58.Unlocking Sexual Passion: Dr. Snyder’s Approach to Intimacy
Release Date: 10/28/2025
Undressing Intimacy
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In episode 68, we kick off the new year by reflecting on a rejuvenating holiday in Sedona, Arizona, and delve into the transformative power of rituals in marriage. Inspired by Esther Perel's work, we explore the significance of balancing the domestic and erotic aspects of life with actionable advice for creating meaningful rituals. We share personal stories, including our journey from routine to ritual in various aspects of our relationship, offering insights into how these practices foster deeper connections and intimacy. Join us in discovering ways to make 2026 the year of enriched...
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In this episode, we explore the intriguing connections between human and horse nervous systems, particularly the limbic brain. We discuss how calming the limbic system enhances human and horse interactions, making horse riding a more connected and intuitive experience. Reflecting on personal stories and recent articles, we delve into the significance of regulating emotions for deeper connections in marriages and intimate relationships. Join us as we share insights on calming practices, the importance of daily rituals, and how understanding the limbic brain can transform relationships.
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In episode 66, we dive deep into the topic of body image issues and how they impact intimacy and self-worth. Amy, despite being under the weather, joins us as we explore the emotional and mental barriers women face about their bodies. We discuss how societal expectations and personal criticism often lead to a disconnect from the body and its pleasures. Through personal anecdotes, we share the journey of waking up to one's desires and learning to embody sensuality. We also highlight the importance of a supportive partner in this journey. Join us as we unravel the complexities of body image and...
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In episode 65, we delve into the phenomena of couples fighting more during the high-stress holiday season. We discuss the importance of physical touch and connection to replenish emotional bandwidth and reset the nervous system. Through personal anecdotes, we underscore the need for grounding moments of holding each other without any expectations. We explore the concept of being on the same team, learning to coexist with differences, and the role of non-demanding physical touch in maintaining emotional intimacy. Tune in to understand how to navigate holiday stress and fortify your intimate...
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Welcome to episode 63! In this episode, we discuss the importance of balancing domestic work and erotic passion in a marriage. Reflecting on our and personal experiences, we talk about the invisible labor and mental load often carried in relationships, especially during the holiday season. We emphasize open communication, partnership, and checking egos to create a thriving marriage. Join us as we unpack these dynamics and share tips for fostering intimacy and teamwork during challenging times.
info_outlineIn episode 58, we welcome Dr. Stephen Snyder, one of America's leading authorities on sex and relationships. Dr. Snyder, an associate clinical professor of psychiatry at Mount Sinai in New York City, shares his expert insights on maintaining passion and intimacy in long-term relationships. We discuss key concepts from his book 'Love Worth Making,' including the importance of transitioning from a state of doing to awareness, the benefits of 'lazy sex,' and why passion in sex comes from a healthy kind of selfishness. Tune in as we explore how couples can foster intimacy by being present in their bodies and focusing on mutual enjoyment rather than solely on the goal of orgasm. You can find Dr Snyder @ https://sexualityresource.com/ and don't forget to go and order his book it is highly recommended.