109. How Narcissists Plan to Abuse You | Dr. Christine Cocchiola
Release Date: 04/21/2025
Brad Carr Podcast
Dr. Christine Cocchiola discusses the methods of narcissistic abusers and her experience helping survivors. 00:00 Narcissists plan to abuse you 02:42 Language for control 03:49 Abusers use mockery 04:23 Covert Authority 05:51 Coercive Control Defined 07:25 Dr. C's experience of coercive control 08:55 Threats of Suicide 10:17 Unspoken Threats 10:58 What motivates abusers? 15:58 Trauma Bonds are like torture 20:32 Preventing narcissistic abuse 23:53 Recognizing evil 25:07 Ideal victims 27:50 You don't see the betrayal 29:32 Write down the behavior 32:27 Can you expose a narcissist? 33:40...
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info_outlineDr. Christine Cocchiola discusses the methods of narcissistic abusers and her experience helping survivors.
00:00 Narcissists plan to abuse you
02:42 Language for control
03:49 Abusers use mockery
04:23 Covert Authority
05:51 Coercive Control Defined 07:25 Dr. C's experience of coercive control 08:55 Threats of Suicide 10:17 Unspoken Threats 10:58 What motivates abusers? 15:58 Trauma Bonds are like torture 20:32 Preventing narcissistic abuse 23:53 Recognizing evil 25:07 Ideal victims 27:50 You don't see the betrayal 29:32 Write down the behavior 32:27 Can you expose a narcissist? 33:40 SMEAR CAMPAIGNS start day 1 38:55 Provoke & Record (Reactive Abuse) 42:55 Love bombing is a trap 43:39 Signs of love bombing 44:21 Abusers will have inauthentic relationships 48:10 how to protect your identity 49:51 Persectutor, Rescuer, Victim Triangle 52:34 Find Dr. Cocchiola online 52:54 Dr. Cocchiola's experience helping survivors
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DISCLAIMER: The information provided is for educational purposes only and should not be considered as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice from a qualified healthcare provider.
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RELATED LINKS
Dr. Peter Salerno on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/yx-0px-ymtM
Dr. George Simon on Narcissists and Manipulation: https://youtu.be/rThlIF1Hzp4
Prof. Sam Vaknin on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/MVulOdCa1YU
Dr. Kerry McAvoy on Narcissistic Abuse: https://youtu.be/lkxBdZs2VLk
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: https://youtu.be/XXP941XRLUI
Narcissistic Relationships Episode: https://youtu.be/dl52f2vy7FQ
Dr. Cocchiola's website: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/
Dr. Cocchiola's channel: @DrCocchiola
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