I'm Turning 37!! My Top 5 Lessons From 36- Ep 45
Release Date: 07/24/2025
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info_outlineEpisode Highlights: It's my birthday, 9 year in numerology, ending of lessons and patterns, honouring your truth, finding love, building a business, true freedom, personal growth, self-reflection, life lessons, communication, self-love, prioritization, mental health, relationships, numerology
Summary:
In this birthday episode, Minh-Thu Lam reflects on her transformative year at 36, sharing key lessons learned about self-love, communication, and prioritization. She emphasizes the importance of speaking one's truth, simplifying life goals, and recognizing that no one else is as invested in our personal goals as we are. Minh-Thu also discusses how the quality of our relationships reflects our self-love and the necessity of choosing oneself for a fulfilling life. The conversation concludes with a reminder that growth is a continuous journey of asking questions and living the answers.
Takeaways:
Thirty-six was a year of significant personal growth.
Speaking your truth is essential for healthy relationships.
Simplifying goals leads to greater inner peace.
No one cares about your goals as much as you do.
Self-love is reflected in the quality of your relationships.
Choosing yourself leads to a better life.
Life is about the journey, not just the destination.
You can start making changes today, no matter the date.
Growth involves both asking questions and living the answers.
Your experiences shape your understanding of self-worth.
Chapters
00:00 Celebrating 37 Years: A Personal Reflection
02:51 Lessons from Year 36: Embracing Change and Growth
05:43 The Power of Speaking Your Truth
11:51 Simplifying Goals for Greater Focus
18:06 Understanding Self-Worth Through Relationships
23:50 Choosing Yourself: The Key to a Fulfilling Life
30:04 The Journey of Growth: Questions and Answers
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