Ep 67: Taking care of your partner (and yourself) when they’re struggling
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What does Ai and folding laundry have to do with supporting your partner through a break up? Not very much, but both things sure did come up a lot in this episode! Sarah and Alex reflect on how it felt to care for each other during recent struggles with other partners, and share some tips for weathering turmoil in your relationship constellation. Mentioned in the episode: | Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin:
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Ep 66: Kin, Family and Community Love with Sophie Lucido Johnson
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Author and Cartoonist Sophie Lucido Johnnson talks about the future of family structures, her new book "Kin," and, of course, global extinction. Mentioned in the episode: | | | | | More about Sophie: Come to our March 21, 2026 in Seattle! Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin:
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Ep 65: Alone in a Crowded Polycule
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on March 21st in Seattle with Sarah and Alex of Mistakes Were Made. Is polyamory a salve for loneliness? Or just a way to escape our fear of being alone with ourselves? Sarah reflects on her ‘poly sabbatical’ and Alex explores the psychological roots if his poly enthusiasm. Mentioned in the episode: | | | | | Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin:
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Ep 64: The Religion to Poly Pipeline with Tyson
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Evangelical-turned-athiest Tyson returns to the show, this time to help us unpack why so many people from religious backgrounds like his find their way to polyamory, and how religious trauma impacts our relationships. Mentioned in the episode: | | Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin:
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Ep 63: Jealousy, Anarchy and Psychedelics with Dr Nicole Thompson
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Sarah & Alex talk with Dr. Nicole, host of the Modern Anarchy podcast about jealousy, religious trauma and the first EVER study on relationship anarchy. Oh, and the parallels between psychedelics and New Relationship Energy (NRE). Mentioned in the episode: | | Talk: “” | | | | Follow Dr. Nicole: Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin:
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Ep 62: MWM Live at Liberating Love Festival
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It’s an extra special live episode of Mistakes Were Made! Sarah and Alex are joined by Jessa Davis, Elizabeth Cunningham, and return guest Ramsey for a conversation all about relationship equality, representation, and how to talk to your family about polyamory. Tyson (remember him from episode 33: Solo Poly Showdown??) is our emcee. Mentioned in the episode: | Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin:
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Ep 61: Trauma-Informed Poly ~ Season 5 Premiere!
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Has a relationship ever made you feel like a scared little kid? You might be resurfacing trauma from an earlier life stage. In the Season 5 premiere Sarah and Alex welcome spooky season with a deep dive into the many ways unexplored trauma could be what’s messing up our relationships. Eek! 👻👻👻 Mentioned in the episode: | | | | | | | Follow us: | Logo design by roy franklin:
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Ep 60: Holding Boundaries, Meeting Needs | Season 4 finale
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What are my boundaries? What are my needs? How do I share them with my partners? Sarah and Alex try to understand the differences between rules and boundaries, needs and desires. Mentioned in the episode: mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin: Links to are affiliate links.
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Ep 59: Splitsville Instant Reaction
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Hollywood made a movie about open relationships (sort of). We watched it so you don't have to! Mentioned in the episode: | | | mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin:
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Ep 58: Parents Fast for Gaza + Poly-tics (Encore)
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Sarah and Jessica are fasting this week, so we’re sharing an episode that first aired in the spring of 2024. Is polyamory inherently apolitical? Is it just an excuse for rich people to avoid thinking about climate change? Did Sarah accidentally make out with a Trump supporter at the ferry dock??? Tune in to find out! Mentioned in the episode: | | | | | | mistakescast@gmail.com | Logo design by roy franklin: Links to are affiliate links.
info_outlineWhich fork should you use on a first polyamorous date? Do you have to let your partner be the little spoon all the time? We pondered these and other burning questions in the Finale episode of Season Three.
Srsly though, here's the etiquette and advice we gathered for this episode, if you don't want to listen to 80 mins of our charming banter:
- Let your partners consent into information about your interactions with other partners (esp sexy stuff)
- Be careful of collecting too many partners/spreading yourself too thin.
- Try not to over-curate yourself. Be authentically who you are and let partners meet you there.
- Everyone is tender. Treat them as human, not just means to the experiences you want.
- Take responsibility for ending relationships when they aren't working anymore. Be kind but direct.
- Be honest up front about your capacity. Talk about the parameters of the relationship early and often.
- Make sure your partners know how 'out' as poly you are (so you don't embarass them when you run into acquaintances in public together).
- Seek deeper connections, rather than more; the relationships that you're yearning for might be the ones that you're already in.
TikTokers we mentioned who you should follow:
@newtononmonogamy
@polyphiliablog
mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/
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