My Interview on The Human Experience
A Thousand Tiny Steps
I feel like everywhere I look now I see instances of secret keeping, of being told to be quiet, of lying for others. So when I listened to a podcast episode where a woman’s entire life she was told to keep a secret inside of her? That hit my soul. Which is also why I was so delighted when Jennifer chatted with me and got into how it impacts a person when they’re constantly told to be quiet. Key Takeaways: [0:00] The podcast that is all about keeping secrets [6:33] My interview on The Human Experience Resources: Connect with Barb: ...
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Running Taught Me to Love My Body
A Thousand Tiny Steps
Running was a part of my life for years and then… it was gone. I’ve had to rebuild my life piece by piece and in the process I’ve realized I need to get back into running. It’s the sport that taught me to love my body and more importantly gave me a community that understood the struggles and triumphs of running. Key Takeaways: [3:11] Running allowed me to love my body [5:11] The sexual abuse that’s prevelant to elite athletes [7:42] Being isolated from the running community [10:57] Thinking back to why I didn’t fight for myself [12:55] Running...
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What Does Consent Mean to You?
A Thousand Tiny Steps
I’m quiet. I freeze. I don’t say no. My consent is violated again and again by numerous people in different situations that still follow me today. I did a deep dive on the types of consent, what it actually means, and why the meaning of it gets tricky for people. In this episode, I explore the different types of consent and how those have gone wrong in my life. Key Takeaways: [0:00] Saying the quiet part out loud and sexual assault [4:11] I don’t defend myself or set boundaries [5:47] Consent: voluntary, informed, mutual, respect personal...
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Learning to Break the Silence
A Thousand Tiny Steps
The shouting starts, voices overlapping, and I freeze. I stay quiet hoping not to be noticed. Now, I’m having to unlearn that… A thousand tiny steps, right? It’s easier to not say anything, to justify the abuse, to defend those that have hurt me, but repeating traumatic situations because it’s familiar in my life can’t continue forever. This is how I’m taking small steps towards healing. Key Takeaways: [0:00] Giving $13,000 in scholarships [2:25] Cleaning out dance clothes [3:41] People want to be seen and heard [5:33] In conflict, I freeze up...
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The Number 13 is Sacred
A Thousand Tiny Steps
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Treat Yourself Like your Best Friend
A Thousand Tiny Steps
I went to Molly’s grave, but it’s not the same anymore. I know that as time passes, others forget, but I never will. So, as I grapple with that, I reflect on the amazing people I got to see, what I’m planning to do next with the podcast, and just sitting in my grief. Key Takeaways: [0:00] I don’t celebrate Mother’s Days anymore [2:50] The first Molly WOD not to be during death week [4:54] Visiting Molly’s gravestone and seeing Tim and Ricky [7:53] Kenny didn’t come visit Molly’s grave [9:46] Surround yourself with community in grief ...
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Visiting France with Gracie
A Thousand Tiny Steps
Grab a baguette or an Oreo Coolatta, and find out what Gracie has been up to for 3 months in France as I recount our family’s visit to France to see Gracie. From Gracie making a lot of supportive friends from all over the world to Jack eating all the ice cream he possibly can, and talking about the fact that it’s been 10 years since Molly died. Key Takeaways: [0:37] Gracie has lived in France for 3 months [3:05] Public transportation is one of the biggest differences [5:25] Food quality in France is superior to America [7:56] Disneyland Paris is different...
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Memories of the Boston Marathon
A Thousand Tiny Steps
As I’ve come up on the 10th anniversary of Molly’s death I look back on how as much as things change, they also stay the same. I was in Europe 10 years ago at this moment and that’s where I am now, but this time I’m trying to figure out where do I belong in life and how do I feel like I still have purpose as I age? Key Takeaways: [0:14] My memories of 2016 and going to Europe [2:38] Not going to the Marathon for years - and finally going back now [3:47] Reconnecting with so many lovely people at the Marathon [6:47] The...
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Lady Justice and the Sisterhood of the Crones with author Jennifer Speidel
A Thousand Tiny Steps
Jennifer Speidel, my long time friend and now author, wrote a book called Lady Justice and the Sisterhood of the Crones. A story of a corrupt world where women are silenced and it’s up to Mavon and Buluku to get justice, gain wisdom, and rise to their true power. Key Takeaways: [0:39] Why I decided to write my first book: womanhood and getting older [4:20] I started the book by writing the chapter titles and developing characters [6:05] Crones in the book and what it represents in real life [12:07] The...
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Gracie's in France!
A Thousand Tiny Steps
Gracie has been living in France and is here to tell us all what it’s been like! From navigating bonjour correctly to making friends with people from all over the world, and just being in your 20s navigating new experiences and a whole lotta change. Key Takeaways: [0:44] I’ve been working for Disney in France for a 2 months and here’s what’s different [6:22] The pastries are to die for, but the food is bland [12:14] Portion sizes are definitely smaller [14:12] Disney World Orlando vs Disney Land Paris [17:59] The French go on strike a lot [19:52] Work...
info_outlineThis week, I’m throwing away toxic gratitude and playing Would You Rather because we all need some fun in our lives. I contemplate knowing when vs knowing how I would die, someone seeing all of my photos or all of my texts, and so many other ponderings.
Key Takeaways:
[0:28] Throwing away toxic gratitude and playing would you rather
[3:17] See a little into the future or a lot?
[3:53] The ability to read minds or move things?
[4:25] Sing or dance to every song you hear?
[4:45] Jail or coma for 5 years?
[5:15] Chronically under or overdressed?
[5:35] Lose my sight or my memories?
[5:55] Universal respect or unlimited power?
[6:29] No internet or no air conditioning?
[7:09] Never be able to go out in the day or night?
[7:30] Personal maid or chef?
[7:46] Lead star in a movie that bombs or extra in an Oscar winning one?
[8:34] Only text in emoji or not text at all?
[8:47] Same socks or same underwear for a week?
[9:04] Sing off with Ariana Grande or Rihanna?
[9:25] Alone in a forest or a real haunted house?
[9:52] Child every year for 20 years or no kids at all?
[10:24] Gassy on a first date or your wedding night?
[10:46] Hunt for your own meat or never eat meat again?
[11:05] People spread lies about you or terrible truths?
[11:58] Best at something no one respects or average at something they do?
[12:42] Travel the world for free for a year or have $50,000?
[13:27] Mullet for a year or bald for 6 months?
[13:51] Go back to the past to see dead people or the future to meet grandkids?
[14:05] Stay physically how you are forever or financially?
[14:32] No phone for a month or no bathing for a month?
[14:52] Change the outcome of the last election or decide the next election?
[15:27] Lose the ability to read or lose the ability to speak?
[15:58] Beautiful and stupid or unattractive and smart?
[16:25] Always stuck in traffic but find the perfect parking spot or the opposite?
[16:57] Go on tour with Elton John or Cher?
[17:20] Win the lottery and spend it in a day or triple your current salary forever?
[17:52] Hear a comforting lie or an uncomfortable truth?
[18:03] Someone sees all your photos or all your texts?
[18:21] 4th of July with Taylor Swift or Christmas Eve with Mariah Carey?
[19:13] Peaceful life in a small cabin or drama filled in a mansion?
[19:35] Be invisible or fly?
[19:50] Be the leader on Earth or start another colony on another planet?
[20:11] Back to kindergarten with all my knowledge or know everything now?
[22:04] Read minds or predict the future?
[22:13] Be an unknown superhero or famous villain?
[22:48] Have a third eye or a third ear?
[23:13] Wake up naked in a forest 5 miles from home or in your underwear at work?
[23:52] Be reincarnated as a fly or just stop existing when dead?
[24:11] Close any open door or be unable to open any closed door?
[24:32] Work alongside Dwight or Homer?
[24:55] Punished for a crime you didn’t commit or credit stolen for a major accomplishment of yours?
[25:20] Celine or Eminem perform the soundtrack to your life?
[25:38] Bathe in dish water or wash dishes in bath water?
[25:50] Have your own theme park or zoo?
[26:05] Know when or how you’re going to die?
[26:21] Home with no electricity or home with no running water?
[26:43] Tea with Queen Elizabeth or beer with Prince Harry?
[27:08] Live the same day over for a year or take 3 years off your life?
[27:39] Finding balance, gratitude, and what would you rather?
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