Recovery Short Talks: Finding a Sponsor
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Here's how you can pick someone to ask to sponsor you, how to approach it and how not to. Here's also how to choose the purpose of the relationship, process, and the scheduling of meetings.
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Overcoming Depression Part 3 of 3
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First understand suicide, so you can prevent doing it yourself, and help others to avoid it. Then after the fact, know how deal with all the thoughts and feelings that are left behind for loved ones to work through.
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Overcoming Depression: Part 2 of 3
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We'll discuss all the different conditions that can lead to a diagnostic label of "depression" or "mood disorder", and we'll describe which ones respond best and worst to medicine and psychotherapy, and why.
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Overcoming Depression: Part 1 of 3
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We'll learn how to identify and work through emotional conditions of being down short of clinical depression: discouragement, grief, guilt, bogus guilt, shame, and Godly sorrow.
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Healthy Boundaries vs. Enabling #3: Vicarity
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This last form of enabling is the most common of all, because it is the most socially acceptable. It doesn't so much harbor and breed addiction as it does helplessness, dependency, and IMMATURITY. Learn where we got the term vicarious, as in, living vicariously through someone else. Once again, if you can see it, you won't want to be it.
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Healthy Boundaries vs. Enabling #2: Codependency
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How would you know if you had codependency, if you were codependent? The term got overused, and we all heard so many definitions that we pretty much stopped talking about it. But here is a down-to-earth definition that is dead center with all the others.
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Healthy Boundaries vs. Enabling #1: Vampiracy
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How Codependents live like Zombies and Vampires: When you don't feel good about who you are or how your life feels apart from your loved one, what do you call that condition? There is so much of it in our society that it goes virtually unnoticed and unnamed. Get to know vampiracy, because after you see it, you won't want to be it.
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Sex Addict Partners, Part 2
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Tips 11 - 20 of the 20 most important things for partners of sex addicts to know and to do.
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Sex Addict Partners, Part 1
BrainFood for the Good Life
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Sex Addiction: Using a Fire Drill Kit
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How to create and practice using a last-minute escape from acting out
info_outlineIn Part 2 of this series, Dr. Paul Schmidt helps us understand and apply the 30 Best Tips for Recovery from Sex Addiction that he has developed after 40 years working as a psychologist-life coach.
[0:52] Welcome back to Part 2 of Dr. Paul Schmidt’s 30 Best Tips Towards Recovery from Sex Addiction
[1:23] Tip #11: Know how to use a 12-step program (and the three styles of support groups
Dr. Schmidt recommends)
[3:10] Tip #12: Look into professional-led virtual support groups
[4:03] Tip #13: Choose a sponsor and home group to be part of your real life
[5:31] Tip #14: Name your character flaws and your assets (and hear the common characteristic checklist for sex-addicts)
[7:33] Tip #15: Use a 4-circle recovery plan to practice self-accountability in just 5 minutes
[13:02] Tip #16: Practice research-based tools to avoid relapse
[14:49] Tip #17: Tell the truth to your partner--but give “formal disclosure”
[17:05] Tip #18: Learn to respond to your spouse’s pain in a way that builds closeness
[18:53] Tip #19: Look through your fear of divorce
[20:09] Tip #20: Accept that you cannot predict the future of your marriage (and how to “outdo” one another in recovery)