response 03:24 The Impact of Chronic Stress on Consumption 09:14 Balancing Consumption and Creation 14:35 Finding Fulfillment Through Creation Summary In this episode I explore the effects of the fight or flight response on consumption behaviors. I discuss how these stress responses lead to overconsumption of food, goods, and content as a means of coping. I share the importance of balancing consumption with creation to foster well-being and self-regulation. We wrap this episode encouraging you...
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You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Fawn Response in ADHD 02:59 The Impact of Survival Mode on Relationships 07:07 Breaking Free from the Fawn Response 12:11 Practical Strategies to Overcome People-Pleasing 19:16 Embracing Vulnerability and Taking Up Space Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I explore the often-overlooked fawn response in survival mode. I discuss how this response manifests in behaviors like people-pleasing and avoiding conflict, and how to recognize and address these patterns for regulation and...
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You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Understanding ADHD and Rest 00:49 The Impact of Dysregulation on Enjoyment 04:26 Chronic Fight or Flight and Its Effects 07:44 Challenging Thoughts and Beliefs 11:08 Nervous System Regulation Strategies 13:56 All or Nothing Thinking in Rest 16:35 Finding Balance in Rest and Productivity 19:30 Transitioning Between Tasks 25:51 Overcoming Barriers to Rest Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I dive into rest and ADHD, exploring the struggle between dysregulation and the ability to relax. I get into how...
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Learn more about the ADHD, Regulation and Intuitive Eating workshop here - You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Understanding ADHD Regulation 05:25 Dysregulation and Emotional Responses 08:39 The Impact of Fight or Flight on ADHD 11:30 The Theory of ADHD Regulation 14:32 The Dysregulation Cycle 17:16 Finding Balance in Regulation 20:17 Three Types of Regulation 23:07 The Path to a Regulated Life Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I discuss the complexities of ADHD regulation, diving into the dysregulation cycle and the impact of being in...
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Check out the ADHD and Intuitive Eating workshop here - You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Introduction to ADHD and Food Relationships 04:29 Understanding Unhealthy Relationships with Food 09:47 My Personal Journey with Food and ADHD 15:58 Principles of Intuitive Eating 21:36 The Role of Dysregulation in Eating Habits 24:36 Workshop Announcement!! Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I discuss the complex relationship between ADHD and food. I dive into the challenges faced by ADHDers regarding their eating habits, including unhealthy...
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Check out ADHD Groups here - You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Understanding Negative Self-Talk in ADHD 04:00 The Impact of Negative Self-Talk on Regulation 07:26 Shifting from Negative to Neutral Self-Talk 12:01 Learning from Mistakes and Reflection 16:51 Embracing a Kinder Inner Dialogue Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I discuss the pervasive negative self-talk among ADHDers. I explore the reasons behind this, and share how it stems from a dysregulated state and serves as a misguided defense mechanism. I provide practical...
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Get your spot in the Free ADHD Beliefs Workshop here - You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Understanding ADHD and Money 02:16 Survival Mode and Short-Term Thinking 03:39 Shopping as a Coping Mechanism 10:27 The Rush and Its Impact on Spending 13:17 Dysregulation and Financial Avoidance 18:29 Facing Financial Discomfort 23:44 Balancing Short-Term and Long-Term Goals Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I discuss the complex relationship between ADHD and money management from a dysregulation lens. I explore how ADHD (particularly...
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Grab your spot in "The ADHD Beliefs Keeping You Stuck in Survival Mode" Workshop - You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Understanding Dysregulation in ADHD 07:21 The Three Layers of Regulation 19:27 Shifting from Scarcity to Abundance 28:12 The Importance of Relaxation Summary In this episode, we explore the connection between dysregulation and ADHD, emphasizing the importance of addressing both the nervous system and belief systems to improve overall well-being. I dive into common beliefs that contribute to dysregulation, such as "I' m behind and I need to catch...
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You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 External Regulation Tools for ADHD 03:45 Slowing Down Household Dynamics 07:01 The Power of a Calendar 09:43 Managing Social Media and Scrolling 13:28 The Importance of Breaks 16:58 Implementing Changes Gradually Summary In this episode, I dive into 6 external tools and strategies for managing ADHD, focusing on how to create a more regulated environment. I emphasize the importance of slowing down schedules, simplifying household dynamics, utilizing calendars effectively, managing social media use, listening to one's body for...
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You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - Chapters 00:00 Understanding Prioritization and Executive Dysfunction 05:42 Dysregulation and the Challenge of Prioritization 14:07 Accepting Consequences of Prioritization 19:20 The Importance of Decision-Making 28:41 Regulation as the Key to Effective Prioritization Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I explore the complexities of prioritization, particularly for us with ADHD. I highlight the role of dysregulation in decision-making and the necessity of accepting the consequences of our choices. By understanding the...
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Chapters
00:00 Understanding ADHD and Rest
00:49 The Impact of Dysregulation on Enjoyment
04:26 Chronic Fight or Flight and Its Effects
07:44 Challenging Thoughts and Beliefs
11:08 Nervous System Regulation Strategies
13:56 All or Nothing Thinking in Rest
16:35 Finding Balance in Rest and Productivity
19:30 Transitioning Between Tasks
25:51 Overcoming Barriers to Rest
Summary
In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I dive into rest and ADHD, exploring the struggle between dysregulation and the ability to relax. I get into how external factors often get blamed for difficulties in resting, while the real issues may lie within our thoughts, beliefs, and nervous system regulation. I talk about how to challenge all-or-nothing thinking, the importance of finding balance in daily life, and practical strategies for achieving a more regulated state that allows for genuine enjoyment and rest.
Takeaways
- Rest is often hard for those with ADHD due to dysregulation.
- Chronic fight or flight states hinder relaxation.
- External factors are not the sole cause of our inability to rest.
- Nervous system regulation is crucial for relaxation.
- Slowing down can help manage dysregulation.
- All or nothing thinking can prevent effective rest.
- Regulated rest is about balance, not extremes.
- Rest should be integrated into daily life, not seen as a reward.
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