Ep. 98 It's Time to Make Promises to Yourself
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As people pleasers, we’re often incredibly reliable for everyone else — but not for ourselves. In this episode, we talk about why keeping promises to yourself matters more than you think, how self-trust is built through follow-through, and why the smallest commitments are often the most powerful. This isn’t about discipline for productivity. It’s about honoring your needs, rebuilding trust with yourself, and learning that choosing yourself is safe. Key Takeaways Self-trust is built by keeping your word to yourself Small promises matter more than big goals Motivation fades, but...
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Ep. 97 It's Time to Reflect
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New Year’s Eve can feel heavy. Or meaningful. Or like nothing at all. But for a lot of high achievers and people pleasers, this time of year brings pressure, comparison, and the quiet question of “Did I do enough?” In this episode, I talk about reflecting on the year in a way that feels supportive instead of performative. Not through highlight reels, productivity metrics, or goals you should have—but by honoring your real life. The small moments. The hard seasons. The ways you survived, rested, and chose yourself, even when no one else saw it. This is an invitation to move into the...
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Ep. 96 It's Time to Own Your Accomplishments
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This episode is an honest, vulnerable reflection on a race that was emotional, challenging, humbling, and surprisingly complicated to process afterward. From the weight of six months of training, to the mental battles that showed up mid-race, to the quiet grief of missing a goal you worked so hard for, I’m sharing what it was really like — both during the miles and after the medal. I talk about the pressure we put on ourselves as high achievers, how easy it is to downplay our accomplishments, and why missing a goal can make it feel impossible to be proud of ourselves. This isn’t a story...
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Ep. 95 It's Time to Take Imperfect Action
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Stop waiting for the perfect plan and start taking imperfect action. In this episode, I’m sharing the hard truth about avoidance, overthinking, and the pressure to get everything just right. If you’ve ever waited for the “perfect energy,” the “perfect mood,” or the “perfect plan” before taking action, you’re not alone. This episode discusses how uncomfortable tasks feel impossible, how procrastination fuels guilt and shame, and what happens when we wait so long that opportunities slip away. If you struggle with perfectionism, high expectations, or the fear of looking silly,...
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Ep. 94 It's Time to Let Go
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Letting go is hard, and it's necessary. In this episode, we’re talking about the things we hold on to even when they’re no longer serving us — stuff, relationships, control and expectations. If you’re someone who tends to hold on “just in case,” because you don’t want to disappoint anyone, or you don't feel deserving of more, this episode is for you. You’ll learn: ✨ Why letting go is necessary before receiving more ✨ The fears that keep us stuck (and how to move through them) ✨ Five key areas to start releasing — today ✨ How letting go can benefit you and the people...
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Ep. 93 The Power of Self-Worth
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Do you ever feel like you have to earn your worth through achievements, approval, or perfection? Do you tie your value to how much you do for others, or how well you perform? In this episode, I dive into the difference between self-love and self-worth, and why true fulfillment can’t exist without a deep belief that you are enough, just as you are. I share my own struggles with wanting to belong and how people-pleasing, perfectionism, and overachieving left me chasing validation instead of feeling worthy. We’ll also explore the connection between worthiness and fulfillment — and how to...
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Ep. 92 Self-love Isn't Selfish
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Does the idea of self-love make you cringe? Do you catch yourself thinking, “I’ll love myself when I’ve earned it” or “I need to be perfect to matter”? In this episode, I share my personal journey with self-love — why it’s so hard for people pleasers, why unconditional self-love is a game-changer, and how dropping the shoulds can help you finally honor yourself. I also share practical tips you can start using today, including: Practicing self-compassion Affirming yourself daily Setting small boundaries Celebrating wins, big or small Checking your yes before giving it...
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Ep. 91 Why Not You
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Do you have a goal or vision for yourself that seems our of reach? Do you ask yourself, 'who am I to have this?' or 'why me?' - Well, why not you? In this episode, I share my struggles of carrying out my vision and discuss five things that tend to keep us stuck. If you have something that's been tugging at your heart and you question, why me? I hope that this episode helps you realize why not you. Connect with me, Ariel Vaughan: Instagram: Instagram: For more, visit:
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Ep. 90 It's Time to Feel Your Feelings
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In this episode of 'It's Time to Be You,' we’re diving into a topic that’s at the heart of personal growth—feeling your feelings. So many of us have learned to push our emotions aside, to keep moving forward without really acknowledging what’s going on inside. But truly embracing who we are means allowing ourselves to experience the full range of our feelings—joy, sadness, anger, fear, and everything in between. This episode is all about giving yourself permission to feel, without judgment or shame. Feelings are uncomfortable, and if we just sit with them for 90 seconds, it can be...
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Ep. 89 It's Time to Ask for Help
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In this episode of 'It's Time to Be You,' I'm diving deep into a topic that hits home for many of us people pleasers—asking for help. Asking for help is not easy, and as we are stepping into our authentic selves, it's necessary. This episode is all about challenging the belief that we must do everything alone and recognizing that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. I'll be talking through the importance of support from friends, family, mentors, and therapists, and how letting others in is a crucial part of embracing who we truly are. Join me as we explore this transformative...
info_outlineThe journey from people pleasing to living life on your terms is going to require some changes. And the ability to change starts with making a decision.
To help us put ourselves first, we need to decide to love ourselves, to choose ourselves and to believe in ourselves.
When we make that decision to put ourselves first, we stop focusing on external approval, we stop worrying about what other people think and we stop worrying about pleasing everyone else.
Debbie Freeman joins us for this episode to share her journey of having a succcesful career as a performer, entrepreneur and dance captain of the Radio City Rockettes, to losing everything when she went through a divorce with an addict to making the choice to take back her life, lose 100 pounds and become Ms. Nevada at the age of 51.
In this episode we discuss:
- The power of making a decision
- Accepting your imperfections
- Understanding it's not about what other people think
- Knowing your self worth
- Your unique sparkle
- Choosing yourself
Connect with Debbie Freeman:
Instagram: @youruniquesparkle
Facebook: Your Unique Sparkle
Podcast: Your Unique Sparkle (I'm a guest on episode 76 - People Pleasing and How to Show Up For Yourself!)
Email: youruniquesparkle@gmail.com
Self Sabotage - Reignite Your Sparkle Ebook - https://designrr.site?i=jn7b&t=ad573f&f=1
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