38. Calm Down
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared three simple ways to calm down when your thoughts are running wild in your head in the middle of the day, or the middle of the night. Our day is made up of our thoughts. When we choose better thoughts, we choose a better day for ourselves. However, many things want to take us off track — headlines, social media feeds, other people’s words and actions, or everyday life challenges. How can you take back control of your thoughts, and redirect your energy? How can you shut down intrusive thoughts and find a place of calm? How can you let things roll off your back? How...
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37. Organize Your Life
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared a method that I learned more than a decade ago from my mentor Todd Durkin, for “color coding” your life. I have tweaked it and adapted it over the years to fit my life as a working mom. This can work for you as a college student, working professional, or retiree. Take my tips, tricks and examples and make this your own. This system is an easy way to create more harmony in your life by ensuring that all four colors are represented in your month. In order to be responsible adults, we need “red tape” time to handle the logistics of life and our households,...
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36. How to Handle Haters
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I talked you through five tips or strategies for dealing with hateful words or rude people. It’s not glorious, but it’s a real part of life and one that I want to help you handle better. If you’ve been on the receiving end of rude comments, or personal attacks, this is for you. If you’ve had people launch mean words at your workplace, your organization, your leadership or you as a person, this is for you. I hope this helps you feel empowered. Haters are trying to hurt with their words. It often comes from a place of hurt. Instead of trying to figure them out, use these...
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35. Thrive in Life
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I talked you through an eye-opening journaling exercise that can truly help you thrive in life. I shared the experiences of hosting a local Calm & Confident Fall Retreat for 20 women and this part of the weekend was one of the most impactful. I had the women write and share on when they are thriving in life. I’m asking you to consider that question – what is the state of your health, your relationships, your energy, your career, your friendships when you are most thriving in life? Have you noticed, or can you start to pay attention? Even if you are in a state of...
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34. Ditch The Stress
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared ten ways to let go of unnecessary stress in order to live a more calm and fulfilling life — a life with less weight on your mind and unease in your gut. I distinguish between the kind of stress that drives productivity from the kind of stress that feels like dread. Know the difference and go through my checklist of ten common stressors to see where you could make a change. One small change can yield incredible results in your daily inner peace. “When you neglect your ability to plug yourself back in, to get a good night's sleep, to unplug from technology, to set...
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33. Stop Living Frustrated
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared one of my takeaways from a recent Ultra Mastermind retreat, hosted by Brendon Bruchard, a high performance speaker and best-selling author. He talked about how frustration can lead to burnout or bitterness. I took this topic and ran with it, applying it to work, family, and personal life. I shared examples of how it shows up in my life and yours. I talked about who we become when we are frustrated, and how we don’t want to stay in that negative, disempowering energy. Our frustrated self is not our best self. I shared three ways of releasing frustration that can help...
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32. The 4 P’s to Organize ANY Event
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared four tips for organizing, leading or hosting ANY event – from a bridal shower, to a family gathering, to a community fundraiser, to a work retreat, or a conference. This can be used in your personal or professional life to create a better, easier experience for you and your guests. We’ll dive into preparation, plan b’s, positivity and presence as ways to create a successful event. I shared my recent experiences with organizing an open house for work and hosting an upcoming women’s retreat. I hope my examples help you envision your next event and arm you with...
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31. Friendships Built to Last
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I share stories and lessons on an area of life that matters to all of us — friendship. I discuss how to honor, but differentiate friendships that are built on a circumstance or a chapter of life, from those that are built to last time, distance and life experiences. This is a great episode for reflecting on the types of friendships that you have in your life, and to think about what you value most in your friends. You can do some soul-searching on what you bring to your friendships, which ones might be worth pouring more energy into, and what relationships might have...
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30. Overcoming Distraction & Disruption
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I share two ways to be more productive, less stressed, and more focused on your pursuits in life. The strategy is to be stronger than distractions, and better able to handle disruptions. These “d” words come in all different shapes and sizes. Tune in for examples from my life that might spark ideas in your life. Let’s discuss how to prevent social, news, emails, texts or other people’s demands distract you. Let’s discuss how to keep unexpected events at work and home from throwing you off track. I hope you find the answers you are looking for today. Enjoy life with...
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29. Create More Happy Days
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I want to bring more sunshine to your days with four tips to create more happy days. Life throws us curveballs. These are four concrete ways to plan for better days, so you’re more equipped to handle the hard ones. I shared some personal stories from my recent travels, from my work and from my social feed. As your friend and mentor, I share my challenges to help you overcome yours. "If you want to create more happy days in your life, learn and commit on your end, to communicating better." - Trina Key points: 1. Snap shot good moments in your head. Take in the scene,...
info_outlineIn this episode, I apply a very simple, but profound concept of doing hard things. We explore this lesson in all areas of our life. It can be hard to choose daily actions to better ourselves and our lives – from eating healthy, to paying bills, to learning new job skills. But it can be harder to NOT do those actions. It can be harder to live the result of inaction. It can be harder to live unhealthy, financially stressed, and stuck in your career.
“Living stuck doesn't feel good. It feels more mundane. It feels like you're always beating your head against the wall. It feels like you're not growing and learning and expanding. So yes, it's hard to grow in your career, it's hard to go back to school to get the advanced degree, or it's hard to learn the new skill. It's hard to work on yourself and your communication. It's hard to work on your time management, on your efficiency, on your focus. It's hard to grow in your career, but it is a heck of a lot harder to stay stuck.” - Trina Gray
Keypoints:
1. Taking daily action can be hard because no one is looking, or asking, or requiring you to grow and get better.
2. You have to want more for your own life.
3. Taking daily action can be hard because we are busy, distracted and even tired at times.
4. Ignoring or delaying the things we need to do to live a vibrant life will lead to much harder outcomes.
5. Learn the five-step process for putting the “choose your hard” mentality into your life.