105. How Narcissists Use Psychology to Destroy Lives | Dr. Kerry McAvoy
Release Date: 03/15/2025
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FBI Profiler Jim Clemente explains the most important methods for detecting lies and manipulation by narcissists and psychopaths. He also shares his incredible story of catching the criminal who assaulted him. 00:00 How to spot a lie 02:41 Catching a pathological liar 04:01 Catching a psychopath or narcissist 06:01 Subconscious assessment of danger 10:43 How charm and generosity mask ill intent 12:30 Lovebombing threatens autonomy 16:07 Predators gain skill with experience 17:41 Strategies for escaping a predator 19:30 Apologies are manipulations 21:36 Narcissists can lie about murder 31:25...
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Dr. Robin Stern of Yale University shares the abusive Gaslighting tactics used to destabilize and control people. Dr. Stern offers tools to spot Gaslighting and prevent it in the future. 00:00 Gaslighting controls people 02:08 Learning to gaslight people 04:17 Narcissists use gaslighting to gain control 05:48 Gaslighting is a dance 09:17 Gaslighting gets progressively worse 13:20 The Urge to Merge 14:48 Commitment to fantasy over reality 15:38 Shame, Isolation, and Dependence 16:54 Gaslighting diminishes emotional intelligence 21:15 Gaslighters will "Fix" you 23:48 Gaslighting's vicious cycle...
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Dr. Nadine Macaluso exposes the trauma bonding and con artistry of human predators who will deceive, exploit, betray, and harm anyone for power, pleasure, money, or status. 00:00 Introduction 00:58 How to see the predator coming 02:40 Is he tender or twisted? 03:38 It's not only Narcissism 05:17 Predatory personalities and malevolent intentions 07:05 Narcissists compensate for their emptiness 07:56 Evil exists. 09:27 The Dark Tetrad 12:08 Trauma Bonds 13:40 What are power and control? 15:49 Hope will hook the victim 16:43 Trauma is stronger than love 18:28 Torture the victim, then soothe the...
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Cult Deprogrammer, Rick Ross shares how narcissistic abusers and cult leaders use the same tactics to deceive, exploit, betray, and harm others for power, sex, money, or status. 00:00 Narcissists and cults are everywhere 01:16 Cults and Narcissists are similar 02:04 Isolation impairs your frame of reference 03:46 Cult leaders are Narcissistic Psychopaths 04:30 Relationship with a Narcissist is a cult 05:02 Gaslighting, Mystical Manipulation, Thought Reform 06:58 D.C. Sniper. Narcissist as "Mentor" 08:06 25% of men are abused 08:56 The goal of an abusive Narcissist 09:28 Keith Raniere and NXIVM...
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Dr. Christine Cocchiola discusses the methods of narcissistic abusers and her experience helping survivors. 00:00 Narcissists plan to abuse you 02:42 Language for control 03:49 Abusers use mockery 04:23 Covert Authority 05:51 Coercive Control Defined 07:25 Dr. C's experience of coercive control 08:55 Threats of Suicide 10:17 Unspoken Threats 10:58 What motivates abusers? 15:58 Trauma Bonds are like torture 20:32 Preventing narcissistic abuse 23:53 Recognizing evil 25:07 Ideal victims 27:50 You don't see the betrayal 29:32 Write down the behavior 32:27 Can you expose a narcissist? 33:40...
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H.G. Tudor discusses smear campaigns, manipulation, emotional thinking, and the mind of a narcissistic psychopath. 00:00 The Golden Rule of Freedom 00:23 Get Out. Stay Out. 02:22 The SMEAR CAMPAIGN starts before the breakup 03:02 The Narcissist's Prime Aims 03:41 You are an appliance 05:03 The SMEARING is to control you 06:33 The Narcissist values lies 10:21 Some narcissists are consciously SMEARING 13:26 Specific Language. Narcissistic Fuel. 16:01 Does talk fuel the narcissist? 17:35 Getting in 22:18 You are witnessing your own future 24:57 How is the Fuel Matrix structured? 32:08 Who obeys...
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Anoushka Marcin discusses the inevitable harm of relationships with narcissists. 00:00 Narcissists will harm you 00:44 Sex for the Narcissist 01:23 Sex as a tool for control 03:53 Spotting the Narcissist early 05:48 Future Faking and promises 06:29 Isolation, Cult Behavior, SMEAR CAMPAIGN 08:44 Narcissists will trap you 10:19 Trauma bonding 11:21 Trauma in relationships 12:31 The victim is uncomfortable in their own body 13:13 The goal of Gaslighting 15:58 Breaking your reality test 17:32 Compliance is the Narcissist's greatest need 18:26 Narcissist's lies feel good 19:54 The Discard is a long...
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Kevin McKee () discusses the manipulation, mimickry, social control and smear campaigning of narcissists. Kevin shares his three phases of the journey of healing. 00:00 - Narcissist need you to be dependent 01:03 - Narcissists have no identity 03:42 - Giving is a trap 07:10 - Discernment with receiving gifts 10:55 - Giving time can be a tool too 11:08 - The danger of being mimicked 14:23 - Defense against mimickry 15:57 - Narcissists are computers and chameleons 17:32 - Testing an accomplice 19:33 - Narcissists are tribalistic 20:20 - Narcissist's SMEAR CAMPAIGN will turn on you 21:31 -...
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Dr. Kerry McAvoy discusses the psychological tactics that a Narcissist uses to destroy lives, manage their fake image, and control other people. 00:00 - Narcissists are predators without conscience 00:24 - What makes a narcissist hard to leave? 00:57 - You are living in the narcissist's movie 01:47 - Agony of mixed reality 02:16 - Excuses: state-driven behavior 03:09 - Targeting people who believe in goodness 03:39 - Testing victim's vulnerability 04:31 - Most victims are agreeable and conscientious, not traumatized 05:30 - Abusers prey on your conscience 06:02 - Abusers spot victims and test...
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Dr. George Simon discusses the covert aggression of narcissists and individuals without conscience, the path to escape abusers, and the process of healing. 00:00 - People can fight dirty and look good 00:25 - How manipulation always works 01:48 - People hide their fighting 02:45 - Fighting dirty and looking good 03:30 - Narcissists use the same tactics 03:50 - Putting you on the defensive 05:49 - Narcissists use group manipulation 08:07 - Exposing Narcissists in groups 10:26 - Backlash after leaving an abuser 11:26 - Therapy with a Narcissist is traumatic 12:05 - Exit fast. No threats. 12:35 -...
info_outlineDr. Kerry McAvoy discusses the psychological tactics that a Narcissist uses to destroy lives, manage their fake image, and control other people.
00:00 - Narcissists are predators without conscience 00:24 - What makes a narcissist hard to leave? 00:57 - You are living in the narcissist's movie 01:47 - Agony of mixed reality 02:16 - Excuses: state-driven behavior 03:09 - Targeting people who believe in goodness 03:39 - Testing victim's vulnerability 04:31 - Most victims are agreeable and conscientious, not traumatized 05:30 - Abusers prey on your conscience 06:02 - Abusers spot victims and test boundaries 07:30 - Pickup artist narcissist boundary testing 08:20 - how Dr. Kerry's ex tested her 09:17 - Narcissism and Big 5 Personalities, Dr. Keith Campbell 09:40 - Dr. George Simon: They have no conscience 10:07 - The brain deficiency of a narcissist 11:22 - Narcissists are predatory from birth 12:01 - How abusers build their skills 13:59 - Dr. Peter Salerno: The SMEAR CAMPAIGN is premeditated 14:24 - Mind mapping: How to tell a believable SMEAR CAMPAIGN 16:20 - Mind mapping to control people 17:34 - Triangulation: playing sides to get the middle 18:12 - Trusting your gut won't work! 18:45 - Gossip itself is the problem. TRIANGULATION 21:19 - What can you do after gossip? DISEMPOWERED 22:30 - Recognize the aggression in gossip 23:22 - Narcissist's incredible charm 24:36 - Fake rapid trust and closeness (Cult Leader Tactics) 25:35 - Mimicking, mirroring, parroting 26:51 - How Narcissist creates a sense you've always known them 28:47 - Narcissism in horror movies 29:25 - Overwhelming narcissistic seduction 30:10 - The alien evil of the narcissist 30:48 - Sociopath or Psychopath? 32:55 - Confusion: the best way to exploit a person 34:18 - Victims consume a false reality 35:04 - How victims are misled 36:42 - Narcissist is the consummate actor. Prof. Sam Vaknin 37:08 - Victims give up reality for the relationship 38:12 - The danger of prioritizing relationships 38:55 - The "long suffering" victim is ideal 40:20 - How Breadcrumbing and Devaluation work 42:01 - The Narcissist is completely dependent on others 44:01 - Isolation, Withholding, SMEAR CAMPAIGN 44:11 - The most DANGEROUS moment 44:31 - The SMEAR CAMPAIGN grows 44:59 - The abuser looks good. Victim looks crazy. 46:28 - Defense against SMEAR CAMPAIGN 47:58 - Leaving Narcissist takes many attempts 48:53 - How Narcissists rely on compartmentalization 51:14 - Narcissist's weird relationship with time, memory, identity 54:16 - "Splitting" defense mechanism 57:18 - The narcissist's jealousy is competitive 57:47 - The narcissist must MALIGN you 1:00:02 - Narcissistic abuse in friendships 1:00:36 - Narcissistic abuse is worse with friendship 1:02:05 - The Twinship tactic of abusers 1:03:20 - Joining a friend group as a form of isolation 1:03:43 - Joining the narcissist bully's entourage 1:03:59 - Complying with the narcissist to get their approval 1:04:23 - Narcissists prey on your need to belong 1:05:10 - Why Narcissists take victims to new places 1:06:02 - Preying on the victim's need to be special 1:07:04 - Narcissistic abuse regresses the victim 1:07:47 - The Art of Seduction. Robert Greene 1:08:17 - Defense against Narcissists 1:10:02 - How big a cult can a narcissist build? 1:11:10 - The Narcissist wants to destroy you 1:12:42 - Consequences for the narcissist 1:13:01 - Listener question: Other dangerous personalities? 1:13:16 - The 4 dangerous personalities 1:15:15 - Sexuality in dangerous persons 1:16:25 - Find Dr. Kerry online 1:16:44 - How to trust after narcissistic abuse?
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DISCLAIMER: The information provided is for educational purposes only and should not be considered as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice from a qualified healthcare provider.
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RELATED LINKS
Dr. George Simon on Narcissists and Manipulation: https://youtu.be/rThlIF1Hzp4
Dr. Peter Salerno on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/yx-0px-ymtM
Prof. Sam Vaknin on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/MVulOdCa1YU
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: https://youtu.be/XXP941XRLUI
Narcissistic Relationships Episode: https://youtu.be/dl52f2vy7FQ
Dr. Kerry McAvoy's website: www.kerrymcavoyphd.com
Dr. Kerry McAvoy's channel: @KerryMcAvoyPhD
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