Episode 400 - Why Flirting Can Backfire
Sex for Saints
This episode marks my 400th conversation about sex, marriage, and building a relationship that actually feels good to live inside, and I’m incredibly grateful you’re here for it. To celebrate, I dive into why flirting can either create connection and desire or quietly turn into pressure that pushes your spouse away. I explain how flirting is meant to be playful and connective, not a disguised request for sex, and why the underlying dynamic matters more than the behavior itself. We talk about different flirting styles, how mindset shapes how flirting lands, and what to do when affection has...
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Episode 399 - Infusing Sexual Energy Throughout Your Marriage
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In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looks like to infuse sexual energy throughout your marriage, not just during planned intimacy, but in the everyday moments that make you feel desired, connected, and alive together. I share stories, examples, and real quotes from couples who’ve learned how to build a playful, pressure-free erotic undercurrent that carries through their whole day. You’ll hear how touch, texting, flirtation, emotional intimacy, and even mindset shifts can help you create that simmering connection you loved when you were first dating. I also walk through the...
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Episode 398 - Wait, Was That It? Understanding and Strengthening Weak Orgasms
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In this episode, I will walk you through a question I’ve heard from so many women over the years: How do I know if I’m actually having an orgasm? I’ll explain what weak orgasms, subtle climaxes, and full-body releases really feel like and why it’s so common to be unsure. I’ll share the most frequent reasons orgasms feel muted and teach you practical techniques—like the plateau method, pelvic floor engagement, deeper breathing, and mindset shifts—to help you build stronger, more satisfying orgasms. I’ll also guide you through why solo and partnered orgasms can feel different and...
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Episode 397 - The Unsexy Truth About Sexual Hygiene
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In this episode, I’m breaking down the practical side of sexual hygiene and why it matters so much for intimacy, confidence, and overall sexual health. I walk through the basics of caring for your body, hands, nails, toys, and the environment you’re having sex in, and I explain the common mistakes couples make that lead to infections and discomfort. I share real examples from clients to show how small hygiene habits can make a big difference in your relationship and your body. You’ll also hear simple, actionable intimacy tips to help you build safer, healthier, more comfortable sex...
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Episode 396 - From Lovers to Parents (and Back Again): Navigating Life After Baby
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I get asked all the time how to keep sex and intimacy alive after having a baby, so in this episode I’m breaking down what really happens during this huge transition. Last week we talked about sex during pregnancy, and today we’re looking at what comes next, because bringing home a baby reshapes your relationship in ways you can’t always prepare for. Whether you’re expecting your first or remembering those early days, I want you to feel seen, supported, and reminded that nothing is “wrong” with you if things feel off. I’ll walk you through what the research shows about why so...
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Episode 395 - Sex During Pregnancy: A Trimester-by-Trimester Guide
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Pregnancy brings so many changes, and your intimate life is one of them, but it doesn’t have to disappear for nine months. In this episode, I’m answering real listener questions about sex during pregnancy, including what’s safe, what feels comfortable, and how to stay emotionally and physically connected through every trimester. We’ll talk about shifting desire, body image, and practical ways to communicate and adapt as your body changes. My goal is to help you and your partner approach this season with curiosity, confidence, and closeness instead of fear or frustration. You’ll walk...
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Episode 394 - The Unexpected Intimacy of Creating Intimacy Products with Justin and Natalie Weeks
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In this episode, I’m sitting down with Justin and Natalie Weeks, the founders of Evree Intimate Massage Oil and Lubricant, to talk about how one thoughtful idea completely transformed their intimacy and could change yours too. We dive into the surprising benefits of using a truly natural, skin-loving intimate product, why lube is essential (not optional!), and how communication and playfulness can take a good marriage and make it great. Justin and Natalie share their story of creating a product that’s 100% natural, edible, safe for sensitive skin, and doubles as both a massage oil and...
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Episode 393 - The Dangerous Equation: Why Sex ≠ Love
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In this episode, I dive into one of the most damaging beliefs I see in relationships: the idea that sex equals love. I’ll share why this thinking creates unnecessary pain, pressure, and misunderstandings between partners, and how it often masks the many other ways love is expressed. You’ll learn how to recognize love outside of sexual intimacy, why separating sex from love can actually strengthen both, and practical shifts you can make to bring more connection, authenticity, and joy into your relationship. By the end, you’ll walk away with tools to reframe how you see love and intimacy...
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Episode 392 - Why Sexual Rejection Feels So Personal
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Sexual rejection is one of the most painful experiences in marriage, but is your spouse really rejecting you or just rejecting sex? In this episode, I break down the two types of rejection, how to tell the difference, and why understanding this can change everything in your relationship. We’ll talk about what rejection looks like when it’s personal, what it looks like when it’s not, and how to stop letting painful stories in your head dictate the way you feel. If you’ve ever wondered, “What’s really happening when my spouse says no?” this conversation will give you clarity, hope,...
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Episode 391 - I Meet Her Needs, Why Won't She Meet Mine?
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So many men tell me, “I meet all her needs, why can’t she meet mine?” Almost always that “need” is sex. I understand the frustration behind that question, but here’s the truth- it’s not helping your sex life, it’s hurting it. In this episode, I talk about why framing sex as a “need” actually shuts down desire, and what to do instead if you want real intimacy and connection. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of obligation, resentment, or just going through the motions, this conversation will give you a new perspective and a path forward.
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“Well, I guess I’m just a terrible spouse then.”
This podcast episode dives into what’s really going on when that phrase shows up. It’s not about blame or guilt. It’s often a sign of emotional overwhelm. We’ll explore why this defensive response shuts down connection, what’s happening under the surface, and how it can impact both emotional and sexual intimacy in your marriage.
If this phrase has ever brought your conversations to a standstill, this episode will help you understand it—and move past it—with more compassion and clarity.