Sis, Please!
Welcome to the last episode of Season 1 for Sis, Please! If you haven’t listened to all the episodes, make sure to check them out. And if you’ve been a loyal listener throughout the season, go back and listen again. There are sure to be some gems you missed. In this season finale episode, we interview each other. We ask each other questions like whether you’d choose Big D*ck Energy over financial security and what conversation we’d love to have with our future self. Plus, we share our most embarrassing moments (hint: they involve a wig and marijuana edibles). To learn...
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Miss Manners says to never talk about Money, Politics or Religion. Well, Miss Manners needs to cover her ears because Satta and Jaretta are taking a deep dive into the topic of religion. As Jaretta shares her Pentecostal beliefs, Satta shares why she has found solace as a "None." With Black Americans moving away from faith, join Satta and Jaretta as they discuss: Pentecostal Faith Baptism Colonizers Slavery NONES Morality The Bible Creation The Big Bang Christianity Pro Life The Great Commission Missionaries Jenifer Lewis Black Jesus Honorable Mentions ...
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Academy-Award winning actress Regina King had this to say about her 20s: “I feel like I’m so much more interesting now, as a soon-to-be-50-year-old woman, than I was at 25. I can bring so much more to the table. You may not have the stamina that you had at 25, but what you know now? So much better.” King is right. In your 20s, you’re just beginning to figure things out. This decade of life is about making stupid mistakes — but not to the point where you never recover from them. In your 30s, you often get to know yourself more and life gets better. If, like King suggests,...
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Black people are not a monolith. From Black Americans who were born in the States to Africans who came to the U.S. a few years ago, the Diaspora is incredibly diverse. Unfortunately, sometimes our differences create social distance between us, even though we share a fundamental thing in common: we’re all Black. Join Satta and Jaretta as they discuss: The history of Liberia First Generation Cape Verdeans Jollof Rice Fufu Cultural Vernacular African American Vernacular English N-word Liberian Tribes Us vs Them Beauty Standards Dating Honorable Mentions Question of the Episode:...
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When you think of the term Black Excellence, what comes to mind? Prestige. Class. The Best of the Best. These are the words that are usually assigned to people who exude Black Excellence. People like the Obamas, Jay-Z and Beyonce, Oprah. But what if Black Excellence is something to strive for AND harmful to the community? The increased pressure of having to be the best can be exhausting. What happens when systematic racism has us believing the only way to be "good enough" when your Black, is to be excellent? Join Satta and Jaretta as they discuss: The Obamas The Huxtables Celebrating Black...
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Say goodbye to the narrative of the "Strong Black Woman." Black women working numerous jobs while being emotional caregivers and keeping up with our family duties has exhausted us. The indoctrination of "I'll sleep when I die" is as old as pensions and CDs. Now, after seeing generations of Black women work themselves into exhaustion and mental health crisis and after experiencing the Covid shut-down, millennials are deciding the hard lifestyle is not for them. They are striving for that soft life. A life that puts relaxation and mental wellbeing first. Join Satta and Jaretta as they discuss: ...
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Henrietta Lacks. The Tuskegee Syphilis Experiment. Microaggressions and racial trauma. These are just some of the reasons Black people have a distrust of the medical and mental health profession. About 25% of Black people seek mental health treatment, compared to 40% of white Americans. Despite lower rates of major depressive episodes than the U.S. population overall, mental health disorders have increased in Black youth and adults over the last decade. Rates also surged during the pandemic. The bottom line? We’re in desperate need of therapy but are very reluctant to receive treatment. In...
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From LSU’s Angel Reese catching flack for her “you can’t see me” gesture during the national championship game to the backlash Megan Thee Stallion received during the Tory Lanez shooting case, there are so many examples of the ways Black women are misunderstood and disrespected. Time and time again, history shows Black women we are not worth protecting. And that our physical and psychological safety are often at risk. From the staggering statistic that 40 percent of all missing persons cases are people of color but significantly underrepresented in news coverage to the lack of justice...
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The "Magic Carpet to the Middle Class." That was the slogan for the GI Bill, which President Franklin D. Roosevelt signed into law in 1944. The bill gave World War II veterans money to fund a college education — introducing and cementing the idea that a college education leads to financial success. But as colleges become more expensive, the average college graduate is leaving not only with a degree, but with thousands of dollars in debt. As Satta and Jaretta discuss their experiences attending postsecondary schools and their financial obligations to attend those schools, they also explore...
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There’s often this preconceived notion that aging gracefully is built into Black women’s genetic code. We’ve all heard the age-old adage, “Black Don’t Crack.” But the truth is, it does if you don’t take care of it. As Satta and Jaretta navigate their 30s, they’ve started to ask themselves how far they’re willing to go to maintain (or change) what they have. Plastic surgery is becoming normalized, and in the era of BBLs, what’s wrong with a little nip-tuck? In this episode, the sisters explore what it means to age with grace, dealing with body-shaming aunties,...
info_outlineTo say these last three years have been riddled with challenges is an understatement. However, it has also forced us into awareness. We asked ourselves questions like: “How are we taking care of our souls?” “Where aren't we being appreciated?” “What can I do to change my environment?” And then the answers to all three questions came, as they often do, from the Queen herself: the omnificent Beyoncé. So, I, Jaretta, quit my damn job!
Join us, Jaretta and Satta, as we discuss not only why I quit my job but also:
- Self care
- Prioritizing mental health
- Pandemic
- Non-profit education
- Code switching
- Microaggressions
- Therapy
- Anxiety
- Prayer
- Scarcity mindset
- The Great Recession
- Job security
- Stress management
- White privilege
- Performative allyship
Honorable Mentions
Break My Soul by Beyonce
The Psychological Toll of Being the Only Woman of Color at Work
The Great Resignation or The Great Transition?
Pressures of being a first generation American-born citizen
Hustle Culture Harms Women of Color the Most
The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama
Question of the Episode:
What was your BOSS move? Share with us your answer via email or in a review wherever you listened to this episode!
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This podcast is hosted and sponsored by Satta Sarmah Hightower and Jaretta Konneh. When Satta isn't sharing her life experiences with Jaretta, she works in content marketing and helps technology & financial services companies powerfully convey their message. A storyteller at heart, Satta has a master's degree from Northwestern University's Medill School. When Jaretta isn't dealing with the craziness of dating apps, she works as a non-profit professional. She has a master's degree from the Harvard Graduate School of Education.
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