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DISCOVERING WHOLENESS

Solo Parent

Release Date: 03/31/2020

You're Being Trained and You Don't Even Know It show art You're Being Trained and You Don't Even Know It

Solo Parent

This week we’re discussing the idea that You’re Being Trained, And You Don’t Even Know It.  In this conversation with Amber Fuller - a counselor with a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy (MMFT) - we explore how our digital world is training us in ways we don’t even realize—and how reclaiming stillness might be one of the most healing things we can do. It’s easy to think we’re just scrolling, checking, or Googling, but what if the constant presence of technology is actually shaping how we relate to ourselves, to others, and even to God? For solo parents especially, those...

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Stop Chasing Peace. Start With This. show art Stop Chasing Peace. Start With This.

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This week we’re discussing what it really means to Stop Chasing Peace and Start with This. Our guest today is Laurie Lokey, a licensed professional counselor and co-founder of Resilient Love. Laurie specializes in trauma recovery and relationship health, and her compassionate, no-nonsense approach helps people move from self-protection to deep emotional connection.  Her work blends clinical expertise with personal experience in a warm, accessible way. For so many solo parents, peace feels like something we have to earn…by fixing ourselves, performing, or knowing all the right answers....

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The Growth Secret No One Talks About show art The Growth Secret No One Talks About

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This week we are discussing The Growth Secret No One Talks About. We often equate growth with activity and achievement, but in doing so, we overlook one of its most profound forms—the ability to sit with discomfort without immediately seeking a way out. How can we embrace stillness as a path to growth?  Today, we cover three main points: How to redefine growth The power of stillness Stillness as a tool We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Submit your listener questions . Additional Resources:    

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How To Feel Better In Minutes show art How To Feel Better In Minutes

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This week we are discussing How To Feel Better In Minutes. When we’re hit with overwhelming feelings, sometimes we need an immediate solution. We don’t have time to unpack it with a therapist or we don’t have the energy to completely change our lifestyle, but we have a strong felt need. What are some easy and tangible ways to feel better within a matter of minutes? Today, we cover three main points:  How to feel better where you are. How to boost yourself emotionally. Responding to physical needs. We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Submit your listener...

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One Choice Away from Change with Justin and Trisha Davis show art One Choice Away from Change with Justin and Trisha Davis

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This week we are talking with Justin and Trisha Davis about ‘One Choice Away From Change.’   Sometimes, we are so stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns with others or ourselves, that we don’t even realize it. Or, we just don’t know how to break that cycle and build lasting change, so we’re left with hurt, disappointment, discouragement, and exhaustion. With so many responsibilities and pressure already on our shoulders, how do we as single parents identify and overcome these dysfunctional cycles that hold us back, one choice at a time?    Justin and Trisha Davis are...

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One Thing Standing in the Way of the Future You Want show art One Thing Standing in the Way of the Future You Want

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This week we are discussing the One Thing That’s Standing in the Way of the Future You Want.   Sometimes, pain numbs us to the point that we can’t see a future we’re motivated to move toward. We feel stuck, directionless, and not excited about what lies ahead. How do we move forward in positive expectation?   Today, we cover three main points:  How to define horizonlessness Normalizing horizonlessness Looking toward the future   For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click -   ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may...

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What If I Need to Rock the Boat? show art What If I Need to Rock the Boat?

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This week we are discussing ‘What If I Need to Rock the Boat?’   We all know what instability feels like, and many of us don’t want to rock the boat even more if we don’t have to. But, sometimes we get stuck in what feels comfortable and we recognize things aren’t as they should be; they’re not healthy and not moving us forward. How do we lean into rocking the boat in a sustainable, positive, and purposeful way?    Today, we cover three main points:  1) Normalizing and demystifying instability. 2) Why instability can lead to stability.  3) How to...

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How Long, Oh Lord? w/ Marty Solomon show art How Long, Oh Lord? w/ Marty Solomon

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This week we are discussing ‘How Long, Oh  Lord?’ with Marty Solomon.   The pain, chaos, and instability that leads to single parenting is so intense we want it to end as soon as possible—but it doesn’t, and we don’t know when it will. We feel like we’re wandering in the desert with no relief in sight. Is it possible to find hope and not live in fear of the rug being pulled out when things are stable?    Marty Solomon grew up in the Reformed tradition before attending Boise Bible College and getting his B.A. in Christian Ministries. In 2008 he studied in Israel...

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How Much Change Can My Kids Take? with Kyle Cruze show art How Much Change Can My Kids Take? with Kyle Cruze

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This week we are discussing ‘How Much Change Can My Kids Take?’ with Kyle Cruze.   Our kids have experienced so much change already, and we know stability is important. How much change can they endure before there are lasting consequences?    Kyle is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Tennessee. Since graduate school, Kyle has dedicated almost all his professional time to working with adolescent/teenage boys and their families. Recognizing the huge need that boys have for clarity and guidance, Kyle has sat with hundreds of kids and their parents with...

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What Is Stability? show art What Is Stability?

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This week we are discussing ‘What is Stability?’ as a single parent.   If you define the life of a single parent, you might say that instability is the word. The challenges and chaos of work-life balance, finances, emotional stress, and more are simply a given when you’re a solo parent, and because of that, we may often feel like our situation is not stable. But what does stability actually mean? Are we actually creating a stable environment but we just don’t realize it?    Today, we cover three main points:  1) How to tell the difference between uncertainty and...

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In today's podcast, we deal with the topic of wholeness as part of our stability as single parents. Wholeness is defined as the state of being unbroken or undamaged but being a single parent can leave us feeling devastated and less than whole. It's especially challenging after some of our experiences and while feeling added pressure to have it all together for our kids. On today's podcast, Solo Parent Society founder, Robert Beeson, podcast co-host, Kimberley Mitchell, and single mom, Marissa Lee, discuss wholeness as something we find not in spite of brokenness but because of it. This may seem counterintuitive but brokenness can actually serve us well when we let God transform us through it. How do we do that? We need to anchor ourselves to Him and then wait for Him to repair and transform us. Anchoring: The act of dropping an anchor is an active process that requires knowing where you are. You can't lower an anchor in mud. It has to be dropped somewhere it will actually hold. As solo parents, we may find ourselves wanting to escape the storm of our brokenness but we cant. Instead, God promises to be with us in it so don't despise the storm. Embrace it as the place where God will meet you and anchor yourself to Him in the midst of it. How do we do this? Specific ways to anchor: Know where you are. Before you drop your anchor, assess your situation honestly. You can't go back to the shore you came from and you may not know where you are going. Instead, accept where you and then you can drop your anchor. Anchor yourself in God's Word. Single parents need to be equipped. We need truth and hope. Surround yourself with it. Play worship music. Find a key verse and use it as a screensaver, memorize it. Especially as solo parents, we cannot be self-reliant. We have to let the anchor of truth hold us firm. Once we are anchored in truth, then what? Well, then we wait. Waiting: Waiting isn't passive. It requires focus and determination to wait when we would rather run from our brokenness. Instead, we must accept where we are, lower our anchor and wait on God to repair us and see us through. Specific ways to wait: Take our thoughts captive. As we wait for God to open the next door and show us next steps, we must take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. Our thoughts are powerful and 70% of them are negative. We have to identify these negative thoughts as lies and speak back to them with truth. We have to be careful which voices we listen to. We need to remember we have a God who saved us! He wins in the end and He is with us in the wait. Be present. While we wait, we need to be present. Be present with your kids, with yourself and with God. Get quiet and still. Allow space for God to speak. Accept what is and find the beauty in it. Be patient with yourself, with your circumstances and with God. Let go of the past and the future. What matters today is what you do right now. Just do the next right thing. Remember, wholeness is not a destination but confidence in the One who created us. So, don't run from brokenness God is at work in it. Be expectant. Be patient Look for God in your brokenness and you will find Him. Anchor yourself to Him and wait. You are closer to wholeness than you ever thought. Find us on Facebook and on Instagram and at www.SoloParentSociety.com.