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105. How Narcissists Use Psychology to Destroy Lives | Dr. Kerry McAvoy

Release Date: 03/15/2025

109. How Narcissists Plan to Abuse You | Dr. Christine Cocchiola

Brad Carr Podcast

Dr. Christine Cocchiola discusses the methods of narcissistic abusers and her experience helping survivors. 00:00 Narcissists plan to abuse you 02:42 Language for control 03:49 Abusers use mockery 04:23 Covert Authority 05:51 Coercive Control Defined 07:25 Dr. C's experience of coercive control 08:55 Threats of Suicide 10:17 Unspoken Threats 10:58 What motivates abusers? 15:58 Trauma Bonds are like torture 20:32 Preventing narcissistic abuse 23:53 Recognizing evil 25:07 Ideal victims 27:50 You don't see the betrayal 29:32 Write down the behavior 32:27 Can you expose a narcissist? 33:40...

108. How to Beat a Narcissist's Smear Campaign | H.G. Tudor

Brad Carr Podcast

H.G. Tudor discusses smear campaigns, manipulation, emotional thinking, and the mind of a narcissistic psychopath. 00:00 The Golden Rule of Freedom 00:23 Get Out. Stay Out. 02:22 The SMEAR CAMPAIGN starts before the breakup 03:02 The Narcissist's Prime Aims 03:41 You are an appliance 05:03 The SMEARING is to control you 06:33 The Narcissist values lies 10:21 Some narcissists are consciously SMEARING 13:26 Specific Language. Narcissistic Fuel. 16:01 Does talk fuel the narcissist? 17:35 Getting in 22:18 You are witnessing your own future 24:57 How is the Fuel Matrix structured? 32:08 Who obeys...

107. How Narcissists Use Love to Break You | Ask Anoushka

Brad Carr Podcast

Anoushka Marcin discusses the inevitable harm of relationships with narcissists. 00:00 Narcissists will harm you 00:44 Sex for the Narcissist 01:23 Sex as a tool for control 03:53 Spotting the Narcissist early 05:48 Future Faking and promises 06:29 Isolation, Cult Behavior, SMEAR CAMPAIGN 08:44 Narcissists will trap you 10:19 Trauma bonding 11:21 Trauma in relationships 12:31 The victim is uncomfortable in their own body 13:13 The goal of Gaslighting 15:58 Breaking your reality test 17:32 Compliance is the Narcissist's greatest need 18:26 Narcissist's lies feel good 19:54 The Discard is a long...

106. How Narcissists Hijack Communities | The Royal We (Kevin McKee)

Brad Carr Podcast

Kevin McKee () discusses the manipulation, mimickry, social control and smear campaigning of narcissists. Kevin shares his three phases of the journey of healing. 00:00 - Narcissist need you to be dependent 01:03 - Narcissists have no identity 03:42 - Giving is a trap 07:10 - Discernment with receiving gifts 10:55 - Giving time can be a tool too 11:08 - The danger of being mimicked 14:23 - Defense against mimickry 15:57 - Narcissists are computers and chameleons 17:32 - Testing an accomplice 19:33 - Narcissists are tribalistic 20:20 - Narcissist's SMEAR CAMPAIGN will turn on you 21:31 -...

105. How Narcissists Use Psychology to Destroy Lives | Dr. Kerry McAvoy

Brad Carr Podcast

Dr. Kerry McAvoy discusses the psychological tactics that a Narcissist uses to destroy lives, manage their fake image, and control other people. 00:00 - Narcissists are predators without conscience 00:24 - What makes a narcissist hard to leave? 00:57 - You are living in the narcissist's movie 01:47 - Agony of mixed reality 02:16 - Excuses: state-driven behavior 03:09 - Targeting people who believe in goodness 03:39 - Testing victim's vulnerability 04:31 - Most victims are agreeable and conscientious, not traumatized 05:30 - Abusers prey on your conscience 06:02 - Abusers spot victims and test...

104. How to Defeat Narcissists and Manipulation | Dr. George Simon

Brad Carr Podcast

Dr. George Simon discusses the covert aggression of narcissists and individuals without conscience, the path to escape abusers, and the process of healing. 00:00 - People can fight dirty and look good 00:25 - How manipulation always works 01:48 - People hide their fighting 02:45 - Fighting dirty and looking good 03:30 - Narcissists use the same tactics 03:50 - Putting you on the defensive 05:49 - Narcissists use group manipulation 08:07 - Exposing Narcissists in groups 10:26 - Backlash after leaving an abuser 11:26 - Therapy with a Narcissist is traumatic 12:05 - Exit fast. No threats. 12:35 -...

103. Narcissism is Genetic. The Abuse is Deliberate. | Dr. Peter Salerno

Brad Carr Podcast

Dr. Peter Salerno discusses the genetic roots of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, intentional abuse, and how to recover 00:00 - Narcissists are deliberately abusive 00:12 - Narcissism is genetic 02:39 - Why blame childhood? 07:05 - Lying Narcissists have misled science 10:03 - Relationships with Narcissists cause trauma 12:09 - Signs of Narcissistic Abuse 13:50 - "Dark cloud over you" 14:53 - Isolation is primary to Narcissistic Abuse 16:31 - Isolation disturbs reality test 17:07 - Narcissistic Abuse is intentional 18:43 - Why does the mask drop? 21:15 - What do Narcissists want? 21:58 -...

102. The 7 Steps of Narcissistic Abuse Recovery | Richard Grannon

Brad Carr Podcast

Richard Grannon discusses Narcissistic Abuse Recovery 00:00 - Vulnerability to gossip 00:15 - Introduction: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Toolkit 02:15 - STEP 1: What is Narcissistic Abuse? 02:36 - What does a victim experience? 04:41 - Do victims become narcissistic? 06:04 - How can survivors tell other people? 10:14 - STEP 2: Cult psychology and reality testing 12:37 - What is a Reality Test? 15:28 - Victim's Reality Test 17:41 - Strategies of isolation 18:04 - Trauma Bonding Process 18:51 - Poison in your ear 20:13 - STEP 3: Addiction to fantasy 23:00 - The fantasy is unfair. Exploitative....

101. How Narcissists Take Total Control in Relationships | Dr. W. Keith Campbell

Brad Carr Podcast

Dr. W. Keith Campbell discusses How Narcissists lie, control, and abuse others in relationships 00:00 - Narcissists control victim's minds 00:26 - Clearing confusion from relationships with narcissists 01:17 - What narcissists want in relationships 02:38 - Narcissistic supply or self-enhancement 04:37 - What is narcissism? 06:47 - Narcissistic personality disorder 07:33 - 2% of people (3% of men) are abusive narcissists 08:32 - Narcissistic relationship pattern 10:30 - Trauma in relationship with narcissist 12:11 - Why leave a narcissist? 13:24 - Gaslighting defined 14:16 - Reality testing is...

100. How Narcissists Recruit and Control New Victims | Prof. Sam Vaknin

Brad Carr Podcast

Prof. Sam Vaknin discusses how narcissists use group psychology to recruit and control victims 00:00 - Groups amplify the narcissist 00:17 - Mapping narcissistic abuse 01:25 - Pathological Narcissistic Space 03:51 - Entrainment and Brainwashing 07:09 - Introject (voice in your head) 08:41 - Physical presence and entrainment 09:29 - Dance and entrainment 09:55 - Groupthink, Cult Psychology 10:28 - Groups are easier to entrain 11:35 - Narcissism is religion 18:13 - Narcissist's preferred careers 23:00 - Narcissists will teach for free 24:36 - Narcissists give to get 27:55 - Making...

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Dr. Kerry McAvoy discusses the psychological tactics that a Narcissist uses to destroy lives, manage their fake image, and control other people.

00:00 - Narcissists are predators without conscience 00:24 - What makes a narcissist hard to leave? 00:57 - You are living in the narcissist's movie 01:47 - Agony of mixed reality 02:16 - Excuses: state-driven behavior 03:09 - Targeting people who believe in goodness 03:39 - Testing victim's vulnerability 04:31 - Most victims are agreeable and conscientious, not traumatized 05:30 - Abusers prey on your conscience 06:02 - Abusers spot victims and test boundaries 07:30 - Pickup artist narcissist boundary testing 08:20 - how Dr. Kerry's ex tested her 09:17 - Narcissism and Big 5 Personalities, Dr. Keith Campbell 09:40 - Dr. George Simon: They have no conscience 10:07 - The brain deficiency of a narcissist 11:22 - Narcissists are predatory from birth 12:01 - How abusers build their skills 13:59 - Dr. Peter Salerno: The SMEAR CAMPAIGN is premeditated 14:24 - Mind mapping: How to tell a believable SMEAR CAMPAIGN 16:20 - Mind mapping to control people 17:34 - Triangulation: playing sides to get the middle 18:12 - Trusting your gut won't work! 18:45 - Gossip itself is the problem. TRIANGULATION 21:19 - What can you do after gossip? DISEMPOWERED 22:30 - Recognize the aggression in gossip 23:22 - Narcissist's incredible charm 24:36 - Fake rapid trust and closeness (Cult Leader Tactics) 25:35 - Mimicking, mirroring, parroting 26:51 - How Narcissist creates a sense you've always known them 28:47 - Narcissism in horror movies 29:25 - Overwhelming narcissistic seduction 30:10 - The alien evil of the narcissist 30:48 - Sociopath or Psychopath? 32:55 - Confusion: the best way to exploit a person 34:18 - Victims consume a false reality 35:04 - How victims are misled 36:42 - Narcissist is the consummate actor. Prof. Sam Vaknin 37:08 - Victims give up reality for the relationship 38:12 - The danger of prioritizing relationships 38:55 - The "long suffering" victim is ideal 40:20 - How Breadcrumbing and Devaluation work 42:01 - The Narcissist is completely dependent on others 44:01 - Isolation, Withholding, SMEAR CAMPAIGN 44:11 - The most DANGEROUS moment 44:31 - The SMEAR CAMPAIGN grows 44:59 - The abuser looks good. Victim looks crazy. 46:28 - Defense against SMEAR CAMPAIGN 47:58 - Leaving Narcissist takes many attempts 48:53 - How Narcissists rely on compartmentalization 51:14 - Narcissist's weird relationship with time, memory, identity 54:16 - "Splitting" defense mechanism 57:18 - The narcissist's jealousy is competitive 57:47 - The narcissist must MALIGN you 1:00:02 - Narcissistic abuse in friendships 1:00:36 - Narcissistic abuse is worse with friendship 1:02:05 - The Twinship tactic of abusers 1:03:20 - Joining a friend group as a form of isolation 1:03:43 - Joining the narcissist bully's entourage 1:03:59 - Complying with the narcissist to get their approval 1:04:23 - Narcissists prey on your need to belong 1:05:10 - Why Narcissists take victims to new places 1:06:02 - Preying on the victim's need to be special 1:07:04 - Narcissistic abuse regresses the victim 1:07:47 - The Art of Seduction. Robert Greene 1:08:17 - Defense against Narcissists 1:10:02 - How big a cult can a narcissist build? 1:11:10 - The Narcissist wants to destroy you 1:12:42 - Consequences for the narcissist 1:13:01 - Listener question: Other dangerous personalities? 1:13:16 - The 4 dangerous personalities 1:15:15 - Sexuality in dangerous persons 1:16:25 - Find Dr. Kerry online 1:16:44 - How to trust after narcissistic abuse?

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