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Compelling Convos Ep. 15 How To Rebound From Awkward Moments

Become More Compelling

Release Date: 05/05/2020

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If you’ve ever frozen mid-conversation, overthought what to say, or replayed a moment 500 times in your head… this episode for you. You’ll learn a 4-step framework—borrowed from a literal fighter pilot—that’ll help you stop second-guessing and start speaking up. You don’t need a new personality. You don’t need to be the loudest person in the room. You need a system that keeps you present and moving forward. This is that system. Let’s go. NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? . AUDIO GUIDE -  (Includes word-for-word scripts)  PRIVATE...

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Are you putting in effort to get better socially... but still feel stuck? If you’re an overthinker, this might sound familiar: 👉 You’re applying effort—but not seeing the results you want. 👉 You feel like you're doing the right things—but progress is slow. 👉 You’re trying—but something’s not clicking. That’s not a sign you should give up. It’s a sign that your effort might be getting stalled in one of five traps that slow down your progress: ✅ You’re not practicing often enough ✅ You’re practicing in places that don’t challenge you ✅ You’re focusing on...

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Quick question for you: How can you jump into a conversation without feeling awkward? Ever find yourself hesitating to join a group, fearing you'll disrupt their flow?  You're not alone! It’s normal to fear that awkward silence that hits when you walk over. But don't worry, I've got some tips to help you start more conversations in your day-to-day life. In this episode of the BMC podcast I cover… ✅ A mindset shift that will help you take action instead of hesitating. ✅ Why you should stop trying to think of the perfect thing to say and what to do instead. ✅ How to stay socially...

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Belief you need to unlearn: Everyone is constantly judging you. Unlearning this can make you more socially successful, a better communicator and help you stop overthinking social situations. Why is this important? Believing everyone is judging you can paralyze you in social situations, making you hesitant to speak up in meetings, approach new people, or share your ideas. Letting go of this belief can unlock new opportunities—leading to better relationships, increased confidence, and less overthinking. In this episode of the BMC podcast, I’ll help you unlearn this belief. You’ll learn......

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Do you have to step out of your comfort zone to be interesting? Yes, but shattering your comfort zone isn’t the answer, do this instead. Let's dig in. Good things happen outside your comfort zone. If we all stayed within our comfort zones, we'd be on the couch watching Reels all day. While that's safe and low-risk, it means missing out on opportunities for growth. Stepping out of your comfort zone can lead to meeting new people, starting relationships, finding new job opportunities, and discovering new hobbies. All these experiences help you grow and become more interesting. I cover more on...

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Do you ever feel nervous meeting new people? Here's a game-changing concept: You don't have to like everyone, and not everyone has to like you.  This realization can make your interactions smoother and less nerve-wracking. ✅ Embrace that not every interaction will be magical. ✅ Increase your "surface area of luck" by meeting more people. ✅ Focus on your 50% of the interaction—be open and enthusiastic. I's about quantity leading to quality. I cover more on this episode. NEXT STEP: QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? . AUDIO GUIDE -  (Includes...

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A belief that you need to unlearn is “You need to be perfect to succeed” “Perfect” can take many forms socially... “I need to say something really profound in this meeting.”  “I could say that thing, but it’s not interesting enough.”  “I could ask this question, but it might sound silly.” "Perfect" is that imaginary bar that you need to jump over to give yourself permission to speak up.  It's a trap! This belief can hold you back because it makes it harder to take action and practice.  Why is this important? The more you practice, the better you get....

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Look-real talk: Socially awkward moments happen.

For most of us, an awkward moment can ruin a conversation, first date, or am important meeting.

Not anymore.

In this episode: How to bounce back from awkward moments.

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