The Recovering People Pleaser
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The predominance of people pleasing Burnout and resentment from people pleasing Saying "yes" becoming your identity Key takeaways: What part of you is people pleasing benefiting? Losing a part of you is a risk of people pleasing 4 step process to assess people pleasing Pause… Say “no” as the first response (practice not apologizing). Feel the discomfort that saying “no” makes you feel. Allow it to be there; don’t resist it, change it, or deny it. “People pleasers are wonderful human beings who...
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The #1 Skill to Thrive in Life
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Michelle Wickman’s four components of self-leadership. Hard skills vs Soft Skills in your career and life. Key takeaways: The four components of self-leadership are: Self-Awareness Self-Discipline Emotional Intelligence Personal Agency We must invest the time to develop these soft skills. If we are leaders, we must lead ourselves first! “I think machines are easy. You learn a system, learn a process, and you make it go. But humans, we live in the grey area -we’re grey. And in that gray space, that’s...
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Procrastination On Ice!
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: A coach sees their client’s behaviour from the sideline; they can see the big picture from what the client is describing. Plan for “what ifs” while you’re taking the steps towards your goals. Choosing action over procrastination. Key takeaways: Procrastination is a nice way of self-sabotage. Procrastination is based in fear and avoidance of a potential negative emotion. 3 ways to deal with procrastination in the moment. Take small steps towards another goal. Recognize the emotion, focus and...
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Do It Anyway
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Finding a way to accomplish your goal. Eliminating the option of changing course. Understanding what serves your goal. Key takeaways: Deciding to be “all in” will cause current discomfort, but it will yield future results. Look for the shift to happen when you have no other options but to succeed. Learning to say no to things that do not serve your greater purpose. “All of your focus is on this one goal right, and so if your vision is consistently on that and you wake up with that vision in your mind, and you go to bed...
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Small Wins
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Small wins as steps to greater goals Visualizing yourself winning like an athlete. What is a small win? Recognizing other people’s wins Key takeaways: Schedule time to celebrate one small win per day. The more you take time to celebrate small wins, the more you’ll recognize the opportunities to win. Celebrating other people’s small wins is infectious A small win today can be totally different than a small win tomorrow. Don’t compare your win to other’s wins and don’t compare your own current win to your past wins....
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What Gets You Out of Bed?
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Behavioral Activation - take the action and let your brain get on board. WHAT gets you out of bed vs HOW you get out of bed. Selecting a thought or an action that gets you out of bed. Key takeaways: Be Intentional when getting out of bed. Celebrating waking up to another day; embodying gratitude. Be aware how your wake up routine can affect your mood. “Anything we offer is a suggestion, but everybody has their own unique approaches to it as well. So Cheddy had to find the thought that would...
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Work, Play, and Rest Hard
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Working, Playing, and Resting Hard. The best time to make decisions and take action. Life is in the middle and living a full life is experiencing all of it. Using tools (like a pomodoro clock) to increase work efficiency. Key takeaways: You will take the amount of time to allot for a task. Resting hard allows you to be fully present in life Take time once a quarter to evaluate how invested you are in work, play, and rest. Playing hard may drain some people while it may rejuvenate...
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Sticktoitiveness
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The noun “sticktoitiveness” Celebrating one year of the Winning Inside Podcast The choice of not quitting Key takeaways: Know the difference between quitting and pausing deciding to reflect, reassess, and re-engage. Your current situation could be equipping you for the next phase of your journey. Knowing your purpose and expressing gratitude will increase sticktoitiveness. “What keeps you going? You’ve gotta focus on the things and the reasons why you started in the first place. You’ve gotta focus on those; because...
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The Power of Pause
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Stress and how it showed up Being in panic Breaking the cycle Key takeaways: Stress and frustration can lead to panic Taking a moment to pause can stop the thought of panic Detaching from a problem allows you to address it differently “The power of pause in your life can be transformational.” -Michelle Wickman Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Janice Chance Remembers Jesse Melton: Turning Pain into Pearls
Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Janice Chance, the Mother of Jesse Melton III, Captain, United States Marine Corps, who was killed in action on September 9th 2008 Who Captain Jesse Melton was in his mother’s words Using faith to persevere through tragedy, Turning your pain into pearls Key takeaways: Grief turned inward is destructive If you’re hurting, go out and serve others Sorrow and joy can coexist. Your heart can be hurting, but you still can be joyful. Do not leave this life without making a positive impact. Complete your Earthly...
info_outlineIn this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss:
- The Five Love Languages:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
- Ways to incorporate them into your life
Key takeaways:
- The Five Love Languages:
- Words of Affirmation:
- Example: Compliments, affirmations, positive feedback
- Thoughts for self-reflection: Think about a time when you felt appreciated or recognized. How did it make you feel?
- Acts of Service:
- Example: Doing chores, running errands, helping with tasks
- Thoughts for self-reflection: What are some tasks that you find difficult or unpleasant? How could someone help you with those tasks to show their love and support?
- Receiving Gifts:
- Example: Surprise presents, tokens of affection
- Thoughts for self-reflection: When have you received a gift that meant a lot to you? Why did it mean so much?
- Quality Time:
- Example: Spending one-on-one time together, being fully present
- Thoughts for self-reflection: Think about a time when you felt truly connected with someone. What was happening during that time?
- Physical Touch:
- Example: Hugs, holding hands, cuddling
- Thoughts for self-reflection: What physical touch do you find most comforting? Why is that type of touch important to you?
- Identify your own love language and that of your partner
- Show appreciation and affection in ways that speak to each other's love languages
- Consistently make an effort to show love and affection
It's important to note that love can take many forms and that the types of love can overlap and coexist in different ways. The type of love that one experiences can change over time, and it's possible to feel different types of love for different people and at different times in one's life.
Remember, everyone has different love languages, and it's also possible for someone to value multiple love languages. By reflecting on these prompts, you can gain insight into what type of love and affection resonates with you and how you can best express love to others.
“It’s taking the time to truly acknowledge how other people express love. So that kind of awareness. That’s what this tool is for -is to build awareness to recognize, “ohhh, they’re trying to show me that they care about me.’” -Michelle Wickman
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