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SOLO PARENT CRISIS RESPONSE - CoronaVirus (COVID-19)

Solo Parent

Release Date: 03/17/2020

You're Being Trained and You Don't Even Know It show art You're Being Trained and You Don't Even Know It

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This week we’re discussing the idea that You’re Being Trained, And You Don’t Even Know It.  In this conversation with Amber Fuller - a counselor with a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy (MMFT) - we explore how our digital world is training us in ways we don’t even realize—and how reclaiming stillness might be one of the most healing things we can do. It’s easy to think we’re just scrolling, checking, or Googling, but what if the constant presence of technology is actually shaping how we relate to ourselves, to others, and even to God? For solo parents especially, those...

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Stop Chasing Peace. Start With This. show art Stop Chasing Peace. Start With This.

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This week we’re discussing what it really means to Stop Chasing Peace and Start with This. Our guest today is Laurie Lokey, a licensed professional counselor and co-founder of Resilient Love. Laurie specializes in trauma recovery and relationship health, and her compassionate, no-nonsense approach helps people move from self-protection to deep emotional connection.  Her work blends clinical expertise with personal experience in a warm, accessible way. For so many solo parents, peace feels like something we have to earn…by fixing ourselves, performing, or knowing all the right answers....

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The Growth Secret No One Talks About show art The Growth Secret No One Talks About

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This week we are discussing The Growth Secret No One Talks About. We often equate growth with activity and achievement, but in doing so, we overlook one of its most profound forms—the ability to sit with discomfort without immediately seeking a way out. How can we embrace stillness as a path to growth?  Today, we cover three main points: How to redefine growth The power of stillness Stillness as a tool We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Submit your listener questions . Additional Resources:    

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How To Feel Better In Minutes show art How To Feel Better In Minutes

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This week we are discussing How To Feel Better In Minutes. When we’re hit with overwhelming feelings, sometimes we need an immediate solution. We don’t have time to unpack it with a therapist or we don’t have the energy to completely change our lifestyle, but we have a strong felt need. What are some easy and tangible ways to feel better within a matter of minutes? Today, we cover three main points:  How to feel better where you are. How to boost yourself emotionally. Responding to physical needs. We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may have. Submit your listener...

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One Choice Away from Change with Justin and Trisha Davis show art One Choice Away from Change with Justin and Trisha Davis

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This week we are talking with Justin and Trisha Davis about ‘One Choice Away From Change.’   Sometimes, we are so stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns with others or ourselves, that we don’t even realize it. Or, we just don’t know how to break that cycle and build lasting change, so we’re left with hurt, disappointment, discouragement, and exhaustion. With so many responsibilities and pressure already on our shoulders, how do we as single parents identify and overcome these dysfunctional cycles that hold us back, one choice at a time?    Justin and Trisha Davis are...

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One Thing Standing in the Way of the Future You Want show art One Thing Standing in the Way of the Future You Want

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This week we are discussing the One Thing That’s Standing in the Way of the Future You Want.   Sometimes, pain numbs us to the point that we can’t see a future we’re motivated to move toward. We feel stuck, directionless, and not excited about what lies ahead. How do we move forward in positive expectation?   Today, we cover three main points:  How to define horizonlessness Normalizing horizonlessness Looking toward the future   For all the detailed show notes, tips and links click -   ASK US ANYTHING! We want to answer any Solo Parent questions you may...

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What If I Need to Rock the Boat? show art What If I Need to Rock the Boat?

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This week we are discussing ‘What If I Need to Rock the Boat?’   We all know what instability feels like, and many of us don’t want to rock the boat even more if we don’t have to. But, sometimes we get stuck in what feels comfortable and we recognize things aren’t as they should be; they’re not healthy and not moving us forward. How do we lean into rocking the boat in a sustainable, positive, and purposeful way?    Today, we cover three main points:  1) Normalizing and demystifying instability. 2) Why instability can lead to stability.  3) How to...

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How Long, Oh Lord? w/ Marty Solomon show art How Long, Oh Lord? w/ Marty Solomon

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This week we are discussing ‘How Long, Oh  Lord?’ with Marty Solomon.   The pain, chaos, and instability that leads to single parenting is so intense we want it to end as soon as possible—but it doesn’t, and we don’t know when it will. We feel like we’re wandering in the desert with no relief in sight. Is it possible to find hope and not live in fear of the rug being pulled out when things are stable?    Marty Solomon grew up in the Reformed tradition before attending Boise Bible College and getting his B.A. in Christian Ministries. In 2008 he studied in Israel...

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How Much Change Can My Kids Take? with Kyle Cruze show art How Much Change Can My Kids Take? with Kyle Cruze

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This week we are discussing ‘How Much Change Can My Kids Take?’ with Kyle Cruze.   Our kids have experienced so much change already, and we know stability is important. How much change can they endure before there are lasting consequences?    Kyle is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Tennessee. Since graduate school, Kyle has dedicated almost all his professional time to working with adolescent/teenage boys and their families. Recognizing the huge need that boys have for clarity and guidance, Kyle has sat with hundreds of kids and their parents with...

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What Is Stability? show art What Is Stability?

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This week we are discussing ‘What is Stability?’ as a single parent.   If you define the life of a single parent, you might say that instability is the word. The challenges and chaos of work-life balance, finances, emotional stress, and more are simply a given when you’re a solo parent, and because of that, we may often feel like our situation is not stable. But what does stability actually mean? Are we actually creating a stable environment but we just don’t realize it?    Today, we cover three main points:  1) How to tell the difference between uncertainty and...

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Today is Tuesday, March 17. We are entering uncharted territory here in the US and certainly around the world. The President has declared a State of Emergency in our country, and we all know the complications that has and is presenting. When you are already struggling to get by as a single parent and the country is thrust into emergency, we know it can be scary, and an advanced sense of isolation can set in. So we wanted to gather some insights and tips to help you and your kids cope in this time of unknowns. How do we help our kids? (DETAILS HERE) 1. Do your homework - be the source 2. Let them lead - they are getting lots of info, so ask, "tell me what you have been hearing" through social media, friends. Let them establish what they are ready to hear. 3. Tell age-appropriate truthful answers - be the trusted voice in their life. ie. "I will always tell you the truth." 4. Find the helpers in the situations. Every crisis has them. This helps shape a positive way to look at things. (first responders, doctors, and nurses, our government) 5. Talk about / make things that they can control ( let them dress weirder or choose foods that usually you don't let them eat) 6. Give them places to process emotionally (journaling - talking) 7. Limit exposure to the news 8. MOST IMPORTANT - Manage your own anxiety because they pick up on it. How do we deal with it emotionally? 1. Focus on the Spiritual realm. Spend twice as much time focusing on the truth than on the news. Pick a verse and hold on to (Put it everywhere. Write it out -  make it your screen saver) (33 Great Verses) 2. Remember the faithfulness of God. Single parents are incredibly resilient. Focus on how He has been there for you and continue to rely; He will continue to sustain. There is nothing to fear. 3. Find a sounding board but not your children 4. Exercise * Dealing with anxiety - Deep breathing exercises gets us back to the correct thinking and redistributes blood flow to correct part of the brain - Grounding techniques. Focus on something specific, try this with your kids, say "pick as many things as you can the color red." How do we deal practically? 1. Create a Preparative list - the exercise forces the perspective - It provides direction in the off chance we need it, if we don't have time to think. - List the core things we need (if we can't leave the house for 2-4 weeks) Meds Non-perishable food Water List contacts and numbers in case Let it become a project with our kids 2. Let our kids know the plan Wash hands whenever we come into the house. Hang a sign at the door to remind kids. If we eliminate what comes in, we are better prepared Leave shoes outside 3. Find humor / be silly. Funny movies, games, stories 4. Be the kindness that someone needs 5. Make it quality time (Check out our podcast on this) Join our FB Community for updates and live broadcasts - HERE