Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews
Life is a roller coaster; ups, downs, unexpected bumps, and turns are all part of the journey. How we handle those ups and downs impacts who we are, who we become and how we see ourselves. And many times, there are life situations that throw us for a loop and it impacts us in ways seen and unseen. These can have us feeling defeated, stuck, alone and wondering how to move forward. Cheddy Matthews and Michelle Wickman are joining forces to share interviews, chats, and their own journeys riding this roller coaster that we call “life.” If you are working through some of the ups and downs, loop de loops and corkscrews, then this is the podcast for you!
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The Recovering People Pleaser
05/01/2023
The Recovering People Pleaser
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The predominance of people pleasing Burnout and resentment from people pleasing Saying "yes" becoming your identity Key takeaways: What part of you is people pleasing benefiting? Losing a part of you is a risk of people pleasing 4 step process to assess people pleasing Pause… Say “no” as the first response (practice not apologizing). Feel the discomfort that saying “no” makes you feel. Allow it to be there; don’t resist it, change it, or deny it. “People pleasers are wonderful human beings who have the quality of empathy and compassion. But they take that past the point, to the detriment of themselves and really losing their own authentic selves; because they are constantly deferring to other people.” -Michelle Wickman Contact Us: Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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The #1 Skill to Thrive in Life
04/24/2023
The #1 Skill to Thrive in Life
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Michelle Wickman’s four components of self-leadership. Hard skills vs Soft Skills in your career and life. Key takeaways: The four components of self-leadership are: Self-Awareness Self-Discipline Emotional Intelligence Personal Agency We must invest the time to develop these soft skills. If we are leaders, we must lead ourselves first! “I think machines are easy. You learn a system, learn a process, and you make it go. But humans, we live in the grey area -we’re grey. And in that gray space, that’s where you need the soft skills.” -Cheddy Matthews Contact Us: Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Procrastination On Ice!
04/17/2023
Procrastination On Ice!
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: A coach sees their client’s behaviour from the sideline; they can see the big picture from what the client is describing. Plan for “what ifs” while you’re taking the steps towards your goals. Choosing action over procrastination. Key takeaways: Procrastination is a nice way of self-sabotage. Procrastination is based in fear and avoidance of a potential negative emotion. 3 ways to deal with procrastination in the moment. Take small steps towards another goal. Recognize the emotion, focus and process it. Ask the question, “is that true?” Then take action! “When you are taking those scary steps, when you are taking those scary actions towards goals, towards things that you love, that you desire in your life. It is that exhilarating and scary feeling all in one package. And then you get to assess ‘do I want to do that again?” And that's how you prepare yourself for the next obstacle, for the next step.” -Michelle Wickman Contact Us: Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Do It Anyway
04/10/2023
Do It Anyway
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Finding a way to accomplish your goal. Eliminating the option of changing course. Understanding what serves your goal. Key takeaways: Deciding to be “all in” will cause current discomfort, but it will yield future results. Look for the shift to happen when you have no other options but to succeed. Learning to say no to things that do not serve your greater purpose. “All of your focus is on this one goal right, and so if your vision is consistently on that and you wake up with that vision in your mind, and you go to bed with that vision in your mind, and you walk around all day with that vision in your mind. When opportunities present themselves, you will notice them.” -Michelle Wickman Contact Us: Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Small Wins
04/03/2023
Small Wins
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Small wins as steps to greater goals Visualizing yourself winning like an athlete. What is a small win? Recognizing other people’s wins Key takeaways: Schedule time to celebrate one small win per day. The more you take time to celebrate small wins, the more you’ll recognize the opportunities to win. Celebrating other people’s small wins is infectious A small win today can be totally different than a small win tomorrow. Don’t compare your win to other’s wins and don’t compare your own current win to your past wins. “Consider the things in your life that you may think are mundane and routine -but those are actually wins. Whan you accomplish something that you set out to do, that's a win! when you do something that's hard and you complete it, that's a win!” -Cheddy Matthews Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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What Gets You Out of Bed?
03/27/2023
What Gets You Out of Bed?
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Behavioral Activation - take the action and let your brain get on board. WHAT gets you out of bed vs HOW you get out of bed. Selecting a thought or an action that gets you out of bed. Key takeaways: Be Intentional when getting out of bed. Celebrating waking up to another day; embodying gratitude. Be aware how your wake up routine can affect your mood. “Anything we offer is a suggestion, but everybody has their own unique approaches to it as well. So Cheddy had to find the thought that would motivate him into action. I just took the very tiniest, smallest action: ‘get out of bed and put on your shoes…!’ Do the action and the brain will catch up” -Michelle Wickman Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Work, Play, and Rest Hard
03/20/2023
Work, Play, and Rest Hard
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Working, Playing, and Resting Hard. The best time to make decisions and take action. Life is in the middle and living a full life is experiencing all of it. Using tools (like a pomodoro clock) to increase work efficiency. Key takeaways: You will take the amount of time to allot for a task. Resting hard allows you to be fully present in life Take time once a quarter to evaluate how invested you are in work, play, and rest. Playing hard may drain some people while it may rejuvenate others, know which one you are. “If you give yourself two years to accomplish that goal, 99% of the time, if not more, you will take the full two years. If you give yourself an hour to write one email, you’re gonna take that full hour. Even if you are doing the thing, you’re not necessarily maximizing your efficiency and your work...” -Michelle Wickman Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Sticktoitiveness
03/13/2023
Sticktoitiveness
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The noun “sticktoitiveness” Celebrating one year of the Winning Inside Podcast The choice of not quitting Key takeaways: Know the difference between quitting and pausing deciding to reflect, reassess, and re-engage. Your current situation could be equipping you for the next phase of your journey. Knowing your purpose and expressing gratitude will increase sticktoitiveness. “What keeps you going? You’ve gotta focus on the things and the reasons why you started in the first place. You’ve gotta focus on those; because sometimes, thinking of your why, the purpose, the genesis of the reason why you’re doing the thing, or the end-state, the goal that you want at the end, has to be in the forefront of your mind to keep going. And then you can start to ignore the pain...” -Cheddy Matthews Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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The Power of Pause
03/06/2023
The Power of Pause
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Stress and how it showed up Being in panic Breaking the cycle Key takeaways: Stress and frustration can lead to panic Taking a moment to pause can stop the thought of panic Detaching from a problem allows you to address it differently “The power of pause in your life can be transformational.” -Michelle Wickman Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Janice Chance Remembers Jesse Melton: Turning Pain into Pearls
02/27/2023
Janice Chance Remembers Jesse Melton: Turning Pain into Pearls
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Janice Chance, the Mother of Jesse Melton III, Captain, United States Marine Corps, who was killed in action on September 9th 2008 Who Captain Jesse Melton was in his mother’s words Using faith to persevere through tragedy, Turning your pain into pearls Key takeaways: Grief turned inward is destructive If you’re hurting, go out and serve others Sorrow and joy can coexist. Your heart can be hurting, but you still can be joyful. Do not leave this life without making a positive impact. Complete your Earthly mission Learn more about fallen heroes, say their names and keep their legacies alive “A lot of people know God in their head, but don’t know Him in their heart. That 18 inches is a big thing.”” -Janice Chance, Mother of Captain Jesse Melton III “I want to go change the world and make a difference, to do something that will bring God Glory.” -Jesse Melton III, Captain, United States Marine Corps, KIA 9 September 2008 Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube: For more information about Janice Chance, Captain Jesse Melton III, or the Gold Star Mothers, please go to: “Jesse, rest easy warrior. We’ve got the watch... Till we meet again. -Semper Fi brother!
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Prince Daniels Jr.: In Joy
02/20/2023
Prince Daniels Jr.: In Joy
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Prince Daniel’s Story Killing yourself while workout/resurrecting yourself with meditation Optimism, resilience, perseverance Proving the naysayers wrong Gratitude is an endurance build Key takeaways: Showing kindness and gratitude for your heart Transition (from work to home) and being present Managing your emotions The power of meditation, journaling, being in the moment Getting in the zone with gratitude and intensity Three Tips from Prince Daniels Mindfulness: being comfortable with the unknown Love yourself/be proud of yourself Have grace and patience for yourself “I was born like this. I was born in to joy! The word "enjoy" that is my life. I am in joy at every single moment of my life… ” -Prince Daniels Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube: FInd Prince Daniels Jr. at: Instagram: princeadjr Facebook: Prince Daniels Jr. YouTube: Prince Daniels Jr. Website: m
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Reneé Coakley: Faith and Beautiful Resilience
02/13/2023
Reneé Coakley: Faith and Beautiful Resilience
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Renee Coakley’s Story Still birth at 36 weeks Beating stage 2 breast cancer Turning your pain into power Healing through the sharing of your circumstance Using faith to overcome multiple traumas Key takeaways: Finding peace in the chaos and still finding peace in the things you can’t control. The healing from your trauma might allow you to be the one person someone can come to for help through their situation. Finding the faith to know your healing is always “on time.” “So what set me back a year ago has actually propelled me even further today. And I’m in the best position today… even better than I was a year ago -and healed!” -Reneé Coakley Follow Reneé Coakley on instagram: @heyreneeashley Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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How Do We Say or Show Love?
02/06/2023
How Do We Say or Show Love?
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Receiving Gifts Quality Time Physical Touch Ways to incorporate them into your life Key takeaways: The Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation: Example: Compliments, affirmations, positive feedback Thoughts for self-reflection: Think about a time when you felt appreciated or recognized. How did it make you feel? Acts of Service: Example: Doing chores, running errands, helping with tasks Thoughts for self-reflection: What are some tasks that you find difficult or unpleasant? How could someone help you with those tasks to show their love and support? Receiving Gifts: Example: Surprise presents, tokens of affection Thoughts for self-reflection: When have you received a gift that meant a lot to you? Why did it mean so much? Quality Time: Example: Spending one-on-one time together, being fully present Thoughts for self-reflection: Think about a time when you felt truly connected with someone. What was happening during that time? Physical Touch: Example: Hugs, holding hands, cuddling Thoughts for self-reflection: What physical touch do you find most comforting? Why is that type of touch important to you? Identify your own love language and that of your partner Show appreciation and affection in ways that speak to each other's love languages Consistently make an effort to show love and affection It's important to note that love can take many forms and that the types of love can overlap and coexist in different ways. The type of love that one experiences can change over time, and it's possible to feel different types of love for different people and at different times in one's life. Remember, everyone has different love languages, and it's also possible for someone to value multiple love languages. By reflecting on these prompts, you can gain insight into what type of love and affection resonates with you and how you can best express love to others. “It’s taking the time to truly acknowledge how other people express love. So that kind of awareness. That’s what this tool is for -is to build awareness to recognize, “ohhh, they’re trying to show me that they care about me.’” -Michelle Wickman Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Gratitude
01/30/2023
Gratitude
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Shifting into gratitude Gratitude affecting perception Living in the moment Key takeaways: As a practice, find things to be grateful for. The difference between optimism and realism. What you put your attention on, grows. We have more power over our lives than we give ourselves credit for. “Want the things that exist in your life and you will begin to experience a sense of gratitude for your life as it exists today. Not looking at it from the judgement of where you wish you would be now, that is somewhere in the future.” -Michelle Wickman Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Back At It
01/23/2023
Back At It
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Takeaways from the holidays Goals and Emotions Thanks to the audience Key takeaways: This is a new start and a refresh Keep the good release the negative Reassess your goals and adjust Celebrate the “little wins” Have as much grace for yourself as you do for others “I’m just working things out.” “A lot of times it isn’t in the destination, it’s actually in the journey, the beauty is in the journey; and a lot of times it is missed. So don’t miss the journey…“ -Cheddy Matthews Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Shoulder to Shoulder
12/05/2022
Shoulder to Shoulder
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Being shoulder to shoulder Going further, faster The power of collaboration Using curiosity to our unpack our beliefs Intentional creation The silent power of being open Key takeaways: Establishing your “Personal Board of Directors.” Discover, Become present to Question, Create the beliefs and thoughts Question our limitations and beliefs to overcome them Take charge of yourself to create assurance. The power of being in choice vs. feeling mandated. “You want to discover, become present to, question, and then create the beliefs and thoughts that are going to get us the results that we want.“ -Michelle Wickman Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Hitesh Solanki: A Story in the Making
11/28/2022
Hitesh Solanki: A Story in the Making
In this episode, Cheddy and Hitesh discuss: Hitesh Solanki’s background Infertility and miscarriages from a male perspective Hitesh’s methods of overcoming negative emotions Key takeaways: Grit, adaptability, and Intentionality can help you get through adversity Consistency leads to strength, which aids in your success. 3 points for writing your life’s story: Awareness Consistency Gratitude “The more aware you start becoming of yourself, of your surroundings, the more suitable and capable you become for everything else that follows through. Make awareness a consistent effort.“ -Hitesh Solanki Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Wickman Wellness: Michelle Shares
11/21/2022
Wickman Wellness: Michelle Shares
This special episode is all about the co-host of Winning Inside, Michelle Wickman of Wickman Wellness, her story, why she does the work that she does, what she is passionate about, and more. Some of the topics we discuss are: Michelle Wickman’s background The Importance of a “want match” The core value of integrity Setbacks in her life Life at UC Berkeley The value of who we are vs. what we do Why Michelle is a coach (and a great one at that!) The importance of identity as it relates to transition Who Michelle Wickman works with “It’s the one thing that is a non-negotiable for a coach; it’s being able to hold space for another human being. And what that looks like is to be fully present to their emotions, and their energy, and create safe space. If I can help one person from having to suffer for another 20 years, then it's worth it. It’s worth it to share my story, and it’s worth it to offer that help.“ -Michelle Wickman Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Cheddy Speaks
11/14/2022
Cheddy Speaks
This special episode is all about Cheddy Matthews, his story, why he does the work that he does, what he is passionate about, and more. Some of the topics discussed are: Cheddy’s background Leadership Setbacks in his life Resilience Who he works with How humans are more similar than different (around the world) Where to find your highest and best version of yourself “We have a certain magic that is intrinsic to us, and if we’re allowed to let that voice -let that power come out of us, we will see and experience our highest and best selves. I really do believe your highest and best self is your most authentic self." -Cheddy Matthews Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Tolerance: For Personal Growth
11/07/2022
Tolerance: For Personal Growth
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Recap of ‘Tolerance of Negative Behavior’ podcast. Personal growth and your comfort zone. Tolerating your own negative emotions or feelings by choice. Key takeaways: Building failure tolerance is the key to personal growth and goal achievement. When you fail, it’s critical to take the next smallest step as soon as possible. Avoiding discomfort is a natural human state, but also keeps us stuck. “If we’re looking to uplevel our lives to the next iteration of ourselves… then expect to experience discomfort and expect to challenge your old thought patterns, your old behaviors, your old habits." -Michelle Wickman Contact Information: Website: Michelle: Cheddy: Email: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Tolerance of Negative Behavior
10/31/2022
Tolerance of Negative Behavior
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How tolerating bad behavior affects your self-worth How to approach a boundary conversation Examples of boundaries in our lives Key takeaways: You can set or reset your boundaries at any time Establishing boundaries lets others know behavior you will and will not tolerate. Boundaries benefit both parties. “You should be able to articulate what it is that you accept and what you don't accept. And the funny thing is, you’re the author of that. You are the person that gets to write that. And you have a pencil and you have an eraser and you can change and modify what you accept.”- Cheddy Matthews Website: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Gratitude
10/24/2022
Gratitude
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How do integrate a gratitude practice in your day How do use gratitude in pursuing your goals How Cheddy & Michelle use gratitude when something negative happens Key takeaways: Gratitude is a mindset and a feeling. Gratitude elevates your emotional state. Gratitude affects those around you. “If you close your eyes and really just think of all of the things that you’re incredibly grateful for in this moment or in the past, then you’ll start to generate an emotion within your body; and that emotion will change the actions that you take going forward in that day.” - Michelle Wickman Website: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Overthinking
10/17/2022
Overthinking
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How overthinking can show up in our lives Low production cycles MAKING A DECISION Key takeaways: Overthinking is fear based Do the best you can with what you have. The 3 Step Process to Stop Overthinking: Become aware of the overthinking Assess what it is that you want/where you want to go Take action - no matter how small “Overthinking, being rooted in fear, is always gonna hold us back from whatever possibility or potential that we want to have in our lives.” - Michelle Wickman Website: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Living Small
10/10/2022
Living Small
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Living small within Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Living small as a way of feeling safe: protecting your inner child. Living small is an unconscious choice; you can choose to live large. Key takeaways: Living small robs you of your greatest potential. Living a life that isn’t small requires risk. Remember, no risk, no reward. Your comfort zone will keep you living small. “There are people who have interviewed people on their death beds. It is the regret that we did not step into at least the pursuit of that self-actualization, at least the pursuit of the potential we possess as humans…” - Michelle Wickman Website: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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The Lies We Live By: The Wrap Up
10/06/2022
The Lies We Live By: The Wrap Up
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The Lies We Live By: Earning Love
09/29/2022
The Lies We Live By: Earning Love
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Where the belief that we have to earn love or acceptance originates. How we express love and how we receive it - The 5 Love Languages ™ Key takeaways: It’s okay to ask someone how they prefer to express and receive love. Conditional love or acceptance is a moving target. “Love is not a prize (to be won), it’s a gift that we give.” -Michelle Wickman Website: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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The Lies We Live By: Shoulds…!!!
09/26/2022
The Lies We Live By: Shoulds…!!!
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How the lies we tell ourselves about what we should be, have or do cause us to feel extremely powerful but negative emotions. They rarely benefit us in a sustainable and positive way. How “Shoulding” ourselves can make us feel and how to identify them. We tell ourselves we “Should” ourselves for our benefit, but rarely is that the case. Key takeaways: The “you should… (be, have, or do something) by now” thoughts can cause us to feel like failures. The “you should have known…” thought can cause the emotions, Cheddy calls “the triad of terror,” to present themselves in your life. Those are the negative emotions of fear, guilt, and shame. Oftentimes the “Shoulds” come in a familiar voice and therefore are trusted and accepted with little or no objection. This is not an excuse to not take care of your obligations and responsibilities. We must learn to discern between a beneficial and detrimental “Should” in our lives. “Should” is “could” with SHAME attached to it. “Be mindful of those around you and yourself and how many times you hear the ‘shoulda’ conversation… it puts you in a state of lack -and wanting and needing!” -Cheddy Matthews “Watch how you ‘Should' on other people!" -Michelle Wickman Website: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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The Lies We Live By: I’ll Be Happy When…!
09/19/2022
The Lies We Live By: I’ll Be Happy When…!
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How we assign the responsibility for our happiness to things outside of us. We have more control over our emotions than we realize, acknowledge, or admit. Consumerism relies on us believing the “I’ll be happy when…” lie. Key takeaways: Michelle explains how Dr. Seuss’ book The Sneetches illustrates the “I’ll be happy when…” lie and how it can playout in our lives. The, “I’ll be happy when…” lie, keeps us dissatisfied and always looking for the thing that will make us happy.. Oftentimes the thing we thought would make us happy only provides a feeling of happiness for a short period of time. We are responsible for our happiness, regardless of the circumstances. We are meaning-making machines. “I am responsible for my own happiness!” - Michelle Wickman Website: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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The Lies We Live By: Not-Enoughness
09/12/2022
The Lies We Live By: Not-Enoughness
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How the lie we tell ourselves about not being enough affects the quality of our life. What life could be like if you refused to adopt the idea of not-enoughness. Key takeaways: Regardless of position, status, or title, many people deal with not-enoughess.. Accepting not-enoughness makes you play small. If you are in a room (position, role, etc.), you deserve to be there.. Take active steps to support the idea you are enough. “It’s a lie; but it’s a lie that we live with. We’ve accepted it and we’ve owned that lie to the point it seems like it’s a truth!” - Cheddy Matthews Website: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube:
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Self-Advocation: It Is Worth It, You Are Worth It!
09/06/2022
Self-Advocation: It Is Worth It, You Are Worth It!
In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Frustrations with the healthcare industry The Difference between being a “squeaky wheel” and a “Karen.” How to have a healthy mindset when self advocating. Key takeaways: We are conditioned to accept what is given to us. Sometimes it is important to ensure your specific needs are met; that requires self-advocation. Be self aware enough to know whether you are being a “Karen” (Offensive advocation) or advocating for your particular needs. Know you deserve to be seen, heard, and have your needs addressed appropriately. Know the difference between legitimate and unhealthy advocation. “This is worth it, I am worth it, and I can do this!” - Michelle Wickman Website: Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: YouTube: Connect with Cheddy Matthews: Website: Book: Show: Email: [email protected] Twitter: @CheddySpeaks Facebook: @CheddySpeaks YouTube: @CheddySpeaks LinkedIn: Instagram: @CheddySpeaks Connect with Michelle Wickman: Website: Book: www.https://lifecoachmichelle.as.me Show: Email: [email protected] Facebook: LinkedIn: Instagram:@wickman_wellness
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