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[Healing Series] The Nothing Place with Pam Cordano, MFT

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Release Date: 09/12/2025

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307 | [Healing Series] The Nothing Place with Pam Cordano, MFT

I’m so glad to be back with you after our summer break! Today’s episode is a special episode in our Healing Series that truthfully I’ve been scared to do and I’ve intentionally been waiting to do because of this fear. This concept has been on my show topic list for several years, ever since I heard the words, “The Nothing Place”, for the first time. I believe that naming and describing this idea to you could be so deeply helpful for adoptees that we just have to go there today. This could potentially break open a block we’ve had in describing the true complexities and impact adoption separation has on us. Pam Cordano, MFT, one of our favourite adoptee therapists is here to tell us about The Nothing Place, the glaring gaps in attachment theory that don’t address adoptees’ very real separation trauma, and how examining this part of us can unlock a new sense of grounding and belonging that we haven’t been able to access before.

 

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This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.