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3 STEPS TO FINANCIAL STABILITY

Solo Parent

Release Date: 04/07/2020

How Much Change Can My Kids Take? with Kyle Cruze show art How Much Change Can My Kids Take? with Kyle Cruze

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This week we are discussing ‘How Much Change Can My Kids Take?’ with Kyle Cruze.   Our kids have experienced so much change already, and we know stability is important. How much change can they endure before there are lasting consequences?    Kyle is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Tennessee. Since graduate school, Kyle has dedicated almost all his professional time to working with adolescent/teenage boys and their families. Recognizing the huge need that boys have for clarity and guidance, Kyle has sat with hundreds of kids and their parents with...

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What Is Stability? show art What Is Stability?

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This week we are discussing ‘What is Stability?’ as a single parent.   If you define the life of a single parent, you might say that instability is the word. The challenges and chaos of work-life balance, finances, emotional stress, and more are simply a given when you’re a solo parent, and because of that, we may often feel like our situation is not stable. But what does stability actually mean? Are we actually creating a stable environment but we just don’t realize it?    Today, we cover three main points:  1) How to tell the difference between uncertainty and...

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When Your Child Triggers You show art When Your Child Triggers You

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This week we are discussing “When Your Child Triggers You”   Everyone who has been through trauma has triggers. Our children can often push those buttons and trigger a strong response from us—and single parents don’t have a backup person to help out when this happens. If we’re overwhelmed, we react to triggers instead of responding—and it doesn’t go well. What do we do when our child triggers us, and how can we use them to our benefit?    Today, we cover three main points:  Defining Triggers Navigating Triggers The Healing Power of Triggers   LINK...

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This week we are discussing “Parenting a Child Who’s Mad at You”    It’s inevitable that our kids will be mad at us, whether they’re five years old or twenty-five. Their anger can feel like a heavy weight loaded onto our already-exhausting life! How do we effectively and lovingly parent a child who’s mad at us?   3 MAIN POINTS Today, we cover three main points:  Reasons Our Kids Get Angry Our Response (What We Can Do) Keeping Our Side of the Street Clean   LINK TO SHOWNOTES For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click -   ASK US...

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The Three Phases of Solo Parenting show art The Three Phases of Solo Parenting

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In this week’s episode - “The Three Phases of Solo Parenting” - we are honoring single parents as we lead up to National Single Parent Day.   In 1984, President Ronald Reagan signed Proclamation 516, designating March 21st as National Single Parent Day. The proclamation recognized the courage and dedication of single parents. Only those who have been on this often-lonely and overwhelming path know just how challenging it is to be a single parent.    We are all at different stages in our solo parent journey—some of us are just beginning, and some of us are decades past...

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Getting Out From Under Single Parent Guilt show art Getting Out From Under Single Parent Guilt

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This week we are discussing “Getting Out From Under the Single Parent Guilt”   As a single parent, we are second-guessing and undermining ourselves. We want what’s best for our kids but don’t feel like we’re able to deliver it, so we overcompensate or feel like giving up. How can we parent from a place of balance rather than swinging from a pendulum of too hands-off or too involved?   Today, we cover three main points:  The Guilt Present, Not Perfect Good-Enough Parenting   LINK TO SHOWNOTES For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click -  ...

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Helping Our Kids Grieve Loss w/ Annie F. Downs and Tatum Green show art Helping Our Kids Grieve Loss w/ Annie F. Downs and Tatum Green

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This week we are discussing “Helping Our Kids Grieve Loss” with Annie F. Downs and Tatum Green - authors of Where Did TJ Go?   None of us are exempt from loss. We have all lost someone we love in some way or another. This is a painful subject that we often don’t know how to talk to our kids about—but it’s also incredibly crucial that we do. How do we talk to our kids about grief and loss in a healthy, honest, and appropriate way? Our guests this week, New York Times bestselling author, Annie F. Downs and her sister, Tatum Green are Co-Authors on a new book - Where Did TJ Go?...

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Teaching Our Kids Healthy Love show art Teaching Our Kids Healthy Love

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This week we are discussing Teaching Our Kids Healthy Love   We want to teach our kids what healthy love or a healthy marriage looks like, but without two parents in the household, often what they’ve seen is broken or simply non-existent. How do we teach our kids about building healthy relationships when we aren’t able to model it for them?    Today, we cover three main points:  Relationships are Relationships Setting the Tone  When our kids are in unhealthy relationships    LINK TO SHOWNOTES For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click -...

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This week we are discussing Navigating Single Parent Dating: FAQs    Dating is hard, period. There’s no manual, no “right way” of doing things. But when you’re a single parent, it gets even trickier; you have kids now and dating has changed significantly in this digital age. How can single parents navigate dating and all its complexities?    LINK TO SHOWNOTES For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click -   ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have.  Go to and ask us anything…it can be related to a topic we...

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Is It Love or Loneliness? show art Is It Love or Loneliness?

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  This week we are discussing Is it Love or Loneliness?   Sometimes loneliness cuts so deep that we’ll accept less than what we want or deserve; we’re willing to take love from anyone we can get—both in romantic and non-romantic relationships. Sometimes it’s really love, but other times it’s simply a solution for our loneliness. How can we tell the difference in our relationships?    Today, we cover three main points:  How loneliness and love are intertwined Why we don’t want to be lonely Questions to ask ourselves    LINK TO SHOWNOTES For...

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Single parents often face financial insecurity. Finding a place of stability takes time, especially after divorce or other unforeseen circumstances. In today's podcast, Robert Beeson and Kimberley Mitchell talk about ways solo parents can find financial stability. For solo parents around the country, finances are a huge stressor. Paying the rent and bills is a struggle complicated by child support or the lack of it. Sometimes we rob Peter to pay Paul and the unknowns can be terrifying. Our security isn't found in money, but money issues can cause us to feel insecure. Ultimately, God is our Provider but being wise about money is essential. So how can we, as solo parents, move toward greater financial stability? There are three ways. 1. Budgeting: You can't spend what you don't have. The principles from Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University are a terrific framework for greater financial health. Creating a zero-based budget is the first step. A zero-based budget means you only spend what you earn so start by calculating your total income each month. Then, write down everything you spend money on. This is eye-opening and can help you find hidden areas of expense. Putting it down in black and white is an empowering exercise. Knowing what you earn and what you spend gives you a sense of control. Budgeting doesn't limit what you spend; it tells you what you can spend! Spending more than you earn isn't freedom. It's bondage. Getting into debt is a trap. Having a clear written budget gives you freedom because you can move ahead and spend with confidence. 2. Create an Emergency Fund: For solo parents, building an emergency fund is crucial because unforeseen expenses can be especially devastating for those on limited incomes. Saving money for emergencies can seem overwhelming when you are barely making enough to cover macaroni and cheese and gasoline, but it's a key to financial health. If you don't have a fund to lean on, you will find yourself using a credit card. So how can we create an emergency fund? One tip is to look for things you have around your home that you can sell on eBay, Buy Sell Trade, or at a yard sale. Get creative because this step is so important! 3. Accountability: It can be scary to disclose your budget to another person, but it's important to find someone to share this with. While difficult, it's important to know that you are not doing this alone. It's helpful to have another person you share honestly with about what you choose to spend on. Making responsible choices is important for our financial stability, but it's also important because we are teaching our kids how to handle money too. Finally, part of honoring God is honoring him with our finances. As we are faithful with our budget, being generous is also important. It reveals trust in God and His provision. While these principles aren't easy to apply, especially on a limited and sometimes inconsistent income, they are valuable. Even if you need to take baby steps, move toward these principles, one step at a time. God is our Provider and our source of security, but, over time, these steps will lead to greater stability for you and your kids. The effort and commitment are worth it. For more financial health resources, check out Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University. To connect with other solo parents, find us on Facebook, Instagram, and at www.soloparentsociety.com.