Worth Repeating: How to Make Romance Realistic in Your Marriage
Release Date: 12/30/2025
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info_outlineHow’s the romance in your marriage? How does it compare to when you were dating? (… and does that matter?)
Romance can fall by the wayside in marriage because it seems like an “extra” that you’ll get around to when you have extra time or money, or if you feel inspired to make a grand gesture.
But today Dr. Kim shares several reasons NOT to let that be the case in your marriage. Listen to learn why you need to bring the romance back and HOW to realistically make that happen.
We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.
Episode highlights include:
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Dr. Kim shares several specific ways romance benefits a marriage
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What does romance look like for men vs. for women?
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What to do if you’re just not feeling it
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Whose job is it to make sure the romance is good?
Quotes from This Episode:
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“Most people would say at some point it was there. So how do you get it back?” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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“We kind of quit doing romantic things because we’re not feeling it. Sometimes we have to go ahead and do them, so that we feel it again.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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“Marriage is a lot better when you’ve got romance in it.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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“I think we’d like it to come naturally, like it does in the movies.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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“It’s ok to have the conversation. We have to get past the mindset of, ‘If you really loved me, you’d know.’” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
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“Romance is a great way to show your spouse, I see you, I appreciate you, and I care about what you care about.” - Lindsay Few
Questions for You:
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Have you talked about romance with your spouse? If not …
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Ask them: What is sexy to you? What is romantic to you?
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Don’t judge their answers!
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Answers may change over time, so check in every now and then.