Working as a Death Doula and Managing Death Anxiety with Niki DiGaetano (BPR #306)
Release Date: 05/19/2025
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We wrap the show with how the Appalachian Trail has changed over the last 10 years, ridiculous features we’d like to see added to a backpack, and the triple crown of last meal orders.
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Interview with Niki DiGaetano
Time stamps & Questions
00:05:10 - Reminders: Sign up for the Trek’s newsletter, listen to our episodes ad-free on Patreon, and apply to blog for the Trek!
00:08:40 - Introducing Niki
00:10:19 - What is a death doula?
00:12:07 - How did you get into this field?
00:15:10 - How do you not get weighed down by the work?
00:17:05 - What does the training look like?
00:21:10 - What is the top piece of advice you have for preparing for a loved one’s passing?
00:23:10 - How do you help people cope with death anxiety?
00:25:30 - How often are people prepared for death?
00:29:42 - How does religion and spirituality play into your work?
00:31:30 - What do you think comes next?
00:35:50 - What advice do you have for people in the grieving process?
00:38:50 - What do you think about the 5 Stages of Grief?
00:41:30 - What are the common regrets of people who are dying?
00:45:30 - How has your work intersected with hiking long trails?
00:47:47 - Tell us about your past relationship
00:55:20 - How did the trail help you grow?
00:56:00 - How did you meet your current partner?
01:00:30 - What are your plans for the future in terms of your career and hiking?
01:02:57 - How do you balance offering advice to your friends and family?
01:05:00 - Discussion about death anxiety
01:07:10 - Do you have any advice for someone debating about doing a thru-hike?
01:09:20 - Tell us about the book you’re working on
01:10:37 - Stay Salty Question: What’s your hottest take in the world of backpacking - or death?
01:12:23 - Where can people keep up with you?
Segments
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- Where Do You Need a Bear Canister on the PCT? By Katie Jackson
- 10 Ways the Appalachian Trail Has Changed in the Last 10 Years by Kelly Floro
QOTD: If you could add one ridiculous feature to a backpack—purely for entertainment—what would it be?
Triple Crown of last meal orders
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