How to Grow Independent Adults with Jessica Lahey
Release Date: 02/24/2021
FAQ About Substance Use with Dr. Josh King
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of Today, Dr. King is not just your host but also your guest, since he is answering listeners’ questions. Listeners are the reason for this podcast and their questions are a priority. In this episode, Dr. King answers several questions about substance use disorders, how to seek the best treatment, dual diagnosis, Post Acute Withdrawl Symptoms (PAWS), self-care, and Suboxone (how it works and who can use it). Key Takeaways: [1:06] Question No. 1: How many people qualify for having a substance use disorder and stop using...
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Compassionate Parenting with Catherine Taughinbaugh
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of Today, Dr. King is talking about the very peculiar matter of how different people handle difficult situations in their lives, some would want to never experience the hardships they went through, and others might have come through traumatic situations with great scars, and yet, they consider each moment a lesson from which they learned. Dr. King is accompanied in this episode by , who had a daughter who struggled with substance use, and after coming to the other end, she decided she needed to help other parents. Cathy is now a...
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Harm Reduction vs. Abstinence-Only Approaches with Dr. Andrew Tatarsky
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of . Today, Dr. King is accompanied by , one of the pioneers of Harm Reduction Therapy and the Integrative Harm Reduction Psychotherapy developer. In this discussion, Dr. King plays the role of “skeptic” to really push Dr. Tatarsky on why Harm Reduction is the way to go over abstinence-only approaches, Dr. Tatarsky also provides some tips and skills on how you can try harm reduction now. Key Takeaways: [2:50] Dr. Tatarsky shares why this is the moment for Harm Reduction Therapy. [5:43] Does Harm Reduction encourage people to keep...
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Remember the Joy with Sharon Salzberg
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode and a new season of . Today, Dr. King is accompanied by again after two years. At that time, she and Dr. King were both in shock while seeing what was happening in the world with the strike of the pandemic. In today’s episode, Sharon is sharing how her practice has changed as a result of COVID-19, how to practice everyday mindfulness and meditation in an uncertain environment, and if you listen up til the end, you will get the chance to participate in a full guided meditation with Sharon. Key Takeaways: [1:54] Sharon talks...
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Tackling Systemic Racism with L.J. Lumpkin
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of Today, Dr. King is accompanied by , a marriage and family therapist based in Southern California, who wrote and shares in an insightful conversation the meaning of systemic racism and how it shows up in everyday life for many people causing great rage and trauma. The work that L.J. is doing in his community is really amazing; stick around until the end of today’s episode to see what he is doing in barbershops. Key Takeaways: [2:10] L.J. talks about the vulnerability implied in writing his book. [4:12] L.J. shares how he...
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Picky-Eating Children: Parents Are Not To Blame with Dr. Katherine Dahlsgaard
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of Today, Dr. King is accompanied by who is a psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders. She is also the founder and director of Brave Is Better Consulting and Therapy, located in Philadelphia PA where she works with children and adults who have anxiety and related disorders. including helping children with picky eating habits. Key Takeaways: [2:30] Dr. Katherine specializes in picky-eating children. [3:15] Dr. Katherine explains the suffering of parents of picky eaters. [4:55] Children who are insightful about the limitations...
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Self-Compassion: Learn to Embrace Your Feelings with Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of Today, Dr. King is accompanied by and , the authors of . They share in this episode on self-compassion: how to incorporate it into our daily lives and what fierce self-compassion is. Key Takeaways: [1:47] Kristin and Chris talk about how their lives are now. [3:58] Does self-compassion really help? [5:07] Self-compassion is about opening up to whatever it is that you are feeling. [6:38] Kindness is one important component of compassion and Chris explains why. [8:14] There are both cultural and psychological barriers to...
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The Awe Experience: A State of Evoked Mindfulness with Dr. Michelle “Lani” Shiota
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to a new season of Today, Dr. King is accompanied by , who is a researcher at the University of Arizona where she studies emotions, particularly the awe emotion, which is a uniquely mind-opening experience that inspires us to put aside our pre-conceived schemas about the world and approach new situations accurately, with calm and curiosity. Dr. Shiota shares in today’s episode her vast knowledge in the field of emotions, explaining what they are and why they are crucially important for human expression and interactions. Dr. Shiota dives deep into the...
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Three-Year Anniversary Episode with Dr. Josh King
The Beyond Addiction Show
Dr. Josh King welcomes you to another episode of The Beyond Addiction Show, this episode is the one marking the third anniversary of this podcast an important time to be grateful to all the audience and the incredible smart guests that had taken part in these conversations, the feedback from all of you who are listening are simply invaluable and work as the fuel to get this space going.
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Live Your Fullest Life (Even WIth Fear and Anxiety) with Dr. Jarell Myers and Dr. Julie Jarvis
The Beyond Addiction Show
Today, Dr. King is accompanied by Dr. Jarell Myers and Dr. Julie Jarvis to talk about how we can engage in our own lives even with anxiety and fear present. They break down what exposure therapy is, providing tools for us to be able to create our own exposure to help us cope with our fears and anxiety and to really live our fullest lives.
info_outlineFor those listeners who have children, you know they are your biggest source of joy as well as your biggest source of worry and it has never been more true than during this pandemic since we have been closer to our children than we ever expected to be. How do we know if we are handling situations right? In today’s episode, Dr. Josh King welcomes Jessica Lahey, a teacher, writer, and speaker, to talk about what is the best practice to helping your children grow into independent adults during the pandemic and beyond.
Key Takeaways:
[2:15] Jessica shares how her family has been doing during the pandemic.
[4:50] Are children getting what they need during the pandemic?
[6:58] Learn to parent in a more effective way.
[10:20] The pandemic brought teachers into every child’s home.
[11:30] Jessica talks about her book The Gift of Failure.
[15:07] Allowing your kids to struggle is tough work for parents.
[18:12] Helping your children to develop positive adaptive responses to failure.
[20:04] How does it look to let your kids struggle? Explain the why, show how to, and let them do it their way.
[25:20] Shifting parents from a punish paradigm to a reinforcement style, how can parents use praise to help change behaviors?
[27:43] Focus more on the process and less on the product.
[28:56] Jessica talks about the research on extrinsic motivation.
[30:04] We should aim for intrinsic motivation, but how to achieve it?
[31:30] Online learning is a learned skill.
[35:10] Jessica shares her opinion about parents and control.
[38:30] Parents need to find a new way of engaging.
[41:00] Jessica talks about parenting children struggling with substance abuse.
[46:30] Parents need to learn to sit with their own anxiety.
[48:46] Jessica explains why shutting down your child’s friendships never turns out the way that is expected.
[50:11] How to find natural consequences?
[53:38] Jessica talks about her new book that is about to be launched.
Mentioned in this Episode:
Center for Motivation and Change
Center for Motivation and Change on Facebook
Center for Motivation and Change on Twitter
Center for Motivation and Change on Linkedin
Email Dr. Josh King at [email protected] or tweet him at @DocJoshKing
The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, by Jessica Lahey
Tweetables and Quotes:
“Extrinsic rewards affect children’s motivation and learning.” @_TheCMC @DocJoshKing
“If you smooth the path for your children it limits their way to become autonomous.” @_TheCMC @DocJoshKing
“Giving children extrinsic motivators over the long term does not boost motivation; on the contrary they undermine it.” @_TheCMC @DocJoshKing
“Online learning is a skill that needs to be learned.” @_TheCMC @DocJoshKing
“Align yourself with your children, get to know about their feelings.” @_TheCMC @DocJoshKing