254 - Prioritizing YOU

Join Jill this week as she welcomes Amie Barsky onto the show! Amie is a highly regarded trauma-informed master coach, and she joins Jill to discuss a topic that resonates deeply with many women today: the pressure to constantly prove their worth at the expense of their own happiness. Together, Jill and Amie explore the pervasive patterns of self-betrayal when women often feel compelled to say yes when they want to say no, resulting in a cycle of exhaustion and dissatisfaction.

Amie, in addition to being a trauma-informed master coach, is also a breathwork facilitator, and she shares her journey and the transformative work that she does through somatic processes, subconscious reprogramming, and internal family systems. Her unique approach truly helps women break free from societal expectations, encouraging them to embrace a more fulfilling and nurturing way of living.

Amie and Jill also dive into the idea of boundaries, a term that can be misunderstood or even feared. Amie candidly discusses how embracing boundaries has been a recent revelation for her, transforming her ability to say no without guilt and emphasizing self-love. This episode promises to shed light on how saying no can actually be a powerful act of saying yes to oneself!

This conversation is one that listeners are sure to get a lot out of, as it is both a wake-up call and a guide, encouraging listeners to reevaluate their lives and consider the importance of putting themselves first. Especially timely during the holidays, it serves as a reminder of the gifts of self-care and intentional living, so whether you're feeling stuck in autopilot or seeking ways to reignite your passion, this episode offers insights and practical advice to inspire change!

Show Notes:

[3:13] - Jill is selective about podcast guests, trusting her instincts and prioritizing authentic connections.
[4:05] - Amie launched her I Come First podcast for women prioritizing themselves, which has been live since April.
[7:03] - Many women feel overwhelmed due to constant caregiving and lack of self-nurturing, leading to burnout.
[9:31] - Amie has found that boundaries empower self-love and help align personal values and actions.
[11:42] - Saying no is a way to prioritize self-love and authenticity in relationships.
[13:17] - Amie asserts that reluctantly saying yes can harm both parties involved.
[14:48] - Societal pressure shouldn't dictate personal decisions like marriage.
[18:10] - Amie realized she had to leave a manipulative relationship to regain her wellbeing.
[21:12] - Hear how Amie eventually chose self-care over a relationship that led to self-abandonment.
[23:25] - Amie realized that true self-love involves using one's voice and setting personal boundaries.
[26:00] - Embracing choice and owning one's voice requires confronting uncomfortable truths about family dynamics.
[29:30] - Practicing self-compassion prevents falling into destructive self-criticism and despair.
[30:06] - Jill argues that effective coaches admit their struggles, showing humanity and authenticity in their guidance.
[31:41] - Building self-trust involves keeping promises to oneself and maintaining personal integrity.
[34:07] - Amie emphasizes intuition and self-trust by listening to gut feelings and bodily signals.
[36:37] - Amie advises practicing intuition daily by listening to simple bodily cravings and needs.
[38:34] - Most people are disconnected from body sensations, causing stress and anxiety.
[41:36] - We learn that Amie starts each day with gratitude, breathwork, and listening to her intuition.
[44:54] - Clarity in standards and values is essential for genuine, fulfilling relationships.
[46:26] - Amie emphasizes prioritizing oneself to become a priority in others' lives.
[47:55] - Jill admits her past focus on discomfort, equating struggle with being deserving.
[48:45] - Amie highlights society's flawed belief that success must involve struggle.
[50:30] - Relatability in overcoming adversity inspires others to achieve similar success.
[52:03] - Amie sees jealousy as a sign that achieving the desired goal is within reach.
[54:19] - Amie feels that vibrancy is tuning into one's energy, adjusting its intensity and expression.

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