"Some Advice Teens Gave Us About Mental Health, Love, and Valentine’s Day," February 13, 2025
Release Date: 02/14/2025
"Start With Why" (Part 2 of a six-part series on change) Episode #171, January 30, 2026
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What follows is our Weekly Wellness Column that is always on the same topic as our Weekly Podcast: Start With Why (Part 2 of a six-part series on change). Most attempts to make a change will fail if they are not connected to a clear "why"—a clear reason for making the change. The "why" is the root system that grounds and nurtures change. Without a strong root system, most attempts at change will wither or die out altogether. For example, if a person makes a New Year’s resolution simply because it’s the popular thing to do, there is a good chance that resolution won’t stick. If,...
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"Listening for a Change," Episode #170, January 16, 2026
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In this episode we mention our Wellness Compass Self Assessment. Here is a link to our assessment(s). Click to learn more, and/or to download the self-assessment for your own use. And Holly mentions her personal trianer in this episode--the amazing Luanne Vogel. You can learn more about Luanne, including her contact info . And if you would like to join our upcoming Wellness Compass "pop up" session on Thursday, January 22, 7:00 PM Central Time, click . There are 8 dimensions of wellness in our Wellness Compass and for this session we will focus on the Relationship dimension...
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"Sharing Light in the Darkness," Episode #169, December 19, 2025
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"The Spirit (and Neuroscience) of Generosity," Episode #168, December 12, 2025
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"The Power of Enough," Episode #167, December 5, 2025
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"Beyond Thank You: Four Truths About Gratitude from an Unexpected Vista," Episode #166, November 21, 2025
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What follows is the Weekly Wellness Column we send by email each Friday, based on the same topic as the podcast episode for that week. You can sign up for the Weekly Wellness Column . Beyond Thank You: Four Truths About Gratitude from an Unexpected Vista The two of us went on a hike the other day. It was a beautiful late Wisconsin fall day. We had chosen a large state protected area we'd never explored before, and as we switchbacked up a ridge, we had no idea we were about to experience gratitude in its truest form. Turned around at the top, we were overwhelmed with the unexpected view...
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"Awe, Mystery, and the Northern Lights: Nature's Gift to Our Well-Being" Episode #165, November 14, 2025
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"Taking Time to Reset," Episode #164, November 6, 2025
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"What the Day of the Dead Teaches Us About Emotional and Family Wellness," Episode #163, Oct. 31, 2025
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"Making the Problem the Problem, Not the Person," Episode #162, October 24, 2025
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info_outlineWhat follows is our Weekly Wellness Compass column on this same topic. The column is sent out every Friday morning by email.
Some Advice Teens Gave Us About Mental Health, Love, and Valentine’s Day
This Tuesday, I, Holly, had the privilege of spending my day in a combined Middle and High School (Turner MS/HS in Beloit, WI) for their annual Mental Health Awareness Day. During this Valentine’s week, everyone school-wide had set the day aside to focus on supporting student mental health by engaging in several different relaxing activities, engaging in group discussions on related topics, listening to speakers, and getting acquainted with all kinds of resources and organizations that work to support mental health in their area, Rock County, WI. I was one of those people as I was there to represent our nonprofit Wellness Compass Initiative.
Throughout the day, I had the opportunity to speak with most of those young people (ages 12 -18) and had the honor of listening to their concerns and desires, and meeting their friends. I also told them about this column and the corresponding Wellness Compass podcast. As a bit of research for our column, I asked them this important question: “What kinds of things would you like me to tell the adults who listen to our podcast about what they can do to support teen mental health?”
Here are some of their answers:
Don’t be so judgmental.
Share stories of the mistakes you made when you were young.
Consider how you sound to others. Bossy? Controlling?
Freaking Out? Supportive?
Don’t force things on us, like clubs, activities, and beliefs. Feel free to share your beliefs, but don’t force them on us.
Laugh and have fun with us.
Don’t say it’s just a phase. It is important to us now.
Encourage us.
You can say what you need to say without being mean about it.
Check in with us on a regular basis by asking “Are you OK?” And then really listen to what we are feeling.
Do things with us, like playing sports, hiking, and playing video games.
Honor our thoughts and opinions.
Don’t jump to conclusions.
Give us hugs.
Don’t make decisions for us.
Take interest in our interests.
Talk with us, not at us - fewer lectures and more listening, please.
As they spoke, I realized that what they were sharing with me could be applied to any relationships that we value and care about. So on Tuesday, out of the mouths of our young people came their suggestions for staying connected and supporting the mental health of all those we love. How appropriate for right before Valentine’s Day.
Their honest words are a good reminder for each of us as we consider how to express our love to all the important people in our lives this Valentine’s Day.
Which of their suggestions could you give as a gift to someone on this special day?