Ep. 297 | Fun is Fuel
Creating Her Best Life
What if fun isn’t a reward you earn… but fuel you run on? In this episode, we’re reframing fun entirely, not as a bonus at the end of productivity, not as a luxury you squeeze in when everything else is done, and not even as a “self-care strategy.” Fun is a nervous system reset. A return to the present moment. A soul-aligning, joy-raising, spirit-lifting necessity. You can’t create a joyful life if joy isn’t part of your daily equation. And no, you don’t have to earn it, justify it, or be productive enough to deserve it. Fun brings you back into your body. Out of survival mode....
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Ep. 296 | Move Your Body, Meet Yourself
Creating Her Best Life
What if movement wasn’t about fixing your body… but meeting yourself inside it? This week’s episode is a reframe you didn’t know you needed. Your emotions don’t live in your brain — they live in your body. In your muscles. In your posture. In the way you hold your breath without even realizing it. Your body isn’t just a vehicle for weight loss goals or aesthetics. It’s a living record of your experiences, your stress, your joy, your grief, and your power. In this episode, I talk about: Why emotions are stored physically, not mentally How movement becomes a way to listen...
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Ep. 295 | Stillness as a Strategy
Creating Her Best Life
We’ve been taught that slowing down means falling behind. That if you pause, you’re quitting. That momentum only counts if you’re constantly doing. This episode gently dismantles that lie. In Stillness as a Strategy, we talk about how stillness isn’t stopping your life—it’s letting your life catch up to you. How slowing down isn’t a failure of discipline, but often a sign of wisdom. And how listening to yourself might be the most strategic move you can make when everything feels loud, heavy, or rushed. This conversation is for the ones who are tired of pushing, forcing, and...
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Ep. 294 | Becoming Her
Creating Her Best Life
This episode is all about what Becoming Her is and what it definitely is not. It’s not a glow-up montage or a perfect morning routine. It’s the quiet, relentless choice to show up as the truest version of you in the middle of real life. I share how identity isn’t built in big moments, but in thousands of small decisions, and why turning down your inner critic and turning up your inner coach changes everything. This isn’t self-help, it’s identity work: you stop seeing yourself as something to fix and start seeing yourself as someone who is becoming. Reflect as you listen: What...
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Ep. 293 | My 2025 Transformation
Creating Her Best Life
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on my 2025 transformation. The behind-the-scenes shifts and quiet decisions that changed everything. This was the year I stopped charging forward with force and started walking forward with clarity. The year I realized I don’t want a business, relationships, or a life that feel out of synch with me, I want ones that grow with me. Because the truth is, we’re always becoming… the question is whether we’re doing it consciously or by default. As I walk into 2026, these are the non-negotiables I’m carrying with me: Alignment over...
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Ep. 292 | Conversations That Set You Free
Creating Her Best Life
This episode explores the conversations women avoid, the boundaries left unspoken, and the truths swallowed in the name of keeping the peace. Midlife marks a shift where honesty becomes self-care, communication becomes real connection, and silence begins to cost more than it protects. Most women do not struggle with what they feel; they struggle with giving themselves permission to say it out loud. Conditioned to be agreeable and to hold everything together, many women trade inner peace for outward harmony. The episode breaks down three critical conversations: admitting you need more support...
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Ep. 291 | When You Wake Up and Wonder, "Is This It?"
Creating Her Best Life
This episode dismantles the version of you built for approval and drags your real identity back into the light. It forces the quiet questions you’ve avoided: what actually energizes you, what you would want if guilt wasn’t running the show, what you stopped doing that you still crave. It challenges the conditioned life you inherited, the roles, expectations, and performances that no longer fit, and examines the moment when those identities fall silent and you’re left with the truth underneath. You’ll hear a breakdown of how identity evolves, why phases of life expose what’s real, and...
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Ep. 290 | Turning Jealousy Into Insight
Creating Her Best Life
The deepest suffering often begins with five small words: “I wish it was different.” In this episode, Coach Jenn and I uncover how that single thought fuels jealousy, judgment, comparison, and how to turn inward instead of outward when those emotions rise. You’ll learn why jealousy isn’t really about her, or them, or anyone else, it’s about the unspoken parts of yourself asking to be seen. When you stop resisting what is and start listening to what’s inside, you’ll find that real joy isn’t something to chase, it’s something that’s been waiting for you all along. Ready to...
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Ep. 289 | Redefining Productivity, Value, and Progress
Creating Her Best Life
In this episode, Coach Jenn and I challenge the belief that busyness equals worth. For too long, many have worn “busy” like a badge of honor, believing that rest must be earned, that stillness means laziness, and that productivity defines value. But the truth is simple: you are valuable because you exist, not because of what you do. We explore the different seasons of life, from motherhood to midlife transitions and how each one calls for a redefinition of what it means to make progress. Rest isn’t indulgent; it’s essential. Slowing down doesn’t mean you’re falling behind, it’s...
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Ep. 288 | The Comparison Trap of Motherhood (Yep, Even with Grown Kids)
Creating Her Best Life
No matter how old your kids are, the comparison trap of motherhood sneaks in. We look at other moms, our past selves, or who we think we should be and suddenly, we’re judging everything we do. In this episode, Coach Jenn and I break down why comparison shows up at every stage of motherhood, how it steals our peace, and what it takes to let go of the “shoulds” so we can see the beauty of what is. If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking you’re behind, not doing enough, or missing the mark, this episode will help you step out of that cycle and back into confidence, grace, and...
info_outlineSometimes, the most healing thing you can do… is say “no” to what doesn’t serve you. In this episode, I talk about healthy rebellion, not the wild, reckless kind, but the kind that helps you reclaim your life, your voice, and your peace of mind.
You’ll hear why you don’t owe anyone an explanation for your boundaries, your needs, or the things that make you happy. When you rebel in small, meaningful ways, you start trusting yourself again, stop giving your power away, and find freedom in making your own choices.
This episode is for anyone who’s tired of living to please the world and is ready to come back to themselves.
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