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The VISOR Method: A Values-Led Framework for Meaningful Goal-Setting

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Release Date: 01/12/2026

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Most of us don’t struggle with setting goals, we struggle with sticking to them.

And when that happens, it’s easy to assume the problem is us: a lack of discipline, motivation, or follow-through. But often, the issue isn’t the person, it’s the approach.

In this episode, I’m sharing the VISOR Method, a values-led framework I use to set goals that actually feel aligned, sustainable, and supportive of real life. Instead of pushing harder or doing more, VISOR helps you slow down, get clear, and create goals rooted in self-respect rather than pressure.

This episode is for you if traditional goal-setting has ever felt overwhelming, disconnected, or discouraging and you’re ready for a more thoughtful way forward.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

  • Why traditional goal-setting often falls short

  • How values create a stronger foundation for meaningful goals

  • What the VISOR Method is and how it works

  • How to narrow your focus without limiting your growth

  • Why re-evaluating goals is a sign of awareness

  • How to set goals that support your life instead of fighting it

VISOR is a simple framework you can return to again and again:

  • V — Values: Clarifying what truly matters in this season of life

  • I — Identify & Narrow: Focusing on the areas that will create the most meaningful change

  • S — Set Tangible Goals: Creating clear, realistic goals you can orient toward

  • O — Objectives: Mapping out supportive steps that fit your real capacity

  • R — Re-evaluate: Adjusting goals with honesty and compassion as life shifts

Free Resource: VISOR Workbook

If this framework resonates, I’ve created a guided VISOR workbook that walks you through each step of the process in a gentle, direct, and supportive way.

You can download it and work through it at your own pace here:
👉 [Link to VISOR workbook]

In the next episode, we’ll explore the tension between accepting ourselves as we are and wanting to change, digging into why growth rooted in self-criticism so often backfires.

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