How to Handle Mismatched Sex Drives in Marriage | Ep. 612
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Most couples are not going to be completely aligned with sex drive. There are a lot of factors that can cause this, but there are also a lot of solutions! Today we want to equip you to have a productive approach to making your sex life the best it can be in marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Why is it so hard to have a productive conversation about sex? Should the lower-drive spouse “just do it” for the spouse’s sake? Why or why not? Why respecting your wife’s drive...
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Breaking Generational Cycles For a Healthy Marriage with Kristen Hallinan | Ep. 611
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Do you hope to break generational patterns of pain? Are childhood hurts haunting your marriage? Today’s guest Kristen Hallinan is a writer and speaker, and today she helps you see how to identify and break generational patterns to find hope, healing and redemption. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: How your past trauma can affects your current reactions What makes it so hard to break cycles Red flags of unhealthy family dynamics How to work with God to find his redemption ...
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Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage Part 3: Help to Get Out and Get Safe | Ep. 610
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Today we are sharing the final episode with Kathy McAtee Young and her story of finding safety after decades in an abusive marriage. In this episode Kathy shares some of the barriers that prevent spouses in abusive marriages from seeking safety and help, ways to begin moving out of the abusive relationship, and the ways healing begins afterward. Don’t miss the conclusion to Kathy’s story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Reasons that abused spouse don’t trust their own judgment Steps to get...
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Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage Part 2: Seeking Church Support | Kathy’s Story Ep. 609
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Today in Part 2 of Kathy’s story, Kathy shares the ways she sought support from the church when she realized her marriage was in trouble, the responses she received, and the effects that had on her marriage. In this episode Kathy shares why it’s not possible for the abused spouse to end the abuse, and the difference between biblical versus unbiblical advice about abuse. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Interventions the church put in place, and why they were not successful The wake up moment that...
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Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage: Kathy’s Story | Ep. 608
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When does an unhealthy marriage become an abusive marriage? Where can you go when you need to get out? In today’s episode we hear part 1 of Kathy’s real marriage story. Kathy shares how she came to believe that divorce was the most God-honoring option in her situation, and how she found safety after 30+ years in an emotionally abusive marriage. We are so grateful to Kathy for generously sharing her story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Dispelling myths about who falls into abuse Why marriage...
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Ground Rules to Help You Fight Fair & Make Up Well | Ep. 606
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Do you fight fair, or do you wish there was a referee to call a stop to the foul play when you argue with your spouse? Ground rules are an important step toward having healthy marriage conflict, so today Dr. Kim will spell out how to make sure you’re fighting fair in your marriage. We want to empower you to fight fair, and resolve issues in a kind and loving way. If you need help to fight fair and truly resolve issues without making things worse, you will love today’s conversation. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights...
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How to De Escalate Marriage Conflict & Resolve Issues | Ep. 605
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Sick of the same old fights over and over with your spouse? Learn to de-escalate marriage fights and resolve issues in a healthy and helpful way. Conflict in marriage is inevitable, but the way you handle it is what matters most. Learning to deal with it well will benefit your marriage in so many ways! Tune in today to learn how. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Common conflict pitfalls to avoid The problem with “winning” marriage fights Tips to help you break the fighting cycle What to do if one...
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Learn to Turn Conflict Into Connection with Dana Che Williams | Ep. 604
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Learn how conflict can create a deeper connection between you and your spouse. Today’s special guest, marriage coach Dana Che is very open about the struggles her marriage faced. In today’s episode she shares her marriage story, what got them through, and how you can use the conflict you face in marriage to draw you toward deeper connection. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: What we can learn from our conflict triggers How to deal with different conflict styles in marriage Steps to break...
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Should Christians Go To Counseling? With Jason VanRuler | Ep. 603
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Why do Christians need counseling? Isn’t the Gospel enough to transform us? We hear these questions fairly often. Today Dr. Kim and special guest Jason VanRuler dive deeper into these questions and the conversation about the role of therapy and counseling in a life devoted to following Jesus. Don’t miss this helpful conversation! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: How often do clients have no idea that they haven’t gotten past their past? Unexpected ways your past might be showing up & affecting your...
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How to Become the Husband You Want to Be with Jim Ramos | Ep. 602
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Are you a man living in the stress bubble? It’s when the years of marriage, career building and raising kids all happen at once. You’re figuring everything out, trying to be there for it all, and it. Is. Stressful. If you’re there, you want to hear from a godly dad who has been there. We’re so happy to share this conversation with Jim Ramos. Jim’s wisdom and experience will equip and encourage you to be the husband and dad you want to be. Don’t miss this episode. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: ...
info_outlineThis episode is a real treat because we have Beth & Jeff McCord joining Dr. Kim. Beth founded Your Enneagram Coach and is an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher.
Beth & Jeff live outside of Nashville and have been married for 24 years. Combining the gospel and the Enneagram has been instrumental in Beth and Jeff's marriage and parenting.
The Enneagram is simply a map for self-discovery and personal growth based on 9 basic personality types.
When we come to know what’s at the root of our thoughts, feelings and actions, we can stop placing unhealthy and unrealistic expectations on our spouses to “fill us up.” Our marriages can be transformed when our eyes are open to the unique ways our spouse was created, allowing us to better love, serve, communicate and resolve conflict. The Enneagram is simply a tool to self discovery and others discovery. And like Dr. Kim is always saying, we need to be “a student of our spouse.” The Enneagram is one way to do just that.
In this episode Dr. Kim, Beth & Jeff share about how they have used the Enneagram to help create a thriving, gospel-centered marriage.
NOTEWORTHY QUOTES
- “When a heart is at rest from the truth of the Gospel, all kinds of fruits come from that.” - Jeff McCord
- “The Enneagram is like a rumble strip on the highway; you can use it to wake yourself up and not fall into the common pitfalls that you have before.” - Beth McCord
- “The Enneagram gives you a way to navigate and understand marriage in a way that you might not have been able to before.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
- “The Enneagram accelerates growth and transformation when you use it correctly.” - Beth McCord
- “We can be assured that God cares about our marriages, maybe even more than we do.” -Jeff McCord
- “The Enneagram is a tool that gives us vocabulary and an organized way to understand our spouse’s personality.” - Jeff McCord
- “The Enneagram allows us to speak to each other in one another’s personality dialect.” - Beth McCord
- “Using the Enneagram is a great way to become a student of (or study) your spouse.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
- “Two people that are the same Enneagram number can look and act radically different depending on their levels of health.” - Beth McCord
- “The Enneagram gives you an opportunity as a married couple to embrace your differences.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
- “The Enneagram shows us that we all see the world differently.” - Beth McCord
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RESOURCES
- Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage’s Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a ‘Becoming Us Course’ for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the “dance” (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage.
- Buy ‘Becoming Us’ today!
- Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here.
- Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY!
- Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog.
- Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it’s time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course.
- You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here.
- Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren’t alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage.
- Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here!
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