Episode 312: The Hazard of Making Excuses
Acting Business Boot Camp
Today I'm going to talk to you about the hazard of making excuses as an actor. And I'm going to start with perhaps something that if you were like me, or you are like how I used to be the idea of it's only me. So it's only me and therefore it doesn't count or, I'm tough, I can handle it. One of the things that making excuses as an actor does is it stalls personal growth. And anything that would affect me in a negative way, I used to be like, “Hey, I'm young. I can take it. Hey, no worries. I can overcome it.” Until I couldn't. And so the first thing I'm going...
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Episode 311: Interview with Tim Phillips
Acting Business Boot Camp
About Tim: With more than 60,000 coaching sessions and 40+ years in the business, audition coach and premiere acting teacher Tim Phillips knows what works. was written after 30 years of teaching and designed as a practical manual for the working actor. What Phillips is after are moment-by-moment, clear, specific, human truths that make you unavoidable on stage and screen, from character. Tim Phillips ignited the careers of Emmy award-winning Richard Schiff, Golden Globe nominee Wendy Malick, Nancy Travis, the excellent Robert Wisdom, James DuMont, Bruce...
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Episode 310: Unsupportive Family & Friends
Acting Business Boot Camp
Today I'm going to talk about what I find a sad subject, and it is about unsupportive friends and unsupportive family members. And I'm gonna give you a few points and things to think about. So that you can have the support, at least from me, and I'll talk about getting more support in a moment, that helps you when you're dealing with this. Now, the first thing, and I know because, man, I hated this word when I first learned it, was boundaries. Learning to set boundaries, clearly communicate your goals and values to others, and establish boundaries when necessary. This helps you to...
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Episode 309: Interview with Risa Bramon Garcia
Acting Business Boot Camp
About Risa: For the past 4 decades Risa has worked consistently as a director, producer, casting director, writer, and teacher, and is a founder of The BGB Studio, a training space and artistic home for actors. She’s had the great fortune to have collaborated with some of the most talented, passionate, and groundbreaking artists in the world. She’s continued to move successfully from one arena to another – from theatre to film to television and back. With two feature films in her directorial body of work – the cult classic, 200 CIGARETTES, and more recently, THE CON ARTIST, made in...
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Episode 308: Don't Quit 5 Minutes Before the Miracle
Acting Business Boot Camp
A subject that has come up with private clients of mine and in my weekly group class has been the subject of discussion of quitting. And the phrase that I have been coaching on, is don't quit five minutes before the miracle. Don't quit five minutes before the miracle. And I get it. Especially for those of us in the U. S. who have been struggling with the industry this year. Let's just be blunt. It's a bitch, okay? It's just been awful. I have a friend of mine who's a producer and he says the word he keeps using is brutal. It's been a brutal year. But here's the thing. We're...
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Episode 307: Making a Pivot In Your Acting Career
Acting Business Boot Camp
So today's podcast is going to be about making a pivot in your acting career. The first thing you want to do when you are making a pivot is you want to clarify your new career goal. I understand that the goal may be to be a working actor, but what exactly does that mean to you? And when you've made a goal, asking yourself that follow up question, that empowering question, what does that mean to you? What does that look like? How will it feel when you achieve it? You want to take time to identify exactly where you want to pivot, and I think those questions can really, truly...
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Episode 306: Reframing Disappointment as an Actor
Acting Business Boot Camp
Today I'm going to talk about reframing disappointment. One of my favorite quotes. It's from Dr. Wayne Dyer, he says “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” And in reframing disappointment, we need to look at it in a different way. So I'm going to give you a few tips. I'm going to give you some Action steps to do when you face disappointment and hopefully that will help you to move through it because again, another one of my favorite quotes, again, a top five is Robert Frost, which is the “best way out is always through.” So this...
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Episode 305: Quantum Manifestation with Jocelyn Sandstrom
Acting Business Boot Camp
Today I am talking with Jocelyn Sandstrom about quantum manifestation. About Jocelyn: Growing up in Hawaii, Jocelyn has lived and worked in 12 different countries. This experience has allowed her to realize that even though we may speak different languages or have different traditions, at our core, we are all the same. She has used this knowledge to help and support clients around the world in creating next-level success not just in their careers but in their personal lives as well. Since 2010, she has been providing Quantum Energy Sessions and teaching Neuro-Linguistic...
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Episode 304: Nepotism & Keeping The Focus on Yourself
Acting Business Boot Camp
Okay, so today's podcast is motivated by someone writing to me, wanting to me to talk a little bit about nepo babies, nepotism. Of course, I'm going to say that nepotism and keeping the focus on yourself is the key. The focus because there's nothing you can do about somebody else is, birthrights or relatives, but you can do something about keeping the focus on yourself because that is your birthright. So my wonderful listener gave me this topic and she asked what my take on nepo babies and their advantages and disadvantages are in booking roles or projects. Again, what I...
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Episode 303: Staying Tenacious as an Actor
Acting Business Boot Camp
Okay, so let's talk about being tenacious. The number one thing about being tenacious is actually embracing it. And I talk about this in terms of my own experience, which is that my biggest mistakes have been my best teachers. My biggest mistakes have been my best teachers. And really understanding, when you make a mistake or you have a roadblock, you don't get a role that you really thought you were going to, is looking at the situation and asking yourself, what can I learn from this? And if what you can learn from it is what my mom always told me when I was a little...
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So today I'm gonna talk about that green emotion called jealousy. Oh, we've all had it, we've all experienced it, and we've all been the subject of it. But with actors, it can get so tricky.
I wanted to do a podcast, really putting this emotion into perspective.
“A flower never thinks of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms.”
Buddha said, “Do not envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.”
“Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners.”
I think my own personal journey with jealousy.
If I am having jealousy over someone else, it's because I am not keeping the focus on myself.
Keep the focus on yourself. Keep the focus on yourself.
Whatever I put before taking care of myself, I am going to lose.
Also, whatever you put before taking care of yourself, you are going to lose.
Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners.
And I think it's so important to understand we have one journey in this life.
Just one. And it's the one you're on.
Let's make it the damn best one we possibly can.
Amy Cuddy says, “Focus less on the impression you're making on others and more on the impression you're making on yourself.”
The greatest thing about getting older is really starting to understand that the person who I most want to be impressing, the person that I most want to be challenging, the person who I most want to show that I can do it, is me.
That also helps so much with anxiety. It also helps so much with me wanting to be on my team.
Because you know what? My team is fucking great.
So many years I abandoned myself looking to be on somebody else's team.
Wanting to be with the quote unquote popular kids in the second grade.
What a waste of time.
I want to be with my people. Meaning me. Meaning me, myself, and I.
Someone else's success does not rob you of anything. That's the Truth.
In fact, I have found that when I support people in their success, they're more than happy to help me and support me in achieving my own success.
The other thing is that when I focus on another person or another person's success and why they have it and I don't have it, the only thing I'm doing is weakening me.
And I'm sick and tired of weakening me.
I want to be working for myself, not against myself.
And jealousy is an emotion where we work against ourselves.
When you indulge in the emotion of jealousy, you are letting yourself off the hook for taking responsibility for what you need to do to take care of yourself and advance your goals, your acting career.
Jealousy is really a completely useless emotion and it is a catabolic energy.
Meaning it is a self defeating energy.
And when you're in catabolic energy, you have a very low chance of success.
I want a high chance for success. I want to live in anabolic energy.
When you find yourself being jealous, you need to reframe it.
Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.
When you find yourself being jealous, you need to reframe it and pivot the energy from working against you to working for you, from being catabolic to being anabolic, which is healing, growing energy with a high chance for success.
Ask yourself these questions: by this person having success, what are they really taking from me? The answer is nothing. They are just living their life.
And instead of focusing and putting energy towards what this person has, ask yourself, “where do I need to put energy and effort so I can create the life and career that I wanna create for my life?”
Two very important questions.
The first one being, by this person having the success, what are they taking from me?
Nothing.
And instead of focusing and putting energy towards what this person has, where do I need to put my energy and effort so that I can create the life and career that I want to create?
Again, keep the focus on yourself. Keep the focus on yourself.
How can I take care of myself in this moment? Create a plan. Organize yourself. Take an action to put yourself closer to where you want to be in your life.
Do a vision board. Do a gratitude list. Get yourself out of the catabolic energy of jealousy and get yourself into the anabolic energy of taking responsibility for your life.
Jealousy is all about putting energy in the wrong place. That's all it is.
Energy that is being put in the wrong place. So how about putting all that energy on taking care of you and your life?