S18 E19 - Friendship in the Lord: What Friendship Means (Chapters 1 & 2)
Release Date: 07/13/2026
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on the ways God invites us to grow through the relationships He has entrusted to us. We talk about the importance of rightly ordered love, why true friendship always draws our gaze toward Christ, and the beauty of virtuous friendships between men and women. We also talk honestly about the fears, wounds, and misunderstandings that can arise in friendship, and the importance of repair in deepening a friendship. Friendship is not about finding someone to complete us, but about walking together toward holiness while...
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In this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on what it means to be truly known, deeply loved, and fully at home with another. We talk about why we must first learn to abide in the love of God, how appreciation helps others become who they were created to be, and what it looks like to grow in friendship over time. Whether friendship feels life-giving or challenging in this season of your life, we invite you to bring every desire, wound, and longing before the Lord, who first calls you His friend. Announcement: You can buy your copy of...
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info_outlineIn this episode, we continue our book study on Friendship in the Lord and reflect on what it means to be truly known, deeply loved, and fully at home with another. We talk about why we must first learn to abide in the love of God, how appreciation helps others become who they were created to be, and what it looks like to grow in friendship over time. Whether friendship feels life-giving or challenging in this season of your life, we invite you to bring every desire, wound, and longing before the Lord, who first calls you His friend.
Announcement:
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You can buy your copy of Friendship in the Lord from Ave Maria Press (or Amazon).
Journal Questions:
- How is the Lord inviting me to cultivate deeper community where I live?
- Where in my life am I trying to love others without being in communion with God?
- Am I truly allowing the love of Christ to come out within a community?
- Am I at home with the Lord?
- How have I been possessive of my relationships within my community?
- When have I experienced belonging within community?
- How can I create more reverent space in my relationships to allow others to become?
Discussion Questions:
- How is the Lord calling you to mission?
- When you think about a friendship or marriage that you admire, what qualities of that relationship inspire you?
- Who are the people in my life that I feel at home with?
- How have you experienced possessiveness negatively impacting your relationships?
- Where do you long for a deeper sense of belonging?
- Which friends and relationships have played a role in helping you become who God has created you to be?
Quotes to Ponder:
“The mission of joy and friendship within the Christian community is even more fundamental than the Church’s mission to the poor and needy, because love and joy are the source from which all ministry to the sorrowing must flow.” (Friendship in the Lord, Page 7)
“The wonderful mystery which is you is not complete until you are appreciated.” (Friendship in the Lord, Page 19)
Scripture for Lectio:
“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” (John 15:12-15)
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Timestamps:
00:00 Ascension
01:32 Intro
02:18 Welcome
02:37 Scripture Verse and Quote to Ponder
03:31 Mission Comes from Community
05:26 Abiding in God’s Love First
10:42 The Feeling of Belonging
14:18 Appreciation is Necessary in Friendship
17:22 We Help Others Become Themselves
20:09 Intimacy is Being at Home with Someone
25:49 Being Attentive to Fear
26:59 Closing Prayer