Episode 43: What People-Pleasing Does to the Betrayed Partner

People pleasing can be described as the tendency to prioritize others’ needs over your own, often driven by fear of rejection or a need for validation.

In marriages or relationships, this can mean:  
o Constantly putting family, friends, or co-workers first.
o Leaving the primary partner, aka the betrayed partner, feeling like an afterthought.

Post infidelity, people pleasing is not only difficult but toxic for the entire recovery process. 

It often times feels like yet another betrayal to the betrayed partner.  

When an unfaithful partner prioritizes pleasing others outside the primary relationship, the betrayed
partner who doesn't people-please can experience significant emotional and relational harm,
including resentment, distrust, and loss of intimacy, as their needs and boundaries are
consistently disregarded.  This not only undermines all efforts at restoration, but continues to leave the betrayed partner confused and lost in the aftermath of not only the initial affair, but the feelings of isolation, despair and insignificance due to the unfaithful refusing to prioritize the betrayed above all others.  

The simple truth is, it doesn't need to be this way.  

We hope today not only validates the betrayed but gives words to feelings possibly never expressed.  
For you the unfaithful, listen carefully as we talk through how your actions can make things worse, not better.  And.....know that there is a better way. 

To Healing, 

James and Sam

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