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303: How to Break Your Toxic Attachment to Work

Release Date: 01/20/2026

303: How to Break Your Toxic Attachment to Work

b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck

This episode is for anyone who swears they’re “fine” while secretly letting work run their entire nervous system. Erin and Nicole get honest about toxic attachment to jobs, the martyr complex disguised as responsibility, and why being the most dependable person in the room isn’t the flex you think it is. If you’ve ever said “I’ll just do it,” treated every email like a five-alarm fire, or confused being needed with being valuable, this one might hit close to home. Here’s what you’ll hear: Why a toxic job isn’t always...

302: How to Think Like a Futurist (Especially in a Hot Mess World) with Cecily Sommers

b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck

What does a futurist actually do, and how can understanding change make leadership and life feel less overwhelming? In this episode, Erin talks with futurist Cecily Sommers about how change really works, why uncertainty feels so intense right now, and how leaders can stay grounded when planning horizons keep shrinking. Here’s what you’ll hear: 1. A futurist studies change, not to predict outcomes, but to understand patterns. 2. The future is not figure-out-able. It is followable. 3.All change moves in cycles of order, disorder, and...

301: Micro Motivator: How Do I Build Trust as a New Leader?

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In this micro-motivator episode, Erin shares the one strategy every new leader underestimates: using real stories of failure to build trust. Whether you’re stepping into a new role or trying to earn trust with a team that already knows you, this episode gives you a simple habit that makes people think, “I can be myself around this leader.” If you’d like quick tangible tips and practical corporate career advice to level up your authentic leadership, download the 10 simple “plays” to stop selling out and start standing out at <a...

300: Behind the Scenes on the Road to 300 Episodes

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Seven years, 300 episodes, and more stories, meltdowns, breakthroughs, and belly laughs than anyone could’ve planned for. In this monumental milestone episode, Erin and Nicole pull back the curtain and celebrate the journey that started on a couch in New Haven and somehow turned into a community of thousands navigating work, life, leadership, burnout, and everything in between. And in this episode, they’re not alone. They invited some of their most loyal listeners to join in the discussion and episode! <a...

299: Micro Motivator: How to Make Your Resume Impossible to Ignore

b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck

Most resumes read like brag sheets no one asked for. Big words, boring buzzwords and mile-long bullet points that hiring managers will never read. In this episode, Erin breaks down what actually gets attention. If you’re tired of blending in and ready to get noticed by real people scanning hundreds of resumes, this episode shows you the exact shift to make. If you’re tired of blending in and ready to get noticed by real people scanning hundreds of resumes, this episode shows you the exact shift to make. Here’s what you’ll hear:...

298: How to Be a More Relatable Leader (Without Losing Respect) with Rachel DeAlto

b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck

If you’ve ever wondered how to lead with more humanity without losing authority, this episode is for you. Rachel DeAlto, keynote speaker, communication and leadership expert and author joins Erin to unpack what it really means to be a relatable leader-one who’s respected, trusted, and real even when the pressure’s high. Here’s what you’ll hear: The one thing teams say they crave most and most bosses forget to give What it really takes to rebuild confidence after ego-driven leadership How to use her “Me-You-We”...

297: How Boundaries Can Be Your Brain Fuel with Sheri Jacobs

b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck

In this episode, Erin sits down with author, researcher, and keynote speaker Sheri Jacobs, whose new book The Unexpected Power of Boundaries flips the traditional idea of creativity on its head. Sheri argues that innovation doesn’t thrive in limitless freedom, it thrives inside clear constraints. From playground fences to corporate experiments, from polar bears in the Arctic to the diagnosis that changed her life, Sheri shares powerful stories that prove boundaries aren’t barriers, they’re catalysts. Here’s what you’ll hear: 1.) How boundaries...

296: Micro Motivator: How to Use a Humility Moment to Build Trust (Fast)

b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck

In this micro episode, Erin shares one of the most powerful (and wildly overlooked) tools for building trust as a new leader: the humility moment. Not just “I suck at Excel” level vulnerability, but a real, human story that opens the door for connection, honesty, and trust. She also tells the story of failing seven actuarial exams, how that shaped her leadership style, and why ditching the old-school success rubric is actually the smartest move you can make. Here’s what you’ll hear: -Why trying to be perfect is killing your leadership credibility ...

295: Simple Tweaks to Propel Motivation & Support Menopause with Phil Putnam

b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck

Content warning: This episode includes discussion of suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out for help. In the U.S., you can dial or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Think leadership is about pep talks, perks, or pushing harder? Phil Putnam, former tech executive, speaker, and author of Desire-Based Leadership disagrees. In this conversation, Erin and Phil chat performance, loyalty and even take us into a topic most leaders avoid: menopause. Here’s what you’ll hear: • Why traditional...

294: How “Not Caring” Can Actually Make You a Better Boss

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What if caring less actually made you a better leader? In this episode, Nicole shares how dropping the mental load, setting unapologetic boundaries, and leading with humor have made her team stronger (and her stress levels lower). Erin also jumps in with insights on why authenticity is finally winning in the workplace. What’s Inside: 1.) Why “I don’t care” is Nicole’s new leadership mantra 2) .How humor helps you set boundaries without sounding like a jerk 3.) What ChatGPT is teaching us about tone, trust, and...

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This episode is for anyone who swears they’re “fine” while secretly letting work run their entire nervous system.


Erin and Nicole get honest about toxic attachment to jobs, the martyr complex disguised as responsibility, and why being the most dependable person in the room isn’t the flex you think it is.


If you’ve ever said “I’ll just do it,” treated every email like a five-alarm fire, or confused being needed with being valuable, this one might hit close to home.


Here’s what you’ll hear:


Why a toxic job isn’t always the problem, sometimes it’s your attachment to being needed


How “I’ll just do it” turns into martyrdom and quietly wrecks teams and leaders

The difference between being responsible and absorbing everything like it’s your fault

Why not every urgent thing is a crisis and why you’re not the crisis manager

What it actually looks like to care about your work without letting it run your nervous system

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DISCLAIMER: This episode is not explicit, though contains mild swearing that may be unsustainable for younger audiences.

 

Tweetable Comments 

“You could work in the most functional place, you could own the business, and still have a toxic attachment to the role you have.”

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“We often confuse responsibility with absorption. Just because you own something doesn’t mean it has to become your inner essence.”

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“The things that make us feel safe are sometimes the very things that make us appear inflexible.”

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“You are not the crisis manager unless your job is literally crisis manager. Not everything urgent is a crisis.”

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