Recovery Short Talks: Finding a Sponsor
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Here's how you can pick someone to ask to sponsor you, how to approach it and how not to. Here's also how to choose the purpose of the relationship, process, and the scheduling of meetings.
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Overcoming Depression Part 3 of 3
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First understand suicide, so you can prevent doing it yourself, and help others to avoid it. Then after the fact, know how deal with all the thoughts and feelings that are left behind for loved ones to work through.
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Overcoming Depression: Part 2 of 3
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We'll discuss all the different conditions that can lead to a diagnostic label of "depression" or "mood disorder", and we'll describe which ones respond best and worst to medicine and psychotherapy, and why.
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Overcoming Depression: Part 1 of 3
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We'll learn how to identify and work through emotional conditions of being down short of clinical depression: discouragement, grief, guilt, bogus guilt, shame, and Godly sorrow.
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Healthy Boundaries vs. Enabling #3: Vicarity
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This last form of enabling is the most common of all, because it is the most socially acceptable. It doesn't so much harbor and breed addiction as it does helplessness, dependency, and IMMATURITY. Learn where we got the term vicarious, as in, living vicariously through someone else. Once again, if you can see it, you won't want to be it.
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Healthy Boundaries vs. Enabling #2: Codependency
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How would you know if you had codependency, if you were codependent? The term got overused, and we all heard so many definitions that we pretty much stopped talking about it. But here is a down-to-earth definition that is dead center with all the others.
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Healthy Boundaries vs. Enabling #1: Vampiracy
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How Codependents live like Zombies and Vampires: When you don't feel good about who you are or how your life feels apart from your loved one, what do you call that condition? There is so much of it in our society that it goes virtually unnoticed and unnamed. Get to know vampiracy, because after you see it, you won't want to be it.
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Sex Addict Partners, Part 2
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Tips 11 - 20 of the 20 most important things for partners of sex addicts to know and to do.
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Sex Addict Partners, Part 1
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Sex Addiction: Using a Fire Drill Kit
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How to create and practice using a last-minute escape from acting out
info_outline[0:54] Dr. Schmidt is back to give us the final ten of his 30 Tips for Recovery from Sex Addiction!
[1:22] Tip #21: Understand your spouse and support their healing process (and the resource Paul recommends to help in this)
[2:54] Tip #22: Recognize the symptoms for your spouse’s PTSD early in their recovery
[5:13] Tip #23: Lower domestic distress--and learn when to disengage
[7:28] Tip #24: Learn the 4 things addiction says to you (and how to talk back--out loud)
[9:30] Tip #25: Be honest with yourself by asking, Is this opposite-sex friendship helping or hurting my marriage?
[11:56] Tip #26: Develop a fire-drill kit to practice calmly walking out of danger
[13:43] Tip #27: Discover how to take “two steps forward” after relapse
[15:28] Tip #28: Learn when a period of abstinence from sexual activity is healthy (and 5 purposes behind why to do it)
[17:52] Tip #29: Learn when temporary separation actually helps to promote recovery
[19:22’ Tip #30: Accept that recovery is a lifelong process of making a good life better
[22:55] Dr. Schmidt’s final caution: the three little words we think that can lead us astray