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Practical Optimism Can Save Your Dating Life ft Dr. Sue Varma

Release Date: 06/30/2026

Why Feeling "Too Much" Is Actually a Strength ft Alison Leiby

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Comedian and author joins to talk about her new essay collection and why every version of ourselves deserves a seat at the table. They discuss different identities, only-child life, surviving a near death experience, chronic back pain, stand up comedy, and how those experiences shape dating and relationships. Plus, the two answer a listener who feels like she's lost herself after ignoring red flags in a relationship and wants to learn how to trust herself again. If you've ever wondered who you are outside of dating, this episode is for you! ♥️JOIN MARIA’S COMMUNITY +...

Should One Bad Joke End a Date? ft Jourdian Fisher

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Comedian joins for a hilarious hotline episode about dating, love, and learning when not to "fix" your partner's problems. Go check out his comedy special, , today!! They break down whether weed is a real deal breaker, if one bad joke should end a relationship, and what it really means when someone says they're "going through something." Plus, Jordan shares how Bumble led him to love, why he used to fear commitment, and the relationship lesson every boyfriend needs to hear: sometimes "Wow, that sucks" is enough. ♥️JOIN MARIA’S COMMUNITY + SUBMIT A...

Practical Optimism Can Save Your Dating Life ft Dr. Sue Varma

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Psychiatrist and couples therapist joins to explain why optimism isn't something you're born with, it's a skill you can build. They break down the difference between healthy realism and catastrophizing, why overthinking keeps people single, and how "maximizers" sabotage dating by chasing endless options. Plus, they answer a listener question about a boyfriend who's afraid to take the next step toward marriage and whether it's your job to fix your partner's fears. If dating has started to feel hopeless, this episode shares practical ways to change your mindset without falling into toxic...

Jared Freid Explains the Different Types of SINGLE

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is back on Ask a Matchmaker to talk about his new book, , and why most dating advice completely misses the average guy's perspective. Jared and Maria dive into the "types of singles," why family setups may be better than dating apps, the difference between "main street" and "alleyway" dating, and whether social media is making dating harder than it needs to be. They also debate TikTok dating rules, the taxi cab theory, Snapchat requests, Uber expectations, and why "if he wanted to, he would" might be terrible advice. Plus, Jared plays a rapid-fire round of "Walking Red Flag or Overthinking...

Should You Go On A Second Date Without Chemistry? ft Amy Chan

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, author of joins to break down why so many people feel burned out by dating and what they're getting wrong! They discuss Amy’s "dating funnel," why a lack of chemistry on a first date shouldn't always be a dealbreaker, and how doomscrolling, TikTok, and dopamine overload may be sabotaging your love life. Plus, a listener from Miami asks how to stay hopeful after disappointing dates, and Amy shares her favorite pre-date ritual to create better connections. If you're tired of dating apps, chasing sparks, or wondering why first dates never go anywhere, this episode is for you. ...

Is Dating Your Friend's Ex Ever Okay? A Summer House Debate with Chrissy Rutherford

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sits down with writer and mental health advocate to discuss the Summer House drama behind her essay, From dating a friend's ex to the complicated realities of interracial dating, Chrissy explains why Ciara's experience struck such a nerve with so many black women. They dive into fetishization, friendship loyalty, codependent relationships, and the emotional impact of feeling desired but not chosen. support the show, support the sponsors! Go to and use promo code MATCHMAKER at checkout for $35 off. Minimum purchase may apply. ♥️JOIN MARIA’S...

Heated Rivalry Reveals the Reality of Avoidant Dating

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What can a steamy hockey romance teach us about attachment styles, situationships, and emotional vulnerability? This week, Matchmaker Maria is joined by her sister and fellow matchmaker, , to break down the hit series Heated Rivalry through the lens of dating psychology. They unpack why Shane and Ilya's 7 year push-pull dynamic feels so familiar, explore fearful avoidant vs. dismissive avoidant attachment styles, and compare the show's emotional tension to Normal People, Bridgerton, and classic Jane Austen romances. Plus, they dive into the art of yearning, why women LOVE slow-burn love...

Doing Chores Literally Saved My Marriage ft. Jordan Carlos

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Comedian and author joins to talk about the surprisingly sexy secret to saving a relationship: doing the chores without being asked! From “invisible labor” and executive function to a grabbing some milk, they get into why a clean kitchen can actually improve your sex life! This episode gets hilariously real about marriage, gender roles, and modern dating. Jordan opens up about hitting a rough patch 10 years into marriage, realizing he’d become a bit of a man child, and how learning to truly co-parent changed everything at home. Maria agrees saying women notice the missing top sheet...

Why Ambitious Women Get Rejected More ft Stefanie O'Connell

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Can ambition ruin a relationship? Matchmaker Maria sits down with author and journalist to unpack why ambitious women are still being labeled “too much” in dating, work, and marriage. They discuss the research behind men pulling away when women out-earn them, why women still do more household labor even when they make more money, and how “provider mentality” can sometimes really mean control. Maria also shares what she’s seeing in modern dating, from men wanting “ambitious women” until they actually meet one, to the rise of trad wife content and 27-year-olds panicking over...

Wired to Connect: The Science of Love, Lust & Fidelity with Kinsey Institute Director Dr. Justin Garcia

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sits down with of the Kinsey Institute to break down the science behind modern dating, ghosting, dating apps, attraction, AI in dating, hookup culture and relationships. Maria and Justin get into why over 70% of singles have fallen for someone they usually wouldn’t think they’d be attracted to and why Gen Z says they value authenticity yet nearly 50% of them are using AI in their dating lives. They discuss whether first-date chemistry is overrated, why ghosting may actually may come from fear of rejection and conflict, and the difference between social monogamy and sexual monogamy. Plus,...

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Psychiatrist and couples therapist Dr. Sue Varma joins Matchmaker Maria to explain why optimism isn't something you're born with, it's a skill you can build. They break down the difference between healthy realism and catastrophizing, why overthinking keeps people single, and how "maximizers" sabotage dating by chasing endless options. Plus, they answer a listener question about a boyfriend who's afraid to take the next step toward marriage and whether it's your job to fix your partner's fears. If dating has started to feel hopeless, this episode shares practical ways to change your mindset without falling into toxic positivity.

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