100: Asking For Help, with Alexandra Harbushka

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Support, Acceptance, and Vulnerability

 

Welcome to the 100th episode of The Sex, Money and Food podcast! I am extra excited for today’s show because it’s our 100th episode together and also because we are talking about a favorite topic of mine: asking for help.

 

On this edition of the Sex, Money, and Food Podcast, I’ll be sharing why I used to be the person who didn’t allow others to help me, why we all need to evaluate our lives and the role self-love plays in asking for help and receiving it from others. This is a fun, insightful and important subject so hear all about it on today’s show.

 

More About This Show

As I was thinking about what to talk about with you I reviewed my list of topics. Not a single thing jumped out at me so I allowed my intuition to guide me.

 

It led me to my friend Justin Crane’s book called Money: You Got This and, in particular, to chapter three of the book which talks about asking for help. And that subject really spoke to me, I knew that was what we should talk about today.

 

Throughout our lives, especially as women, we think we are superwomen who don't need to ask for help. One of the quotes in the book, from Justin's grandmother, is "You can't even see the hump on your own back!". It's a good reminder we need to ask for help from experts and other people in our lives.

 

This particular chapter discussed having experts come in and help you with your finances, and why it's important to ask for help if you want your finances to work!

 

The same is true of other areas of our lives. Aside from money, think about times when you don't accept help that is offered to you or you don't ask for help when you need it. Do you not allow someone to put your luggage in the overhead bin on the airplane?

 

Look at instances like that in your life, look for the little ways you do or don’t ask for help. Do you allow someone to open the door for you if your hands are full?

 

Personally I didn’t always. I was the girl who said I can do it, I don't need your help! It could be because I am an only child and am very independent, or it may have been because I didn’t want to seem weak or needy.

So many of us don't ask for help or allow others to help us because it shows vulnerability, and we aren’t comfortable with that. And sometimes we don’t ask for help because we don’t even know we need it! That’s why it's important to look at your life and evaluate where you can allow people to help you more.

 

That’s where self-love comes in. Yes self-love is about enjoyment, but it’s also about evaluating your life. Where are you with your love life, your education, your finances, etc.? Find out where you are so you can put a game plan together and ask for help.

 

And when you know where you need help figure out how to get it. If you can't afford a professional to help you, think of another way to ask for help. Is there a teenager in your neighborhood who needs extra cash and will do your laundry for less? Look outside of the box to solve your problems and find solutions that aren't traditional.

 

But the first step is evaluating the areas of your life and I talk more about doing so on today’s show. I’ve even included a link in the Resources section, tune in to episode 100 and then use that link to evaluate where and how you’re going to ask for help!

 

 

 

Tweetable: “Put a game plan together and ask for help.” - Alexandra Harbushka

Episode Resources

• Guide to evaluate your life
• Connect with me on Instagram
• Sign up for my Five Day Self-love Challenge

 

• Subscribe to the Sex Money and Food Podcast on iTunes