Ep 6: What Happens When You Stop Rejecting Yourself (The Tools: The Shadow)
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What if the parts of you that feel most shameful, rejected, or unworthy are not obstacles — but gatekeepers? In this final episode of Season 1 of Question Yourself, we conclude our exploration of The Tools with the work that challenged us the most: The Shadow. After nearly giving up on this practice altogether, a breakthrough conversation leads us to psychotherapist and coach Kristan Sargeant, who helps us understand why every human develops a hidden, protective part — and how that part can quietly shape our beliefs, relationships, and sense of self long after the original wounds have...
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Ep 5: How Your Rejected Self Runs the Show (The Tools: The Shadow)
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How facing your most rejected self can free your most authentic one. What if the part of you you’ve spent your whole life hiding — the one you feel ashamed of, embarrassed by, or unworthy of — was actually the key to your confidence and freedom? In this moving episode of Question Yourself, Bethany and Diane explore The Shadow — one of the most personal and confronting Tools from Phil Stutz’s groundbreaking framework. Joined by professional coach Patrick Kelley, they unpack what the Shadow really is, how it quietly shapes our choices and relationships, and how to begin bringing it...
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Ep 4: How to Fight Your Inner Saboteur (The Tools: Cosmic Rage)
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Learn how to recognize and push back against “Part X”—the self-destructive force inside you—with Phil Stutz’s powerful tool, Cosmic Rage. In this episode of Question Yourself, Diane Leja and Bethany Meloche introduce you to Part X—Phil Stutz’s name for the negative force inside us that whispers “you’re not good enough” and tries to sabotage our growth. You’ll discover how to spot your own Part X and why you can’t simply think it away or negotiate with it. For Bethany, it takes the form of a grumpy old man named Stefan—always sighing, muttering, and insisting she...
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Ep 3: Gratitude That Feels Real (Bonus)
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How to move beyond shallow lists and discover authentic gratitude Gratitude is everywhere these days—gratitude lists, dinner table rituals, affirmations. But what if those practices feel forced, shallow, or even dismissive of your real struggles? In this bonus episode, Bethany and Diane unpack the science and soul of gratitude—why it matters, how it can go wrong, and how to access the kind of gratitude that actually changes how you feel. You’ll hear why our brains are wired to take things for granted, what researchers have discovered about the health benefits of true gratitude, and how...
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Ep 2: How to Let Go of Anger (The Tools: Active Love)
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What if the way out of resentment isn’t punishment, but love? In this episode, we explore The Tools: Active Love—a practice to free yourself from rage, grudges, and the endless replay of injustice. In this episode of Question Yourself, Diane Leja and Bethany Meloche introduce Active Love, the second tool in Phil Stutz’s The Tools. Designed to break the cycle of resentment and release you from what Stutz calls “the Maze,” Active Love is a simple yet radical practice: sending love to those who’ve wronged you. It’s not about excusing bad behavior or letting people off the hook....
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Ep 1: How to Stop Avoiding What Scares You (The Tools: Reversal of Desire)
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What if pain isn’t the enemy, but the path forward? In this episode, we explore The Tools: Reversal of Desire and how it can help you break through avoidance and move toward freedom. In our first episode of Question Yourself, Diane Leja and Bethany Meloche introduce themselves and the journey that led them to self-inquiry. Then they dive into a powerful practice from Phil Stutz’s The Tools — the Reversal of Desire. This simple yet radical exercise flips our instinct to avoid discomfort. Instead of running from pain, it shows us how to move through it and come out the other side with...
info_outlineHow to move beyond shallow lists and discover authentic gratitude
Gratitude is everywhere these days—gratitude lists, dinner table rituals, affirmations. But what if those practices feel forced, shallow, or even dismissive of your real struggles? In this bonus episode, Bethany and Diane unpack the science and soul of gratitude—why it matters, how it can go wrong, and how to access the kind of gratitude that actually changes how you feel.
You’ll hear why our brains are wired to take things for granted, what researchers have discovered about the health benefits of true gratitude, and how to avoid “toxic gratitude” that denies your genuine emotions. Bethany shares her simple (and slightly quirky) practice of imagining life without everyday comforts—like socks or blankets—to spark authentic appreciation.
Whether you’re skeptical of gratitude practices or looking to deepen your own, this episode offers a grounded, practical way to reconnect with joy, contentment, and awe.