Awesome Marriage Podcast

Far too many couples are just surviving their marriage when it was meant to thrive. This is the place for practical tips on how to build an awesome marriage. Our passion is to help you strengthen your marriage. Dr. Kim Kimberling hosts the show. Dr. Kim is the President of Awesome Marriage, has been married for over 50 years, and has been a professional counselor for 40+ years. He is the author of 7 Secrets to An Awesome Marriage ,14 Keys To Lasting Love, and most recently Love, Intimacy and Sex in the Second Half. Dr. Kim will be joined once a month by his wife of 55 years, Nancy Kimberling. He will also host other great guests that will teach and encourage you as you intentionally pursue an awesome marriage. Tune in each week to hear practical advice from Dr. Kim. This podcast is brought to you by the ministry of Awesome Marriage.

Lightbulb Moments in Marriage with Emerson Eggerichs Ep. 718 03/17/2026

Lightbulb Moments in Marriage with Emerson Eggerichs Ep. 718 What if your marriage isn’t falling apart, but just missing a key insight? In this powerful conversation, we explore “Light Bulb Moments”- the sudden realizations that can transform a relationship almost instantly. Emerson Eggerichs, author of Light Bulb Moments in Marriage and the bestselling Love and Respect, shares how couples who feel miles apart are often just inches away from breakthrough. You’ll learn how understanding gender differences, taking responsibility for your responses, and applying a faith-centered perspective can lead to deeper connection and lasting change. Episode Takeaways: Your response is your responsibility, and you don't have to wait for your spouse to change first. Gender roles shape how we respond when marriage gets tough. Small insights and honest apologies create space for connection, healing, and leadership at home. Love and respect are different, but both matter. Quotes from this Episode: Sometimes we feel miles apart in marriage, but in reality, we're just inches away from understanding each other- Emerson Eggerichs When we expect our spouse to heal and complete us, we set ourselves up for disappointment; only God can fill that space.- Dr. Kim Don't confuse silence for a lack of love.-Emerson Eggerichs Behind every marital conflict are two good-willed people simply missing each other's signals—not enemies, just different shades of right.- Apologizing isn't about taking the blame for everything—it's about sincerely owning your part, even if it's just 10%. Leave self-justification behind.- No one can make you hate. You are always free to choose how you respond—claim that freedom.-Emerson Eggerichs Take Time to Talk About it: What's been your biggest "light bulb moment" in marriage? Where have you shifted your focus from short-term fixes to eternal impact? Think back to your last marital conflict, where could you/ should you have owned your response in a way that honors your marriage better? Mentioned in This Episode: Learn more about Get your copy of Make sure you’re checking in with your spouse every week with our FREE Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you and how connected your marriage feels. Check out our new devotional: Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to strengthen your marriage connection and overcome challenges? Check out by Dr. Kim. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/40302055

Narcissism, Selfishness, and the Human Heart Ep. 717 03/10/2026

Narcissism, Selfishness, and the Human Heart Ep. 717 We are quick to label selfish or defensive behavior as “narcissism,” but what if the issue runs deeper than personality? In this episode, we explore how disordered desires, our need for control, comfort, or validation, shape the way we relate to others and quietly erode connection. This conversation unpacks the difference between healthy self-awareness and self-absorption, why freedom begins when we stop defending ourselves, and how real change doesn’t come from trying harder—but from surrendering deeper. You’ll be challenged to look beneath behavior and consider what your heart is truly after. If you’re tired of surface-level fixes and ready for lasting transformation, this episode invites you to step out of self-protection and into humility, empathy, and freedom. Episode Takeaways: What we often label as narcissism or selfishness is rooted deeper than personality. It flows from disordered desires and a heart that wants control, comfort, or validation more than connection. Healthy self-awareness leads to growth, humility, and empathy. Self-absorption does the opposite , it narrows our world until everything revolves around us and what we want. Freedom starts when we stop defending ourselves. Change doesn’t come from trying harder, but surrendering deeper. Quotes from this Episode: “Selfishness doesn’t start with what we do — it starts with what we want most.” “Narcissism isn’t always loud or arrogant; sometimes it’s quiet, defensive, and deeply fragile.” “You can’t out-behave a heart problem — transformation always starts inside.” “The more we focus on protecting ourselves, the less capable we are of loving others.” “Growth happens when we stop asking, ‘How does this affect me?’ and start asking, ‘How did this affect you?’” “Humility isn’t thinking less of yourself — it’s thinking of yourself less.” “God isn’t after better versions of us; He’s after surrendered hearts.” Take Time to Talk About It: Where do you notice selfishness showing up most in your relationships — words, reactions, expectations, or silence? How can you tell the difference between healthy self-care and self-centeredness in your own life? What might change if you stopped defending yourself and started listening with curiosity instead? Mentioned in this Episode: Make sure you’re checking in with your spouse every week with our FREE Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you and how connected your marriage feels. Check out our new devotional: Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to fight off the cultural pull toward discontentment in marriage? Subscribe to our reading plan. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/40296355

Making Blended Families Work with Ron Deal Ep. 716 03/03/2026

Making Blended Families Work with Ron Deal Ep. 716 Blended families are beautiful—but they’re also complex. When two lives, two histories, and often two sets of kids come together, figuring out what “family” looks like can feel overwhelming. From divided loyalties and differing parenting styles to navigating ex-spouses, finances, and faith, blended families face unique challenges that many couples aren’t prepared for. In this episode, we’re joined by Ron Deal, director of FamilyLife Blended and author of The Smart Stepfamily. Ron shares practical wisdom, biblical insight, and deep encouragement for couples navigating stepfamily life. We talk about earning influence before exercising authority, managing divided loyalties, setting realistic expectations, and protecting your marriage while building unity in your home. Whether you’re part of a blended family or love someone who is, this conversation offers real hope, grace-filled guidance, and a reminder that healthy blended families are built over time—on purpose, and with God at the center. Episode Takeaways: Blended families are not repairs of biological families. Creating a blended family involves new rules and dynamics. Respect and communication are key. Quotes from this Episode: "You are not repairing a biological family structure. You are creating an entirely new blended family structure where the rules are different." -Ron Deal “To be a great co-parent, you need to act divorced—respect your boundaries, let go of control, and focus on parenting your own way.”- Ron Deal “Stop pretending you have the right to influence your ex's choices. You can share your preferences respectfully, but after that, let go and parent your own way.” - Ron Deal “Your spouse is the most important adult relationship in your life—honor that allegiance, but never abandon your children.” - Ron Deal "You cannot demand love out of a child. That's something they decide on their time."- Ron Deal "If you support the stepparent in front of your kids, if you are a team member in the parenting system, then your blended family has a chance." -Ron Deal “You cannot have two parenting styles under one roof; blended families thrive when standards are more alike than different.”- Ron Deal Questions to Talk Through: Where do we feel the most tension in our blended family right now—and how can we face it together instead of alone? What is one way we can better support each other when parenting, scheduling, or outside relationships feel overwhelming? What does “progress” look like for our family in this season, even if it doesn’t look perfect yet? Mentioned in this Episode: Ron and Nan Deal wrote - it’s a MUST read for all couples. Blended family? needs to be your next read! Check out more of what Ron is doing Your words, your tone, your attitude- they all matter in how your spouse hears you. Check out our new devotional: Cut the Criticism and Cultivate Companionship Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Caught in the trap of negativity towards your spouse? Start our reading plan today. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/40258000

Wider Lens: A Life Bigger Than the Work with Terry Storch 02/27/2026

Wider Lens: A Life Bigger Than the Work with Terry Storch In a world full of distractions and pressure to perform, how do we keep our identity rooted in Christ instead of our work? In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with long time friend, Terry Storch, to talk about leadership, stewardship, and the often unseen cost of carrying responsibility that affects others. From navigating pressure and seasons of life to holding the tension between efficiency and presence, this discussion explores where leadership ends and identity begins. Be encouraged to establish healthy rhythms, protect what’s sacred, and remain centered on Christ—remembering that the work will come and go, expectations will shift, and seasons will change, but all glory belongs to Him. Episode Takeaways: The “work” of life was never meant to give you value. Only our Creator can do that. Accomplishments and achievements are driven by healthy rhythms. The technology advancements create unique pressures and require adaptability. Finding centeredness in a distracted world is essential for faith. Quotes from this Episode: “Life is a season of wilderness after wilderness because we're not in the garden yet.” “I want to be known for the small little things that I did for those people right around me.” "The need for centeredness, the need for Jesus, is more important now than ever." "Technology, for the most part, is neutral, like money. It can be used for really good things and really bad things." "The real story is the commitment to surrender and release, knowing it's not mine. Take a Wider Look: How do I define my identity beyond my accomplishments, and what steps can I take to focus more on who I am becoming? In what ways might I be allowing the distractions of the world to pull me away from my core values or spiritual focus? How can I separate my calling from my vocation, and what changes might I need to make to align my work with my deeper purpose? /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/40237455

Foreplay 24/7/365 Ep. 714 02/24/2026

Foreplay 24/7/365 Ep. 714 When we hear the word foreplay, most of us immediately think about the bedroom. But intimacy in marriage was never meant to be confined to a single moment behind closed doors. Today, we’re talking about foreplay 24/7/36 the idea that emotional, spiritual, and relational connection is built continually, hour by hour, day by day. We’ll explore how intentional connection outside the bedroom sets the stage for deeper intimacy inside it, why this matters so much for the health of our marriage, and how small, everyday choices can radically change the temperature of our relationship. Episode Highlights: What happens in the bedroom is directly affected by what happens outside the bedroom. There are five types of intimacy that every strong marriage needs. The goal is not perfection, it's progress. Quotes from this Episode: When couples neglect the other four intimacies and they only focus on the physical the relationship becomes transactional sex becomes about physical release instead of real connection. - Dr. Kim That’s often how affairs begin, not with physical attraction, but with unmet emotional needs. - Dr. Kim When intimacy is only in the bedroom, the temperature of the marriage runs cold. - Dr. Kim Replace bad patterns with good ones. Don't just stop the negative, start positive. Instead of scrolling, ask about their day. Instead of logistics, share something you're grateful for about them and finally give each other grace. -Dr. Kim When you come home, prioritize your spouse above anything else. -Dr. Kim When there's unresolved tension,when there's hurt or anger or distance, that vulnerability feels unsafe. -Dr. Kim Awkward is better than distant. Have the conversation. -Dr. Kim Intimacy isn't built in a single grand gesture. It's rebuilt, one conversation, one touch, one prayer at a time. -Dr. Kim Questions Worth Discussing: What’s one moment from today (or this week) where we felt connected—or disconnected—and why do you think that was? Did anything in the episode help you see everyday moments differently when it comes to intimacy or connection? What’s one small thing we could do differently this week to stay more connected outside the bedroom? Mentioned in this Episode: Make sure you’re checking in with your spouse every week! Make sex better for BOTH of you — by romancing your spouse the way they actually desire. Check out this month’s Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to see what God’s Word says about sex and intimacy? Check out If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/40073155

Sacred Intimacy: Linking Sexual and Spiritual Connection in Marriage with Dan Purcell Ep. 713 02/17/2026

Sacred Intimacy: Linking Sexual and Spiritual Connection in Marriage with Dan Purcell Ep. 713 Today on the Awesome Marriage Podcast, we’re joined by Dan Purcell, creator of Get Your Marriage On! and the Intimately Us app. Dan is passionate about helping Christian couples build stronger, healthier marriages through better communication, playful intimacy, and gospel-centered connection. In this conversation, we explore the powerful link between spiritual and sexual intimacy in marriage. From God’s design for sex to common misconceptions, practical habits, and healing struggles in the bedroom, Dan shares how faith and intimacy were always meant to work together. This episode offers encouragement and actionable wisdom for couples who want to honor God while cultivating deeper passion, joy, and closeness in their marriage. Episode Highlights: Experiencing really good sex in marriage requires living with virtue. What works in marriage will change over time. You must be willing to adapt together. Repair work is most of the work in marriage. Quotes from this Episode: This is a gift from God. He gave it to us to enjoy. You can’t love a person you don’t know. The more honest we can be about things, the better our marriage will be. Sex can be really fun. It can be incredibly replenishing. It can be good for your health. You want to get to a place where you’re at ease talking about sex. Questions Worth Discussing: What part of this conversation felt most relatable to where we are right now? Did anything we heard make you think differently about how our faith and our intimacy connect—or even just spark a new thought? What’s one small way we could be more intentional with each other this week—emotionally, spiritually, or physically? Mentioned in this Episode: Listen to the podcast Make sex better for both of you- by romancing your spouse the way they actually desire. Check out this month's Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to see what God’s Word says about sex and intimacy? Check out If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39992595

Physical Health & Marital Intimacy: Why Our Bodies Matter in Marriage Ep.712 02/10/2026

Physical Health & Marital Intimacy: Why Our Bodies Matter in Marriage Ep.712 How are physical health and marital intimacy connected—and why does it matter more than we often realize? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs.Nancy sit down for an honest conversation about the link between physical health and intimacy in marriage. They explore how stress, exhaustion, illness, aging, and life seasons can impact connection, desire, and closeness—and why caring for our bodies is not just personal, but relational and spiritual. This conversation helps couples navigate physical barriers to intimacy without shame or pressure, and instead with patience, understanding, and love. Whether you’re in a season of strength or struggle, this episode offers hope, clarity, and encouragement to pursue intimacy the way God designed it—rooted in grace and mutual care. You’ll hear: • Why intimacy doesn’t stay effortless—and why that’s normal • How sleep deprivation, stress, and hormones impact desire and connection • Why exhaustion often gets misread as rejection • How physical neglect creates emotional distance • What stewardship of your body has to do with loving your spouse • How couples can talk about intimacy without shame or defensiveness • Practical, realistic steps to rebuild closeness—even in demanding seasons Quotes from This Episode: Often as women, we feel like we have to do it all. We become physically drained and spiritually drained. -Mrs. Nancy Our bodies aren’t machines. They need to be connected to the Lord and good health. -Mrs. Nancy We have to get past the stereotype that if you love each other that your sexual intimacy will be great. - Dr. Kim Body, soul and spirit- you have to work on all three to get yourself in shape, to live life to the fullest. - Mrs. Nancy The better I feel, the better I take care of myself, one our marriage is better, and two I have the energy and focus to serve Him and do the things God has lined out for me to do. -Dr. Kim Physical health and marriage are more connected than we realize. When one suffers, the other does too—care for both intentionally. -Dr. Kim You don't have to be 'super mom' or 'super spouse.' Recognize your limits and give yourself grace in each season of life.- Dr. Kim Taking care of your health is not just self-improvement—it's an act of love toward your spouse and those you serve. -Dr. Kim Even in illness, exhaustion, or stress, don't give up on intimacy. Adapt, support each other, and let these challenges draw you closer.-Dr. Kim You don't need a perfect body—just a healthy one that lets you show up for your spouse and God's call each day.-Dr. Kim Fitness is about being strong enough to live, love, and serve as God intended—not about looking a certain way.-Dr. Kim Questions for Conversation: How has our current physical season (energy, stress, health, sleep, life stage) been shaping our intimacy—emotionally and physically—and where do we need more understanding for each other? Are there any physical or emotional barriers to intimacy that we’ve avoided talking about? What would it look like to approach that conversation with curiosity, prayer, and grace instead of pressure or defensiveness? What is one small, realistic way we could care for our physical health together this season as an act of love and connection—not obligation? Mentioned in this Episode: Dr. Kim mentioned rating your intimacy in order to open the door to communication. We have a great tool for that! Check out our Make sex better for BOTH of you — by romancing your spouse the way they actually desire. Check out this month’s Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to see what God’s Word says about sex and intimacy? Check out If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39947195

Don’t Burn Your Own House Down with Lindsey Maestas Ep. 711 02/03/2026

Don’t Burn Your Own House Down with Lindsey Maestas Ep. 711 In this episode, I’m joined by Lindsey to talk about her newest book, Don’t Burn Your Own House Down—a powerful and practical guide for couples who want to stop self-sabotaging their marriage and learn how to protect what matters most. We unpack how unhealthy rhythms, unmet expectations, loneliness, and emotional struggles can quietly fuel disconnection, and why waiting for your spouse to “fix it” first often makes things worse. Whether your marriage is thriving or struggling, this conversation offers honest insight and hopeful tools to help you fireproof your relationship and pursue deeper connection in every season. Episode Takeaways Most marital damage is unintentional but preventable. Self-sabotage shows up in everyday habits. Waiting for your spouse to change first keeps couples stuck. Behavior change alone isn’t enough. Healthy marriages are intentionally “fireproofed.” Quotes from this Episode: Most couples don't fall apart because they stop caring. They fall apart because they stop considering each other in the little, everyday moments. Playfulness isn't a luxury—it's an essential ingredient for a thriving, connected marriage. Outdo each other in showing honor, and watch how your marriage flourishes. Scorekeeping in marriage poisons connection. If it needs to start with you, let it start with you. Your reward isn't just in the result—it's in the faithfulness and honor you show, even when it's hard. In every word and action toward your spouse, you either speak life or spit poison. When Jesus is at the center of your marriage, your own pride and hurts matter less—making way for unity, healing, and lasting love. Take time to Reflect: What little fire are you ignoring today? Are you believing the lie that it’s your spouse's job to take the first step? What is one small change we could make this week to protect our connection? Mentioned in this Episode: by Lindsey Maestas Make sex better for BOTH of you — by romancing your spouse the way they actually desire. Check out this month’s Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to see what God’s Word says about sex and intimacy? Check out If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39925690

Wider Lens: Heart Rehab with Jerry Flowers 01/30/2026

Wider Lens: Heart Rehab with Jerry Flowers You all loved this conversation in the fall so we are kicking off our Wider Lens 2026 with a rerelease of this awesome interview. Jerry Flowers is bringing encouragement about the patterns of your life and posture of your heart as we talk through his new book Heart Rehab: Finding the You God Created You to Be. Lean into the discomfort, create disciplines for preparedness, and surrender your need for control in order to step into your true calling as a son or daughter of the Lord Almighty. He loves you, he is for you, and we can trust him with our hearts! Episode Highlights: Stop blaming everyone else. Take time for self reflection. If we invite God in, He can use all seasons for our good and growth. Intimacy with the Lord allows us to grow into the people God created us to be. Discipline and preparation go hand in hand. The more disciplined you are, the more prepared you are for what God has next. Culture influences us to mislabel our fears, thoughts and anxieties. Make sure you are labeling them correctly. Quotes from Today’s Episode: I recognize many times, our placement in life isn't just because of problems, it's because of patterns. -Jerry Flowers Patterns reveal character. -Jerry Flowers Patterns are one of the ushers to certain seasons. -Jerry Flowers We want to blame the enemy, but we have to look at ourselves too. -Jerry Flowers Be aware of the enemy, for sure. But I think sometimes that keeps us from taking responsibility for our part. -Jerry Flowers It may not make sense right then, but later it’ll make sense. -Jerry Flowers I see things that God put me through, before we got married, that helped me when I got married. -Dr. Kim We want to be whole enough where the Lord can pour into us and we can pour back out.- Jerry Flowers If you want results, you lean into discomfort.- Jerry Flowers What changed for me is realizing that my mind can lie to me. -Jerry Flowers A Wider Lens: Questions for Self Reflection Look at your daily life and identify one unhealthy pattern you’ve grown comfortable with. What one discipline could you start practicing to combat this pattern and prepare for what God has next? Identify an area of your life you haven’t fully surrendered to the Lord. Choose a Scripture verse to meditate on as you commit to trusting Him completely. Mentioned in this Episode: Website: Jerryflowersministries.com ; Facebook: ; facebook.com/@redefinedtv Instagram: ; YouTube: TikTok: /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39924740

Mental Health and Your Marriage Ep. 710 01/27/2026

Mental Health and Your Marriage Ep. 710 Marriage is one of the most meaningful relationships we experience—but when mental health struggles enter the picture, it can feel overwhelming for both spouses. In this episode, we dive into how mental health impacts the overall health of a marriage, what couples are really facing today, and why caring for your own emotional well-being is essential for a thriving relationship. Drawing from counseling experience and faith-based wisdom, we address common misconceptions, signs that mental health is affecting your marriage, and practical ways to support a struggling spouse without losing yourself in the process. You’ll also hear encouragement for couples navigating anxiety, stress, or depression, guidance on boundaries and self-care, and insight on when to seek professional help. This honest and hope-filled conversation offers tools to help couples stay connected—even in difficult seasons. Episode Highlights: Mental health struggles distort how we see things. How to identify red flags that your spouse may be dealing with something deeper. How to recognize the difference in support and rescue. Encouragement to remain present in the difficult season. Quotes from This Episode: You can’t build intimacy from survival mode. Anxiety tells you everything is a threat and depression tells you nothing is going to get better. Resentment builds when the healthier spouse feels like they are carrying the whole load. Your job is to walk alongside your spouse, not carry them. This is a season, not a sentence. Talk it Over Together: What helps you feel emotionally supported by me when you’re struggling? Are there topics, emotions, or struggles you find hard to share with me? What makes them difficult? How can we check in with each other more intentionally moving forward? Mentioned in This Episode: Marriage need a reset so you can reconnect? This month’s helps you and your spouse intentionally reconnect emotionally, physically, and spiritually—one simple, meaningful step at a time. Start closing the distance and rebuilding the intimacy you’re longing for today. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to see what God’s Word says about having an Awesome Marriage. Check out . If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our . /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39797345

The Road Less Triggered with Dr. Kelly Flanagan Ep. 709 01/20/2026

The Road Less Triggered with Dr. Kelly Flanagan Ep. 709 I’m so thrilled to have Dr. Kelly Flanagan back on the show. Today he is talking about his newest book The Road Less Triggered, focusing on the importance of recognizing and managing emotional triggers in relationships. The work of faith, self awareness, and compassion is vital in our relationships. Dr. Flanagan shares how to stay engaged, remain soft, and practically manage conflict in a way that brings connection to your marriage. Episode Highlights: Understanding Triggered Moments in Relationships Your body is an early warning system Living in the security of God's unconditional love provides a foundation of safety. The posture of your heart affects how you receive communication. Quotes from This Episode: Most relationship conflict isn't like D-Day—it's more like Groundhog Day. We keep repeating the same patterns until we decide to break the cycle. The heart of this work is restoring a sense of choice—the power to keep your heart open, even when you're triggered and it feels impossible. A response is the fruit of self-regulation. A reaction is a failure of self-regulation. You can't connect if you're protecting. Openness is required for real connection. Our culture pushes us to blame others, but real progress comes from taking personal responsibility for how we show up. Until we move out of being triggered and back into connection mode, we'll keep self-sabotaging every attempt to connect. Becoming a safe environment for the people you love inspires them to open their own hearts—and builds true connection. Seeing the ways we differ as sources of complementary wisdom, not flaws to be fixed, can revolutionize your relationship. Questions for Conversation: Think about a recent moment in your marriage where you felt triggered. What physical or emotional signals did your body give you, and how might noticing these earlier help you respond rather than react? Consider a way your spouse differs from you that has caused tension. How could reframing that difference as complementary wisdom rather than a flaw shift your approach and deepen your connection? TRIGGER CHALLENGE: Together, identify one habit or action that makes each of you feel safe and heard. Commit to practicing that habit in your interactions over the next week, then reflect on how it affected your connection. Mentioned in this Episode: Read Marriage need a reset so you can reconnect? This month’s helps you and your spouse intentionally reconnect emotionally, physically, and spiritually—one simple, meaningful step at a time. Start closing the distance and rebuilding the intimacy you’re longing for today. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . You and your spouse differ and that’s a good thing. Find out how to , rather than allow them to divide. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39640970

Reclaiming the Sabbath Ep. 708 01/13/2026

Reclaiming the Sabbath Ep. 708 In a culture that celebrates busyness, rest can feel almost impossible. In this episode, we explore the ancient and life-giving practice of Sabbath and why it matters now more than ever for our marriages and families. What did God intend the Sabbath to be—a rule to follow or a gift to receive? Through Scripture, practical wisdom, and real-life counseling insights, we unpack how rhythms of rest renew our emotional, spiritual, and relational health. You’ll hear practical ways couples and families can begin reclaiming Sabbath together, even in the middle of busy and unpredictable schedules, and why choosing rest may be one of the most meaningful investments you can make in your home. Episode Highlights: Rest is a rhythm and a gift. Rest shouldn’t be legalistic, it’s an invitation. Taking a sabbath has physical and spiritual benefits. Avoiding the sabbath can lead to spiritual dryness. Culturally we are so distratcted and overly engaged; and it’s not what we were designed for. Quotes from this episode: Man was not made for the Sabbath, the Sabbath was made for man. It’s a gift. The Sabbath wasn't made to restrict us; it was made to refresh us. When we’re tired, we don’t choose our battles well. The sabbath reminds me who’s really in charge. As Christians sometimes we feel like the busier we are for God, the more we are being faithful- That’s a lie. Celebrating Sabbath looks different for everyone. Choose what brings you and your family closer to God. Rest is not lazy. It’s not about not doing anything, it’s about doing things differently. If you're exhausted, you can't pour love, patience, or joy into your family. Rest is essential for healthy relationships. You can't just hope for Sabbath rest—be intentional, make a plan, put it on the calendar, and protect that time. Questions to Start the Conversation: How does busyness currently show up in our marriage and family life, and what has it cost us emotionally, spiritually, or relationally? What would a life-giving Sabbath look like for us in this season—what would we need to stop, start, or protect in order to experience true rest together? What is one practical step we can take this week to begin building a rhythm of rest that honors God and strengthens our connection as a couple? Mentioned in this Episode: Marriage need a reset so you can reconnect? This month’s helps you and your spouse intentionally reconnect emotionally, physically, and spiritually—one simple, meaningful step at a time. Start closing the distance and rebuilding the intimacy you’re longing for today. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to see what God’s Word says about having an Awesome Marriage. Check out . If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our . /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39613950

Worth Repeating: 3 Common Communication Mistakes and How to Avoid Them 01/06/2026

Worth Repeating: 3 Common Communication Mistakes and How to Avoid Them Communication is the #1 issue couples ask for help with and in today’s episode, have got the goods to help you overcome some very common communication mistakes! Whether you need a total overhaul or just a few friendly reminders, today’s episode has practical, actionable advice to improve the communication in your marriage. Are you making the same mistakes most couples make with communication? Dr. Kim has pretty much seen it all so he’s here today to help us avoid those mistakes, and to build better communication instead. Episode highlights include: Three of the most common mistakes Dr. Kim sees over and over with couples he counsels: Blame, discounting, and distraction. The impact each of these mistakes has on a spouse and marriage The practical steps to avoid each of these communication pitfalls Quotes from This Episode: When you resolve conflict, both of you have to take responsibility for your part in it. I’ve never seen an issue where 1 person was 100% responsible. - Dr. Kim I think it’s easy for us to rationalize, fool ourselves, and take the time to think it through. - Dr. Kim I’ve done it, I’ve seen it in other wives: It’s easy for us in parenting to discount our husband’s opinion. - Lindsay Listen in a way that you can let them know you heard what they said. - Dr. Kim As a parent with kids in the home, it’s great to have the reminder that they are benefitting from us putting boundaries that let us have an adult relationship with our spouse. As important as they are to us, we should value showing them that solid foundation and modeling marriage for them. - Lindsay I identify with all three of these, I’ve done them all. It’s not something you just get right then coast, you have to stay on top of it. - Dr. Kim Questions for You: Do you use “I” statements to communicate what you need with your spouse? For example: Instead of, “You always ignore me when I’m talking,” say, “I feel hurt when you scroll on your phone when I’m talking. I want to know that you care about what I have to say.” Do you have questions about gaslighting, narcissism and blame in marriage? Send them in here and Dr. Kim will be answering listener questions in an upcoming Q&A episode Mentioned in This Episode: Need more communication help? here to save your spot for Dr. Kim’s FREE webinar, “7 Common Communication Mistakes Couples Make” Questions about gaslighting, narcissism and blame? Submit them anonymously or DM us on . Dr. Kim will answer them in an upcoming episode Want to reduce unnecessary arguments, decrease stress in your home, develop better understanding of your spouse, OR just strengthen your bond as a couple? Our is for you! With , you’ll get one practical tip each weekday to build your marriage. The Marriage Multiplier is a quick weekly email that gives you practical ways to be intentional to grow your marriage. ! /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39552830

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Worth Repeating: Deepen the Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage 12/23/2025

Worth Repeating: Deepen the Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage Want better connection with your spouse? One thing we hear a lot from couples is that they don’t feel close to each other or that their relationship feels like it’s missing some depth. That’s why today we’re re-airing this episode from Dr. Kim and Christina that talks all about emotional intimacy and gives you ideas of practical ways to deepen the emotional intimacy in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: What is emotional intimacy, and why does it matter? Warning signs you need to grow in this area Emotional intimacy killers to avoid Tips to start working on this - alone, and together Quotes from This Episode: “It is hard work knowing someone. You have to pay attention. It takes work to be intimate.” - Christina Dodson “Laziness and business are going to block your intimacy, so we have to fight against those things.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “Give yourself opportunities to connect.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling “It adds value to my marriage for me to have a relationship with my friends, just like it benefits our marriage that he has guy friends.” - Christina Dodson “You could have had the best childhood in the world and you still have baggage because we’re human. That’s okay, and you can deal with that.” - Christina Dodson “You can’t be emotionally intimate with your spouse if you aren’t aware of your own emotions.” - Christina Dodson Mentioned in This Episode: Our digital resource provides practical steps to understand and share your emotions, and to work together to grow your emotional intimacy…and it’s our gift to you for your donation of any amount. Your marriage can only be as healthy as the two of you are. The Bible says, “Let us examine our ways and test them and let us return to the Lord” (Lamentations 3:40). Our new will help you do just that! Print out this and use it to help you talk about your emotions. Our resource is a simple way to help build the closeness between you and your spouse. Accountability is a biblical and helpful tool for growing in holiness. /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39342945

Worth Repeating: How To NOT Fight With Your Spouse About Money with Julie Baumgardner 12/16/2025

Worth Repeating: How To NOT Fight With Your Spouse About Money with Julie Baumgardner The Awesome Marriage Podcast is on winter break, and over the next four weeks we’ll be sharing some of our favorite past episodes with you. First up: Finances! No one loves talking finances, but we do think you’ll love today’s conversation with Julie Baumgardner! Julie shares how to get curious about what money means to your spouse, how two spouses’ separate financial backgrounds and “money stories” can stop being a source of tension, and start becoming a shared value. Listen to this episode if you’re ready to get on the same page with your spouse about finances this season - without fighting about them! Episode highlights include: Questions to start a productive conversation about finances with your spouse How to uncover the hidden money lessons you learned growing up, then to get on the same page with your spouse. What recent research says about the connection of money and marital happiness How to learn more about your spouse’s perspective about money Ways to work together toward shared values around money in your marriage QUOTES: “You have different perspectives about money. You don’t necessarily talk about what it means to you, how you think about it, therefore you argue about it.” - Julie Baumgardner “You can have conversations about money without having to be methodical about every single penny.” - Julie Baumgardner “If you can’t figure out how to live within your means with a little, it will be very complicated to figure out how to live within your means with a lot.” - Julie Baumgardner “It isn’t ‘You’re right, I’m wrong,’ you’re being curious. And in being curious, you’re learning.” - Julie Baumgardner “If you can tell that money is creating stress, what is it about money that’s stressful?” - Julie Baumgardner “Keep your eyes wide open for where God is calling you to join Him in his work. Be aware, and where you see a need, be a Kingdom builder. ” - Julie Baumgardner QUESTIONS FOR YOU: What matters most to the two of you when it comes to money? It’s never too late to define your core values around money in your marriage. What is it about money that’s stressful? If it’s “what ifs," then name the what-ifs and talk through them. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: We found Julie’s article on this topic SO helpful: Winshape Marriage and Find the game online 6 your best married year yet with Click though for all the details of this uplifting resource You can be part of the Awesome Marriage mission by helping to get marriage content to the hurting marriages across the globe. /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39342695

More Than Mistletoe: Staying Spiritually Rooted and Emotionally Connected in Your Marriage This Christmas Ep. 707 12/09/2025

More Than Mistletoe: Staying Spiritually Rooted and Emotionally Connected in Your Marriage This Christmas Ep. 707 The holidays promise joy and togetherness but for many couples, they also bring stress, busyness, and mismatched expectations. In this episode, we’re helping you slow down, reconnect, and approach the season with intention. We talk honestly about why couples often drift spiritually and emotionally in December and offer simple, realistic ways to stay grounded in Christ and connected to each other. From aligning holiday expectations to creating meaningful traditions, you’ll walk away with practical tools to cultivate peace, gratitude, and unity in your marriage. Whether this season feels exciting or overwhelming, this conversation will help you not just survive the holidays—but truly thrive together. Episode Highlights: The holidays can magnify an already existing disconnect. When Christ isn’t the center of the holidays and your marriage, both will suffer. True joy doesn’t come from a full schedule. Quotes from Today’s Episode: When we take our eyes off the true reason for Christmas—Christ—we get caught up in the world's chaos. Don't abandon what nourishes your soul just because life gets hectic. The habits that sustain you all year are even more vital during the holidays. Keep your year-round rhythms strong—pray together, make time to communicate, and carve out quiet moments as a couple amid the December rush. Acts of generosity spark joy and deepen your connection. Intentionality is everything—if you aren't purposeful, the busyness will steal your time and memories. Release the pressure to do it all—focus on what brings true joy to your family. Give yourself permission to let go of traditions that drain you, making room for new ones—or simply space to rest, bake cookies, and enjoy music by the tree. Couple’s Conversation Guide: 1. Which part of the holidays tends to be most stressful for each of us, and why? 2. Is there a simple spiritual practice we could commit to together this December? 3. Where do our expectations differ when it comes to gifts, gatherings, travel, or downtime? 4. What new tradition could we create this year that fits who we are as a couple right now? Mentioned in this Episode: . It’s not too late to start our . Our is the perfect way to assess what’s working and set new goals for what’s not. We gathered all 665 answers, organized them into the top 10 themes, and added 1 practical step for each theme so wives can better meet their husband's needs. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . How do we take a season that is often filled with stress and anxiety and turn things around? goes over four things you can do as a couple to reduce the stress and anxiety of the season and help you focus on Jesus. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at Dr. ! Speaking of being intentional! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our . /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39215260

‘I Do’ Today and Tomorrow and Forever: Staying Intentional with Chelsea Smith Ep. 706 12/02/2025

‘I Do’ Today and Tomorrow and Forever: Staying Intentional with Chelsea Smith Ep. 706 No matter what season of marriage you’re in, intentionality is essential. It’s what keeps the spark alive, rekindles romance, and helps you withstand the temptations and pressures of everyday life. Chelsea Smith joins me to talk about her new book, “I Do” Today: A 52-Week Guide to the Marriage You’ve Been Waiting For. This conversation will encourage you, inspire you, and challenge you to pursue a marriage marked by purpose, growth, and joy because you were never meant to settle for anything less than an awesome marriage. Episode Takeaways: A healthy sex life is vital for a healthy marriage. Serving your spouse before you feel like they deserve it will change your perspective and the atmosphere of your marriage. Never settle for what you know about your spouse- stay curious. Only God’s design for marriage leads to the true fullness He intended for your relationship. Quotes from this episode: "Marriage is the hardest and most rewarding relationship we have in this life." - Dr. Kim "We can't do it on our own." - Chelsea Smith "The best gift we can give our children is a healthy marriage." - Chelsea Smith "Our marriages are the strongest evangelistic tool we have." - Chelsea Smith "Sex is different in a Christian marriage because there's a spiritual component." - Dr. Kim "The marriage of your dreams isn't a fantasy." - Chelsea Smith "The power of thoughts towards your spouse can change everything." - Chelsea Smith "The marriage of your dreams is not difficult; it's work." - Chelsea Smith "I want people to know that we still work at it. We've been through tough times too, but it's worth it." - Dr. Kim "You can't just put them in a box and set aside. A lifetime is not long enough to learn everything there is about your spouse." - Dr. Kim Couples Conversation Guide On a scale of 1–10, how intentional have you been about investing in your marriage in this season? What’s one thing you could do today to move that number closer to a 10? Are there any resentments, assumptions, or unspoken expectations that might be clouding how you see your spouse? Does an “awesome marriage” feel attainable to you right now? If not, why—and what steps could you and your spouse take to move toward it together? Mentioned in this Episode: We gathered all 665 answers, organized them into the top 10 themes, and added 1 practical step for each theme so wives can better meet their husband's needs. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . God’s design for marriage is the best blueprint for an awesome marriage, will challenge you to remember your marriage is on mission for the Kingdom. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Speaking of being intentional! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our . /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/39137655

When Gratitude is Hard Ep. 705 11/25/2025

When Gratitude is Hard Ep. 705 Gratitude can feel effortless when life and marriage are smooth—but what about when it’s hard? In this episode, we explore how to practice honest gratitude even in seasons of struggle, disappointment, or unmet expectations. From grief and loss to conflict and emotional distance in marriage, we discuss ways couples can rebuild appreciation for each other, lean on God in difficult times, and use gratitude as a tool for hope, healing, and unity. Be encouraged to find thankfulness rooted in faith, not just feelings, even when your heart is hurting. Main Takeaways: Gratitude is challenging in seasons of struggle. Honest gratitude is rooted in faith, not feelings. Gratitude strengthens marriage and protects against division. Spiritual rhythms help cultivate thankfulness. Quotes from this Episode: Choosing gratitude when you don't feel it isn't fake—it's faith in action. Sometimes, obedience comes before emotion. When disappointment builds, we keep a mental ledger of failures and let resentment choke out gratitude. Shifting your focus from what's wrong to what remains right isn't denial; it's a courageous act of faith, especially when you're hurting. Gratitude flourishes when you intentionally move from deficit thinking to abundance thinking. Don't compare your spouse to others—celebrate who they are and who they have become. Feelings follow actions. Don't wait to feel grateful—do the grateful thing, and let your heart catch up. Lament is honest, gratitude is hopeful. We need both, because lament without gratitude turns to bitterness, and gratitude without lament turns to denial. Radical gratitude trusts in God's character, not in our circumstances. Couples Conversation Guide: "When life or our marriage feels hard, what makes it difficult for you to feel thankful? How can we support each other in those times?" "How can we remind each other to choose gratitude rooted in faith, even when our emotions don’t match our circumstances?" "Are there ways we’ve lost sight of what we appreciate about each other? What’s one thing we can start noticing and thanking each other for this week?" "What daily or weekly habits—like prayer, Scripture, or reflection—could help us keep gratitude alive, even when things are tough?" Mentioned in this Episode: Need to refocus and cultivate gratitude? Use these We gathered all 685 answers, organized them into the top 10 themes, and added 1 practical step for each theme so husbands can better meet their wife's needs. Mentioned in this Episode: Need to refocus and cultivate gratitude? Use these We gathered all 685 answers, organized them into the top 10 themes, and added 1 practical step for each theme so husbands can better meet their wife's needs. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Need a plan to cultivate gratitude in your marriage? Invite your spouse to read If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38929375

Spiritual Warfare in the Calm: Staying Alert in the Good Seasons of Marriage Ep. 704 11/18/2025

Spiritual Warfare in the Calm: Staying Alert in the Good Seasons of Marriage Ep. 704 When life feels peaceful and marriage is running smoothly, it’s easy to let your guard down—but what if those “good seasons” are actually when spiritual warfare works most subtly? In this episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy talk about how the enemy can creep in through comfort and complacency, why couples should stay spiritually alert even when things feel calm, and how to build rhythms that keep you rooted in God and each other. From prayer and gratitude practices to regular marriage check-ins, we’ll explore how to protect your marriage from drifting and use the good seasons as opportunities for growth, connection, and deeper faith. Main Takeaways: Spiritual warfare doesn’t stop in the good seasons. Comfort can lead to drift if couples aren’t intentional. Good seasons are opportunities for spiritual strengthening. Quotes from This Episode: Complacency is the quiet thief in marriage—it's the gradual drifting apart that happens when you think everything is okay. The enemy attacks most fiercely when we let our guard down in times of comfort; be vigilant, even in the good seasons. Spiritual battles aren't always sudden explosions. Sometimes, it's the everyday neglect that chips away at your relationship, step by step. Your marriage is always on a journey—it's either moving forward or sliding backward. Choose to advance, even if you stumble. Use seasons of peace to intentionally invest and protect your relationship. Couples’ Conversation Guide: When things are going really well for us, do you ever notice ways we might start drifting spiritually or emotionally? How can we stay alert together?" Are there small habits or signs you’ve noticed in our marriage that show we’re getting a little complacent? What could we do to course-correct? "During the good seasons, what’s one thing we could start doing together—like prayer, gratitude, or reading Scripture—that would help strengthen our marriage and faith?" Mentioned in this episode: Need to establish the rhythm of intentionality in your marriage? Use our We gathered all 685 answers, organized them into the top 10 themes, and added 1 practical step for each theme so husbands can better meet their wife's needs. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Intentionally pray over your marriage with If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38928825

Spiritual Warfare in the Calm: Staying Alert in the Good Seasons of Marriage Ep. 704 11/18/2025

Gradually, Then Suddenly with Mark Batterson Ep. 703 11/11/2025

Gradually, Then Suddenly with Mark Batterson Ep. 703 What if the biggest breakthroughs in your life and marriage don’t happen overnight—but gradually, then suddenly? In this episode, we sit down with bestselling author and pastor Mark Batterson to talk about his new book Gradually, Then Suddenly and how God’s long-game approach shapes everything from our dreams to our relationships. Mark unpacks what it means to play the long game in faith, how to take every thought captive to Christ, and why success—whether in ministry or marriage—always grows at the “speed of a seed.” We’ll also explore how small, intentional choices today can create generational impact tomorrow. If you’ve ever felt like growth is too slow or that your prayers are taking too long to be answered, this conversation will remind you that God is always working—gradually, then suddenly. Episode Takeaways: Instead of focusing on how long something takes, we’re invited to stay faithful to His good, pleasing, and perfect will—even when the outcome isn’t immediate. Success isn’t about avoiding failure—it’s about learning to manage it. We don’t need to see the whole plan to take the first step. Quotes from Today’s Episode: "Whatever it is God's called you to do, it's probably going to take longer than you like and be harder than you hope for." "We overestimate what we can do in a year or two, but we underestimate what God can do in 10 or 20 or 30." "The cure for the fear of failure is not success. It's failure in small enough doses that you build up an immunity to it." Success is usually well-managed failure. It's not about pinpointing dates. It's about being faithful to his good pleasing and perfect will. Whatever it is God is calling you to do is probably going to take longer than you like and be harder than you hoped for. Good ideas are good but God ideas change the course of history. By faith you take the first step, even if God hasn’t revealed the second step. You aren’t going to be married very long without some curveballs. Couples Conversation Starters: How can we support each other in staying patient and faithful when God’s timing feels slower than we hoped in our marriage or personal goals? What are some “small failures” we’ve experienced together, and how can we use them to grow stronger as a couple rather than letting them discourage us? Is there a step of faith—big or small—that God might be calling us to take together, even if we don’t see the full path yet? Mentioned in this Episode: and connect with him on socials. Mark Batterson’s new book is out! We gathered all 685 answers, organized them into the top 10 themes, and added 1 practical step for each theme so husbands can better meet their wife's needs. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to shift your perspective about your spouse and your marriage, check out If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38850185

5 Things That Aren't Really Communication Ep. 702 11/04/2025

5 Things That Aren't Really Communication Ep. 702 We all know communication is key to a healthy marriage—but what if what you think is communication… really isn’t? In this solo episode, Dr. Kim unpacks five common habits couples mistake for communication and how these patterns can quietly erode connection over time. Learn how to create safety in your conversations, break unhealthy rhythms from your past, and build new habits that foster real understanding. Because clarity is kind, connection takes intention, and communication is about more than just words—it’s about being truly heard. Episode Highlights: Communication is the number one struggle couples mention in counseling. Talking at someone isn’t the same as talking to someone. Unhealthy rhythms stem from our past experiences. The first step in breaking these patterns is recognizing they are there. Clarity is kind. It’s important that both spouses feel safe to hear and be heard. Digital communication cannot replace connection. Daily touch points and weekly check-ins can help combat the negative rhythms. Quotes from Today’s Episode: When couples say they can’t communicate, what they mean is “we can’t connect.” We tend to overestimate how well we communicate. We think our spouse should just know what we want to say. Silence communicates rejection and punishment. Your spouse can’t read your mind. Unmet expectations are just resentments waiting to happen. Sarcasm is a shield that prevents real intimacy. Use technology to enhance communication not to replace it. Don’t wait for problems to arise before you communicate. Pause before you react. James 1:19 that’s countercultural advice in a world that rewards quick comeback and hot takes but it’s exactly what healthy communication looks like. Couple’s Conversation Starters: Which of the “five things that aren’t really communication” do we each tend to slip into most often, and how can we help each other recognize it with grace? When was the last time one of us felt unheard or misunderstood, and what could we do differently next time to make both of us feel safe to share honestly? How can we build more intentional rhythms of connection—like daily touch points or weekly check-ins—to keep our communication strong and consistent? Mentioned in this Episode: If Communication is a struggle in your marriage, check out this free webinar: We gathered all 685 answers, organized them into the top 10 themes, and added 1 practical step for each theme so husbands can better meet their wife's needs. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Want to see what God’s Word says about what your wife needs? Or maybe, women, you don’t know how to put to words what you need. Check out . If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38795795

The Mindful Marriage: Breaking Cycles and Building Connection in Christ with Ron Deal Ep.701 10/28/2025

The Mindful Marriage: Breaking Cycles and Building Connection in Christ with Ron Deal Ep.701 In this episode, Dr. Kim sits down with Ron Deal to talk about what it really means to build a mindful marriage. Ron shares lessons from his new book, Mindful Marriage, and how restoration therapy helped him and his wife Nan find healing and deeper connection. Together, they explore how faith, self-awareness, and emotional regulation can transform your relationship from the inside out. Episode Insights: Authenticity is the foundation of lasting happiness. Emotional dysregulation is normal. Our brains respond to threat, not fairness. Pain cycles drive repeated conflict. Growth and redemption matter more than blame. Quotes from Today’s Episode: 'Happy wife, happy life' sounds catchy, but in reality, it's an empty promise. Lasting happiness in marriage comes from authenticity, not performance or pretending everything is okay. Every single one of us gets thrown off-balance emotionally. Some stay there longer, others move through it quickly, but emotional dysregulation is part of the human experience. There's nothing wrong about you because you get dysregulated. The brain can't tell the difference between a rattlesnake, a near-miss in traffic, or your spouse's criticism. Threat is threat. Our brains are wired for survival, not perfect communication. You don't have fifty different fights in marriage. You just have one ongoing pain cycle. Once you identify and understand your pain cycle, you can finally move beyond it together. Ignoring your pain doesn't make it go away—if anything, it makes your pain stronger, more insistent, and harder to escape. It's easy to point out the flaw in someone else, but it's vital to focus on your own growth. You may not forget your pain, but you can redeem what it does in your life. Choosing redemption over resentment is liberating. Couples Conversation Guide: Are there areas in our marriage where we tend to “perform” or pretend things are okay instead of being real with each other? When conflict or hurt arises between you, how aware are you of what’s really going on beneath the surface—your emotions, triggers, or past experiences? What’s one practical step you can take this week to be more mindful in your marriage—whether that’s pausing before reacting, praying together, or choosing to listen with empathy? Mentioned in this episode: #1 Amazon Bestseller is available! (designed for every marriage). What's your reactive coping style? We all have one. (15 minutes). Find Need help starting the practice of prayer in your marriage? Here's a great resource: Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . We even have a plan for praying as a couple! Check out . on the Elevate Your Marriage Communication Course & L.O.V.E Your Way Through Conflict Course. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38648500

The Power of Praying Together as a Couple and Pursuing Spiritual Growth Together Ep. 70 10/21/2025

The Power of Praying Together as a Couple and Pursuing Spiritual Growth Together Ep. 70 700 episodes! What better way than to do this episode with Nancy who has been here with me through all of the seasons and cohosts and guests on the Awesome Marriage podcast. And there is no better topic for us than to talk about how powerful prayer is for your marriage and the daily rhythm of praying together. Nancy initiated praying together on our first night as a married couple and we’ve kept it going ever since. Not only does it serve to protect our marriage, but it serves to grow us each closer to the Lord and one another. Join us as we talk about the power of a praying couple and how to pursue spiritual growth together. Episode Highlights: If you feel uncomfortable, start with silent or guided prayers- just start somewhere. Prayer becomes a rhythm that allows you to partner with God. Prayer becomes the glue that helps you withstand the seasons of marriage and life together. Hard times have been some of the biggest seasons of growth individually and in our marriage. Quotes from Today’s Episode: Praying together can feel intimidating at first, but it's not about perfection—it's about inviting God into your story, one honest word at a time. It's hard to pray when you're angry—and hard to stay angry when you start to pray. There is power in the prayer—and even greater power in the One we pray to. When couples choose to consistently pray and grow together, it changes everything—your marriage, your family, and generations to come will be transformed. Let God lead you, one small step at a time. Habits of faith begin with intentional choices. If you miss a day, don't quit. The habit matters more than perfection—keep pursuing God together. There is nothing like drawing close to your spouse in spiritual intimacy—it's a bond deeper than anything else. Take time to talk honestly about where you are spiritually as a couple, without judgment. Then choose just one thing to pursue together. Couples Conversation Guide: What fears or awkward feelings do we have about praying together, and how could we take a first step to make it a natural part of our relationship? How has our prayer life (or the lack of it) shaped the emotional and spiritual climate of our marriage so far? In what ways can we set spiritual goals together that encourage growth without feeling like a checklist or competition? How can we support each other through seasons of spiritual dryness or difference in faith, and what role can Scripture or prayer rhythms play in that? Mentioned in this Episode: Find Need help starting the practice of prayer in your marriage? Here's a great resource: Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . We even have a plan for praying as a couple! Check out . on the Elevate Your Marriage Communication Course & L.O.V.E Your Way Through Conflict Course. If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips. /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38598675

Confessions of the Higher Desire Wife with J. Parker Ep. 699 10/14/2025

Confessions of the Higher Desire Wife with J. Parker Ep. 699 Mismatched sex drives in marriage? You're not alone—and it's not a problem to fix, but an opportunity to grow together. Most couples (up to 90%!) will experience periods where their sexual desires don't line up perfectly. It's completely normal—and it's a chance to build deeper understanding, communication, and compassion in your relationship. Getting honest about differences means you can meet each other where you are, as a team. This conversation is full of encouragement for the couple (or the spouse) who is feeling the disconnect from the different drives. Join Dr. Kim and J. Parker as they talk about normalizing this topic and making your marriage (and sex life) awesome. Episode Highlights: Majority of couples face the struggle of mismatched sex drives. It’s important that the lines of communication are open when talking about desire, frequency and expectation. Open, ongoing communication is key to building intimacy. The way we think about intimacy is often shaped by cultural messages, church teaching, or our upbringing. Quotes from Today’s Episode: Mismatched sex drives aren't the exception—they're the norm. Instead of seeing it as a sign something's wrong, view it as an opportunity to communicate, show compassion, and navigate intimacy as a team. The old script that ‘men want sex and women want romance' sells everyone short. You can crave both romance and intimacy, regardless of who in your marriage has the higher desire. A thriving sex life isn't automatic—it's something you cultivate over time, through learning, honesty, and growth together. Sometimes a gap in desire isn't about your relationship at all, but about real-life pressures. There are times when speaking up isn't nagging—it's partnership. Express what you need, but do it out of love and with respect, seeking to connect and understand, not just correct. Questions for Reflection: When was the last time you and your spouse had a conversation about frequency? Do you feel comfortable telling your spouse what you need in regards to physical intimacy? What’s one small step you could take this week to communicate more openly about your needs and create healthier intimacy together? Mentioned in this Episode: If you are the lower drive spouse, consider taking our . Our brain is a powerful sex organ and sometimes we have to take the time to “think sex”. Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Fight the chaos of culture and keep your marriage grounded in Biblical truth. Check out . If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38458985

How to Rekindle Intimacy & Guarding your Marriage from Emotional Affairs Ep. 698 10/07/2025

How to Rekindle Intimacy & Guarding your Marriage from Emotional Affairs Ep. 698 What do you do when intimacy and connection in your marriage start to fade? How can you rekindle the spark, or better yet, keep it burning strong? In this episode, we talk about practical and biblical ways to nurture intimacy in all its forms. When you intentionally protect and prioritize closeness with your spouse, you not only build a marriage you truly enjoy, but you also guard your relationship against the dangers of emotional affairs. Episode Highlights: Identify the different types of intimacy shared within marriage. The wholeness of your marriage matters. All forms of intimacy must be invested in. Boundaries keep your marriage protected. Quotes from this episode: Your sex life is a thermometer, not a thermostat—it reflects the health of your relationship, but it can't set it. When couples neglect emotional and spiritual intimacy, their physical relationship becomes hollow—a beautiful house with no foundation. Sooner or later, the cracks will show. Without emotional intimacy, sex loses its power to truly bond you together. Without spiritual intimacy, you miss God's vision for marriage—a reflection of Christ and the Church. If you wouldn't say, do, or share it with your spouse present, don't do it. That's your boundary—protect it fiercely. If you have nothing to hide, living transparently should be easy—openness is the glue of trust in marriage. Couple’s Conversation Guide: When you think about intimacy in your marriage, which type (physical, emotional, spiritual, or relational closeness) feels the strongest right now? Which could use more attention? How do you personally feel most connected to me—through words, actions, time together, or something else? What boundaries do we need to set (personally and as a couple) to guard our marriage against the threat of emotional affairs? What’s one thing you’d love for us to do together that would bring more joy, fun, or connection into our marriage? Mentioned in this Episode: Awesome Marriage is on Instagram! This month’s resource targets all the major pain points of communication: Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Fight the chaos of culture and keep your marriage grounded in Biblical truth. Check out If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38395975

How to Rekindle Intimacy & Guarding your Marriage from Emotional Affairs Ep. 698 10/07/2025

Reclaimed: The Story of Healing with Stephanie Boersma Ep. 697 09/30/2025

Reclaimed: The Story of Healing with Stephanie Boersma Ep. 697 I’m so thankful for this conversation with Stephanie Broersma about her brand-new resource: Reclaimed: A Course to Guide You Through Betrayal and Infidelity Trauma. This powerful resource is designed for those walking through the trauma of betrayal, offering hope, healing, and a path forward. In our conversation, Stephanie shares how the course helps you stay connected to the Lord in the midst of grief, while also providing practical next steps and long-term rhythms to move toward restoration. She reminds us that your spouse’s decisions do not define your worth and that there is a real enemy fighting against both your marriage and your identity in Christ. If you’ve been hurting, this conversation will point you back to truth, hope, and healing. Episode Highlights: What fires together, wires together. You have options when triggers begin to surface. Triggers don’t equate to a lack of forgiveness. There’s no need to rush. Give yourself time to get your emotions regulated before making a major decision. Allow the Lord the space to work in the midst of the grief and in the midst of the stillness and heaviness. Quotes from Today’s Episode: Give yourself time to grieve and heal the right way. -Dr. Kim God designed emotions to inform us about our world. They are not bad. They give us language to express what we are feeling.- Stephanie Triggers point you to an experienced trauma in your life and then you have an option. You have a choice. What am I going to do with this trigger?-Stephanie As you heal, the triggers become less damaging. -Dr. Kim Sexual addiction, at its deepest level, is a spiritual issue. A disorder of worship, not to God but to self.- Stephanie Healing does not happen in isolation. You are not meant to be alone in this journey.-Stephanie Forgiveness is a posture of surrender that says, 'I can't fix him. I don't want to fix him.'- Stephanie Your spouse does not define you or your future. As long as God leaves, as long as you get that breath, God's got a plan for you.- Dr. Kim If you’re going to get healthy, there has to be boundaries in place. And they have to be consistent.- Dr. Kim Hope chooses faith even in the mess. Questions for Reflection: In what ways have you been tempted to let someone else’s choices define your worth, and how can you replace those lies with God’s truth about your identity? What is one practical rhythm you can begin this week to stay connected to the Lord as you process pain or grief? How can you recognize the enemy’s attempts to attack your marriage or identity, and what steps can you take to guard against them? Mentioned in this Episode: This month’s resource targets all the major pain points of communication: Want an opportunity to dig into God’s Word with your spouse? Find . Fight the chaos of culture and keep your marriage grounded in Biblical truth. Check out . If you haven’t browsed our site, you’ve GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at , and browse our online courses at ! Sign up for for practical weekly marriage tips! Now is the perfect time to join our . Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38346130

Heart Rehab with Jerry Flowers: Breaking Patterns, Building Disciplines and Finding Your True Self 09/26/2025

Heart Rehab with Jerry Flowers: Breaking Patterns, Building Disciplines and Finding Your True Self This is such an incredible conversation to wrap up our Fridays in the Fall, Wider Lens series. Jerry Flowers is bringing encouragement about the patterns of your life and posture of your heart as we talk through his new book Heart Rehab: Finding the You God Created You to Be. Lean into the discomfort, create disciplines for preparedness, and surrender your need for control in order to step into your true calling as a son or daughter of the Lord Almighty. He loves you, he is for you, and we can trust him with our hearts! Episode Highlights: Stop blaming everyone else. Take time for self reflection. If we invite God in, He can use all seasons for our good and growth. Intimacy with the Lord allows us to grow into the people God created us to be. Discipline and preparation go hand in hand. The more disciplined you are, the more prepared you are for what God has next. Culture influences us to mislabel our fears, thoughts and anxieties. Make sure you are labeling them correctly. Strong core beliefs help us combat the lies of society and satan. Quotes from Today’s Episode: I recognize many times, our placement in life isn't just because of problems, it's because of patterns. -Jerry Flowers Patterns reveal character. -Jerry Flowers Patterns are one of the ushers to certain seasons. -Jerry Flowers We want to blame the enemy, but we have to look at ourselves too. -Jerry Flowers Be aware of the enemy, for sure. But I think sometimes that keeps us from taking responsibility for our part. -Jerry Flowers It may not make sense right then, but later it’ll make sense. -Jerry Flowers I see things that God put me through, before we got married, that helped me when I got married. -Dr. Kim We want to be whole enough where the Lord can pour into us and we can pour back out.- Jerry Flowers If you want results, you lean into discomfort.- Jerry Flowers What changed for me is realizing that my mind can lie to me. -Jerry Flowers A Wider Lens: Questions for Self Reflection Look at your daily life and identify one unhealthy pattern you’ve grown comfortable with. What one discipline could you start practicing to combat this pattern and prepare for what God has next? Identify an area of your life you haven’t fully surrendered to the Lord. Choose a Scripture verse to meditate on as you commit to trusting Him completely. Mentioned in this Episode: Website: Jerryflowersministries.com ; Facebook: ; facebook.com/@redefinedtv Instagram: ; YouTube: TikTok: /episode/index/show/awesomemarriage/id/38300795

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