"Vulnerability Makes Me Good At My Job": Healing Burn Out w/Shelby Harvey- Ep 49
Release Date: 08/21/2025
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The Higher Alignment Podcast
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info_outlineEpisode Highlights: healing burnout, creative expression, self-acceptance, mental health, emotional regulation, people pleasing, vulnerability, life coaching, personal growth, boundaries
Summary:
In this episode of the Higher Alignment Podcast, Minh-Thu Lam sits down with Shelby Harvey, a creative agency owner who knows firsthand what it’s like to hit burnout and find your way back. Shelby gets real about the pressures of the creative industry, the struggle to set boundaries, and how learning to accept yourself changes everything. They talk about the messy but powerful process of slowing down, caring for yourself, and choosing balance over constant hustle. If you’ve ever felt stretched too thin or stuck in survival mode, this conversation will remind you that putting yourself first isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.
Takeaways:
Recognizing burnout is crucial for personal and professional growth.
Cynicism can stem from burnout and affect self-perception.
Setting boundaries is essential for mental health and well-being.
Vulnerability is a strength that enhances creativity and connection.
Caring about work and relationships is vital for success.
Life changes require flexibility in routines and expectations.
People-pleasing can lead to burnout and dissatisfaction.
Self-acceptance is key to personal growth and happiness.
Coaching can provide valuable tools for navigating life's challenges.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Awkward Moments
01:17 Shelby's Journey into Creative Agency
02:05 Burnout and Its Impact on Life
04:26 Recognizing Burnout and Seeking Help
07:45 Cynicism and Self-Perception
10:24 The Process of Regaining Control
13:30 Navigating Relationships and Boundaries
16:26 The Importance of Self-Prioritization
21:03 The Journey of Unlearning People-Pleasing
24:24 Finding Balance in High Performance
28:09 The Power of Vulnerability and Self-Acceptance
40:22 Embracing Emotions for Creative Success
48:58 The Shift from Overthinking to Clarity
01:01:49 Commitment to Personal Growth and Healing
Links mentioned in this episode:
To Learn more about the Higher Alignment Program or to book your complimentary connection call go to http://higheralignmentconsulting.com/program/
The REAL Reason You’re Burnt Out (video)- https://higheralignmentconsulting.com/the-real-reason-youre-burnt-out/
Click Here to take the Quiz- Is my Burnout Fixable? https://higheralignmentconsulting.scoreapp.com
Follow Minh-Thu on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/minh-thulam/
Follow Minh-Thu on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/minhthu_lam/
Follow Shelby on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shelbyharvey/
Shelby's Agency: https://www.bythecreatives.co