105. How Narcissists Use Psychology to Destroy Lives | Dr. Kerry McAvoy
Release Date: 03/15/2025
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info_outlineDr. Kerry McAvoy discusses the psychological tactics that a Narcissist uses to destroy lives, manage their fake image, and control other people.
00:00 - Narcissists are predators without conscience 00:24 - What makes a narcissist hard to leave? 00:57 - You are living in the narcissist's movie 01:47 - Agony of mixed reality 02:16 - Excuses: state-driven behavior 03:09 - Targeting people who believe in goodness 03:39 - Testing victim's vulnerability 04:31 - Most victims are agreeable and conscientious, not traumatized 05:30 - Abusers prey on your conscience 06:02 - Abusers spot victims and test boundaries 07:30 - Pickup artist narcissist boundary testing 08:20 - how Dr. Kerry's ex tested her 09:17 - Narcissism and Big 5 Personalities, Dr. Keith Campbell 09:40 - Dr. George Simon: They have no conscience 10:07 - The brain deficiency of a narcissist 11:22 - Narcissists are predatory from birth 12:01 - How abusers build their skills 13:59 - Dr. Peter Salerno: The SMEAR CAMPAIGN is premeditated 14:24 - Mind mapping: How to tell a believable SMEAR CAMPAIGN 16:20 - Mind mapping to control people 17:34 - Triangulation: playing sides to get the middle 18:12 - Trusting your gut won't work! 18:45 - Gossip itself is the problem. TRIANGULATION 21:19 - What can you do after gossip? DISEMPOWERED 22:30 - Recognize the aggression in gossip 23:22 - Narcissist's incredible charm 24:36 - Fake rapid trust and closeness (Cult Leader Tactics) 25:35 - Mimicking, mirroring, parroting 26:51 - How Narcissist creates a sense you've always known them 28:47 - Narcissism in horror movies 29:25 - Overwhelming narcissistic seduction 30:10 - The alien evil of the narcissist 30:48 - Sociopath or Psychopath? 32:55 - Confusion: the best way to exploit a person 34:18 - Victims consume a false reality 35:04 - How victims are misled 36:42 - Narcissist is the consummate actor. Prof. Sam Vaknin 37:08 - Victims give up reality for the relationship 38:12 - The danger of prioritizing relationships 38:55 - The "long suffering" victim is ideal 40:20 - How Breadcrumbing and Devaluation work 42:01 - The Narcissist is completely dependent on others 44:01 - Isolation, Withholding, SMEAR CAMPAIGN 44:11 - The most DANGEROUS moment 44:31 - The SMEAR CAMPAIGN grows 44:59 - The abuser looks good. Victim looks crazy. 46:28 - Defense against SMEAR CAMPAIGN 47:58 - Leaving Narcissist takes many attempts 48:53 - How Narcissists rely on compartmentalization 51:14 - Narcissist's weird relationship with time, memory, identity 54:16 - "Splitting" defense mechanism 57:18 - The narcissist's jealousy is competitive 57:47 - The narcissist must MALIGN you 1:00:02 - Narcissistic abuse in friendships 1:00:36 - Narcissistic abuse is worse with friendship 1:02:05 - The Twinship tactic of abusers 1:03:20 - Joining a friend group as a form of isolation 1:03:43 - Joining the narcissist bully's entourage 1:03:59 - Complying with the narcissist to get their approval 1:04:23 - Narcissists prey on your need to belong 1:05:10 - Why Narcissists take victims to new places 1:06:02 - Preying on the victim's need to be special 1:07:04 - Narcissistic abuse regresses the victim 1:07:47 - The Art of Seduction. Robert Greene 1:08:17 - Defense against Narcissists 1:10:02 - How big a cult can a narcissist build? 1:11:10 - The Narcissist wants to destroy you 1:12:42 - Consequences for the narcissist 1:13:01 - Listener question: Other dangerous personalities? 1:13:16 - The 4 dangerous personalities 1:15:15 - Sexuality in dangerous persons 1:16:25 - Find Dr. Kerry online 1:16:44 - How to trust after narcissistic abuse?
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DISCLAIMER: The information provided is for educational purposes only and should not be considered as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice from a qualified healthcare provider.
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RELATED LINKS
Dr. George Simon on Narcissists and Manipulation: https://youtu.be/rThlIF1Hzp4
Dr. Peter Salerno on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/yx-0px-ymtM
Prof. Sam Vaknin on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/MVulOdCa1YU
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: https://youtu.be/XXP941XRLUI
Narcissistic Relationships Episode: https://youtu.be/dl52f2vy7FQ
Dr. Kerry McAvoy's website: www.kerrymcavoyphd.com
Dr. Kerry McAvoy's channel: @KerryMcAvoyPhD
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