Episode 364: Choice, Habit, Love: How Actors Build Real Momentum
Release Date: 11/19/2025
Acting Business Boot Camp
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info_outlineActors often wait for motivation. We hope a burst of inspiration will get us moving, keep us consistent, or push us to the next level. But real growth rarely starts with motivation. It starts with one small choice.
In this episode of the Acting Business Bootcamp Podcast, I talk about the simple cycle that has changed my life many times over. Choice. Habit. Love. It’s a framework you can use in your acting career, your training, and your personal development to build strength and momentum in a way that actually lasts.
The Moment I Realized Something Needed to Change
A few years ago, I was sitting on my balcony, looking out at the marina, and I caught a glimpse of myself that didn’t feel like me. It wasn’t about weight or appearance. It was the feeling that I wasn’t living up to my potential.
It was a quiet wake up call that led to one small choice.
The First Step Is Always Choice
A friend gave me a ten minute workout. The first time I tried it, I had to stop three times. It felt impossible. But I chose to do it again the next day. And the next. Choice doesn’t feel glamorous. It’s rarely comfortable. But it’s the doorway to every breakthrough.
How Choice Becomes Habit
After weeks of choosing that workout, something shifted. It became a habit. I added more exercise. I felt stronger, even through perimenopause and menopause. Habit grows out of showing up, not out of feeling ready.
When Habit Turns Into Love
What once felt uncomfortable became something I enjoyed. That’s the surprising part. Love is the result of consistency. Love grows from seeing your own progress.
Starting Over After a Setback
Recently I got very sick and couldn’t exercise for almost three weeks. When I came back, I realized I had to start again at choice. Not habit. Not love. Choice. That reminder has been grounding. Setbacks simply restart the cycle.
How Actors Can Use Choice, Habit, Love
This structure applies to your acting technique, your mindset, your self tapes, and your business systems. Ask yourself the small but powerful question: What could I choose today that would help me reach my potential?
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