Episode 12- Useful Fighting: Turning Conflict into Connection
Release Date: 06/15/2025
Episode 12- Useful Fighting: Turning Conflict into Connection
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In this episode of The Spice of Wife Podcast, we dive into the truth about fighting in marriage — not all conflict is bad, but how we fight matters. I share a real, raw story of a couple on the brink and breaks down what made their fights destructive vs. what ultimately helped them reconnect. Learn why avoiding fights can be more dangerous than having them, how to tell when you're in a "high emotion, low logic" state, and what it means to fight fair with love, regulation, and self-awareness. You’ll Walk Away With: How to recognize useful vs. unhelpful fighting The 4 Spice of Wife...
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Episode 11- Go Dark to Grow Light: How to Heal the Hard Parts of Your Marriage
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In today’s episode, we explore one of the most powerful — and uncomfortable — truths in marriage: What we avoid doesn’t go away. It grows. Whether it’s mismatched sex drives, money conflicts, broken trust, or parenting tension, there’s often a part of your marriage you’ve quietly decided to tiptoe around. It seems safer. Less disruptive. But over time, that “unspoken space” starts to take up more emotional real estate — leaving you tired, resentful, and disconnected. Join me as I share: A personal story about public speaking and “dark corners” in the crowd What bees...
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Episode 10-The Poison of Comparison: Why It’s Stealing the Joy from Your Marriage
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This week, we’re getting brutally honest about something that quietly erodes connection, intimacy, and self-worth: comparison. Whether you’re sizing up your husband, your marriage, or your entire life next to someone else’s, comparison never leads where you think it will. It doesn’t make you happier, more grateful, or more connected. It makes you doubt yourself, push harder, or pull away. In this powerful and personal episode, you’ll hear: How comparison shows up in marriage (and motherhood) in sneaky ways Why your brain turns to comparison as a survival strategy The two traps...
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Episode 9-Letting Go of Control: How Trust Creates Real Safety in Marriage
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Episode 8- Questioning Marriage: A Path to Deeper Connection
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Episode 7- From Codependency to Co-Regulation: A New Way to Wife
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Episode 6- Marriage Ecosystem: Cultivating a Thriving Partnership
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Do you ever feel like your marriage is two people trying to share a canoe with no paddles in opposite directions? Yeah, same. Today I'm sharing one shift in perspective that completely changed the way I show up in my marriage. And honestly, it's not what you think. It's simple, it's powerful, and no, it doesn't involve better communication skills or planning more date nights. Although plus those two, if you've ever wondered, is it supposed to feel this hard, or why does it seem like we're working against each other instead of together? This episode is for you. Get ready for a fresh take...
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Episode 5-Loving the Opposite: How Differences in Marriage Can Deepen Connection
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Episode 4- Reclaiming Your Power in Marriage: Why Trying to Fix Your Husband Isn't the Fix
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Episode 3- You Already Know: Becoming The Expert in Your Own Marriage
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Welcome to Episode 3: You Already Know: Becoming The Expert in Your Own Marriage In this episode, host Brooke Sann explores the concept of trusting one's inner voice and becoming the expert in one's own marriage. The podcast discusses how societal and familial dynamics often lead us to seek validation and expertise from others, but argues that the best advice may already lie within us. You will learn about : Personal stories and client experiences to illustrate the importance of self-trust and inner wisdom. Practical steps to connect with one's inner compass are provided, including...
info_outlineIn this episode of The Spice of Wife Podcast, we dive into the truth about fighting in marriage — not all conflict is bad, but how we fight matters. I share a real, raw story of a couple on the brink and breaks down what made their fights destructive vs. what ultimately helped them reconnect. Learn why avoiding fights can be more dangerous than having them, how to tell when you're in a "high emotion, low logic" state, and what it means to fight fair with love, regulation, and self-awareness.
You’ll Walk Away With:
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How to recognize useful vs. unhelpful fighting
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The 4 Spice of Wife types and how they show up in conflict
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The role of dysregulation in recurring arguments
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How to identify what's really driving your fights (it’s not about the dishes)
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Simple tools to self-regulate before engaging in conflict
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A new perspective on fighting as a path to connection, not division
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You will learn how to let go of resentment and instead learn to love your man fiercely or love yourself enough to leave. All the while crying, laughing and connecting through the real raw messy parts of life because well, this is the spice of wife.