Awesome Marriage Podcast
Today we are sharing the final episode with Kathy McAtee Young and her story of finding safety after decades in an abusive marriage. In this episode Kathy shares some of the barriers that prevent spouses in abusive marriages from seeking safety and help, ways to begin moving out of the abusive relationship, and the ways healing begins afterward. Don’t miss the conclusion to Kathy’s story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Reasons that abused spouse don’t trust their own judgment Steps to get...
info_outline Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage Part 2: Seeking Church Support | Kathy’s Story Ep. 609Awesome Marriage Podcast
Today in Part 2 of Kathy’s story, Kathy shares the ways she sought support from the church when she realized her marriage was in trouble, the responses she received, and the effects that had on her marriage. In this episode Kathy shares why it’s not possible for the abused spouse to end the abuse, and the difference between biblical versus unbiblical advice about abuse. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Interventions the church put in place, and why they were not successful The wake up moment that...
info_outline Escaping an Emotionally Abusive Marriage: Kathy’s Story | Ep. 608Awesome Marriage Podcast
When does an unhealthy marriage become an abusive marriage? Where can you go when you need to get out? In today’s episode we hear part 1 of Kathy’s real marriage story. Kathy shares how she came to believe that divorce was the most God-honoring option in her situation, and how she found safety after 30+ years in an emotionally abusive marriage. We are so grateful to Kathy for generously sharing her story. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Dispelling myths about who falls into abuse Why marriage...
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Do you fight fair, or do you wish there was a referee to call a stop to the foul play when you argue with your spouse? Ground rules are an important step toward having healthy marriage conflict, so today Dr. Kim will spell out how to make sure you’re fighting fair in your marriage. We want to empower you to fight fair, and resolve issues in a kind and loving way. If you need help to fight fair and truly resolve issues without making things worse, you will love today’s conversation. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights...
info_outline How to De Escalate Marriage Conflict & Resolve Issues | Ep. 605Awesome Marriage Podcast
Sick of the same old fights over and over with your spouse? Learn to de-escalate marriage fights and resolve issues in a healthy and helpful way. Conflict in marriage is inevitable, but the way you handle it is what matters most. Learning to deal with it well will benefit your marriage in so many ways! Tune in today to learn how. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Common conflict pitfalls to avoid The problem with “winning” marriage fights Tips to help you break the fighting cycle What to do if one...
info_outline Learn to Turn Conflict Into Connection with Dana Che Williams | Ep. 604Awesome Marriage Podcast
Learn how conflict can create a deeper connection between you and your spouse. Today’s special guest, marriage coach Dana Che is very open about the struggles her marriage faced. In today’s episode she shares her marriage story, what got them through, and how you can use the conflict you face in marriage to draw you toward deeper connection. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: What we can learn from our conflict triggers How to deal with different conflict styles in marriage Steps to break...
info_outline Should Christians Go To Counseling? With Jason VanRuler | Ep. 603Awesome Marriage Podcast
Why do Christians need counseling? Isn’t the Gospel enough to transform us? We hear these questions fairly often. Today Dr. Kim and special guest Jason VanRuler dive deeper into these questions and the conversation about the role of therapy and counseling in a life devoted to following Jesus. Don’t miss this helpful conversation! We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: How often do clients have no idea that they haven’t gotten past their past? Unexpected ways your past might be showing up & affecting your...
info_outline How to Become the Husband You Want to Be with Jim Ramos | Ep. 602Awesome Marriage Podcast
Are you a man living in the stress bubble? It’s when the years of marriage, career building and raising kids all happen at once. You’re figuring everything out, trying to be there for it all, and it. Is. Stressful. If you’re there, you want to hear from a godly dad who has been there. We’re so happy to share this conversation with Jim Ramos. Jim’s wisdom and experience will equip and encourage you to be the husband and dad you want to be. Don’t miss this episode. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: ...
info_outline 4 More Biblical Prayers to Pray Together to Grow Your Marriage | Ep. 601Awesome Marriage Podcast
Dr. Kim has said that prayer is the #1 most impactful thing you can do for your marriage. Today he explains why that is, and how to make it a habit in your marriage. Today we want to make praying with your spouse more approachable by sharing 4 biblical prayers to pray with your spouse that will grow your marriage. The Bible lists a lot of reasons for marriage, and praying in line with God’s purpose and intention for marriage is very powerful. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Why prayer is an...
info_outline 4 Biblical Prayers to Grow You & Your Marriage | Ep. 600Awesome Marriage Podcast
When we pray, it can be tempting to make our prayers a wishlist. But praying in line with God’s word changes things, and today we’re talking about why that matters and how to pray biblically for your marriage. Today Dr. Kim shares 4 prayers that line up with Scripture that you can be praying daily to grow you, and your marriage! Don’t miss this powerful episode. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Why it matters to pray biblically What makes a prayer biblical The risk involved in praying these things, and...
info_outlineIn this episode Dr. Kim has 2 longtime friends of his here to share their story. This couple experienced the devastation of an affair with what looked like no hope for reconciliation - but God. God did something great and redeemed their story.
We can’t wait for you to be encouraged and challenged by this couple’s story. Tune in to hear more!
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NOTEWORTHY QUOTES
- “No one sets out to destroy their marriage.” - Arly
- “The affair was my solution to a deeper problem: my low self esteem and wrestling with who I was.” - Arly
- “I knew he was struggling with something, I just couldn’t get him to open up about what he was struggling with.” - Amber
- “When I found out about his affairs I felt like I was married to a complete stranger, like a didn’t know what reality was.” - Amber
- “I wanted to demonstrate to my kids that it’s ok to to put up boundaries with people you love who aren’t safe.” - Amber
- “I always said, ‘If Arly had an affair I would kick his butt to the curb and move on’ but when you actually find yourself in that situation and you have three kids and this history, it’s not an easy decision to make. I never judge anyone who is reacting from an affair.” - Amber
- “Setting those boundaries can be extremely scary but God will give you the strength and will remind you that you will be ok.” - Dr. Kim
- “The boundaries that Amber set helped me as the unfaithful spouse to wake up and realize how important my family was to me.” - Arly
- “We would not be together today had he not experienced healing and transformation on his own.” - Amber
- “It takes time to restore trust after an affair.” - Dr. Kim
- “Learning to trust him after the affairs was a process.” - Amber
- “He doesn’t put me in the position anymore of wondering where he is. He lets me know where he is and what is going on so I am not triggered and don’t have to wonder.” - Amber
- “An unfaithful spouse at some point has to believe that their betrayed spouse can handle the truth.” - Arly
- “It’s so powerful in our marriage when we realize that God made us different from each other for a reason.” - Dr. Kim
- “We didn’t want to keep things a secret from our kids. They knew the truth at a level that was appropriate for their age.” - Amber
- “I think the worst thing we could have done to our kids was to act like nothing was happening; they could feel the tension. Kids are incredibly resilient and this was an opportunity to show them how to suffer well.” - Amber
- “He had to rebuild his relationship with not only me but our kids as well.” - Amber
- “Setting boundaries is the only way to pull someone who is being unfaithful out of their fantasy world.” - Arly
- “The God who was healing my heart after this betrayal looked different than the God who I grew up with.” - Amber
- “Our marriage did not come back together until after we both took care of ourselves individually.” - Amber
- “Her healing process looked totally different from mine.” - Arly
- “There is something very powerful in marriage intensive weekends and times away because you can focus on something specific on your marriage together.” - Dr. Kim
- “We have learned to just enjoy each other’s presence and to live in the moment.” - Arly
- “Being intimate after an affair has taken place is awkward and complicated. You have to be patient and you have to stay at the comfort level of the spouse who was betrayed.” - Amber
- “There can be great healing and transformation in this process but you have to go through the dark parts to get to the light.” - Arly
- “I want couples to know just how good life can be on the other side.” - Amber
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RESOURCES
- Affair Recovery (https://www.affairrecovery.com/), Arly attended Basecamp, a retreat affiliated with True North Ministries in Oklahoma: https://truenorth.live/basecamp/, Amber attended a retreat run by Changed Women’s Ministries, also in Oklahoma: https://www.changedokc.com/, together they attended a couple’s retreat run by Affair Recovery called Hope Rising: https://www.affairrecovery.com/hope-rising
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