46. The Relentless Pursuit of Less
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this week’s episode, I shared some listener feedback and expanded a bit more on last week’s topic of decision-making. Today, I talked about simplifying life – from your health to your office to your closet to your budget to your thoughts. I shared examples from my own life of doing fewer things better and how that helps me feel less rushed, less stressed and more confident. We often don’t need to do more, we need to do fewer things better. Or we need to have fewer things, and like them more. There are so many ways to apply it. Dive and an enjoy. What You’ll Learn in...
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45. How to Make Decisions
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this week’s episode, I shared a lesson that I created when making decisions in my business this month. We all have decisions to make in life – big and small. From parenting, to vacations, to budgets, to projects, to home repair, and more. Letting decisions sit undone causes unnecessary stress and confusion. Decisions do not go away. In fact, they usually get harder the longer you delay. Even saying “no” to something is a decision. Here is my acronym for making a more confident decision: IDC. Dig in more to that with me in today’s episode. You’ll learn how to get informed about...
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44. Breaking Through the Noise of Wellness with Elise Joan
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this week’s episode, I interviewed my dear friend and celebrity wellness expert Elise Joan. @elisejoanofficial Elise shared the value of the Calm & Confident podcast in her life, and how she has navigated transitional times. We dove into her beliefs on reducing stress in life, including the stress caused by overly restrictive fitness and nutrition standards. She wants women, especially over the age of 30, to know that living with joy, and connecting with community is as important as finding movement that you love, and nutrition that is nourishing. Elise has studied...
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43. Love the Whole Book of Yourself
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared a lesson about accepting all of your past chapters. We all had parts of our lives that we’d rather not revisit – decisions we made, places we went, or people we surrounded ourselves with that did not bring out our best selves. Those chapters – whether they lasted months or years, still shaped the person we are today. When we hold onto worry, shame or regret, it’s hard to show up as our most energetic selves today. We are our entire life, we are all of our chapters. We are all the pages that have been written. When we accept it all, we are able to love...
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42. Walk into the New Year with Confidence
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this must-listen episode to start the New Year, I shared my most powerful lesson of 2025. This is not about resolutions, or regrets. It’s about reflection. Tune in to hear the one lesson that shaped my life and work the most. I’ll share tips, examples, stories and gems to help you take my top lesson and implement it into your life for greater ease and joy. Then I shared my unique strategy for planning and dreaming for the best year to come. You’ll take an inventory (through your photos and calendar) of what brought you joy, happiness, peace and growth in 2025. You’ll add it to your...
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41. The Little Things Are the Big Things (Holiday Edition)
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared a phrase that we are all familiar with: “The little things are the big things.” I first heard this advice as a young mom. Older parents often reminded me to cherish the small moments with my kids, not just the big vacations for birthday parties. I listened, even when life was busy. I paid more attention to conversation in the car, going out for pancakes, taking a walk together with the dogs. These smaller moments made up my life as a mom. The same can be true in marriage or friendship – the kind text message or note by the coffee pot – those small acts of...
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40. Awards That Don’t Exist
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared a recent Instagram post called: “Awards that you’re trying to win that simply don’t exist.” My daughter shared this with me from @womenwhotype. I loved the concept and dove deeper into each of these false awards, as well as how to avoid the temptation to earn it, and what to do instead. It’s a quick, fun listen. You are worthy just as you are. Feeling accomplished feels good. But burnout, and overwhelm are not the right path. “I guarantee you there is someone in your life that would be willing to help if you'd ask, and be willing to kind of let...
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39. 12 Commitments to a Calm & Confident Life
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared 12 commitments directly from my 2025 Calm & Confident planner. Let this serve as a road map to a better life. This will feel like a “best of” edition of my favorite, foundational life lessons — some that I’ve shared in more depth on this podcast and some that I have not. I know that a few of these commitments will resonate with you, and you’ll know it when you hear it. Grab onto those lessons and take them in, work them around in your mind, and put them to work. Some of the lessons will not speak to you as much – good. You need to know your own life,...
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38. Calm Down
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared three simple ways to calm down when your thoughts are running wild in your head in the middle of the day, or the middle of the night. Our day is made up of our thoughts. When we choose better thoughts, we choose a better day for ourselves. However, many things want to take us off track — headlines, social media feeds, other people’s words and actions, or everyday life challenges. How can you take back control of your thoughts, and redirect your energy? How can you shut down intrusive thoughts and find a place of calm? How can you let things roll off your back? How...
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37. Organize Your Life
Calm & Confident with Trina Gray
In this episode, I shared a method that I learned more than a decade ago from my mentor Todd Durkin, for “color coding” your life. I have tweaked it and adapted it over the years to fit my life as a working mom. This can work for you as a college student, working professional, or retiree. Take my tips, tricks and examples and make this your own. This system is an easy way to create more harmony in your life by ensuring that all four colors are represented in your month. In order to be responsible adults, we need “red tape” time to handle the logistics of life and our households,...
info_outlineIn this episode, I talked you through an eye-opening journaling exercise that can truly help you thrive in life. I shared the experiences of hosting a local Calm & Confident Fall Retreat for 20 women and this part of the weekend was one of the most impactful. I had the women write and share on when they are thriving in life. I’m asking you to consider that question – what is the state of your health, your relationships, your energy, your career, your friendships when you are most thriving in life? Have you noticed, or can you start to pay attention? Even if you are in a state of struggle or transition, be open to thriving through those seasons, rather than wait for the stars to align.
“What does that trust look like in your life? Is that trust in your faith? Is that trust in yourself? Is that trust in the people closest to you, or maybe all of the above, is that trust in your future? Is that trust in your abilities, some level of trust, I believe is required in order to be thriving in life, because we feel safe, we feel secure, we feel competent, we feel strong. I want you to think about that. What does that look like in your life?” - Trina
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Trust Is Foundational: Trust in oneself, others, and the future is essential for truly thriving in life, as it brings safety, security, competence, and strength.
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Thriving Looks Different for Everyone: The retreat participants discovered that their sense of thriving could stem from task completion, the happiness of loved ones, or prioritizing personal wellness.
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External vs. Internal Thriving: Linking your sense of thriving solely to external achievements or others’ happiness can be limiting; true thriving is cultivated from within, independent of perfect circumstances.
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Thriving Through Challenges: Rather than waiting for everything to be settled, the idea of “thriving through” difficulties encourages agency, resilience, and personal growth even during setbacks.
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Self-Reflection Promotes Growth: Regularly reflecting on your health, work clarity, relationships, and level of trust enables you to identify what helps you thrive and empowers you to bring your best energy to all aspects of life.
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