135: Dr. Jeff Wetzler — Why People Don’t Tell You the Truth (and the Questions That Change Everything)
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136: Jordan Montgomery — Why Even High Performers Need Encouragement (and How to Lead with It)
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135: Dr. Jeff Wetzler — Why People Don’t Tell You the Truth (and the Questions That Change Everything)
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➡️ Get my free weekly newsletter (The Intentional Letter): Follow Jeff's work: Dr. Jeff Wetzler, author of Ask, joins Cal Walters to unpack a leadership blind spot: the crucial information your team has… but isn’t telling you. Jeff explains the “left-hand column” (what people think and feel but don’t say), the four reasons honesty gets filtered, and the ASK Approach—a practical framework for choosing curiosity, building psychological safety, asking better questions, and closing the loop when feedback is hard to act on. If you want better decisions, healthier relationships,...
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134: Randy Gravitt — Winning at Home Without Losing at Work, Leading With Presence, and Why Hope Is Not a Strategy
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133: LTG(R) Milford Beagle "Beags" — A Three-Star General on True North, Resilience, Feedback, and How to Lead With Confidence Without Becoming Overconfident
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132: Joe McCormack — Special Operations Communication Expert Shares How to Say Less, Communicate With Clarity, and Lead With Quiet Confidence
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131: Dr. Liz Werly — What an Army Psychologist for Special Ops Teaches About High Performance and Emotional Intelligence
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130: Dr. Zach Mercurio — The Hidden Engine of High-Performing Teams: Mattering, Trust, and Purpose-Driven Leadership
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129: Dr. Ryan Gottfredson — The Groundbreaking Science of Personal Transformation, Mindsets, Emotional Intelligence, and Becoming Better
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128: Accomplish Anything as a Leader with the 3 Levels of Clarity and the Intentional Leader Lab
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➡️ Apply to the Intentional Leader Lab (only 12 slots available): In this conversation, Cal introduces the Intentional Leader Lab, a coaching program aimed at enhancing leadership skills through emotional intelligence. Dr. Travis Bradberry, an expert in emotional intelligence, discusses its significance in leadership, differentiating it from IQ, and the importance of self-awareness, self-management, and social awareness. The conversation emphasizes practical strategies for developing emotional intelligence and the impact it has on personal and professional relationships. Dr. Travis...
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Dr. Jeff Wetzler, author of Ask, joins Cal Walters to unpack a leadership blind spot: the crucial information your team has… but isn’t telling you. Jeff explains the “left-hand column” (what people think and feel but don’t say), the four reasons honesty gets filtered, and the ASK Approach—a practical framework for choosing curiosity, building psychological safety, asking better questions, and closing the loop when feedback is hard to act on.
If you want better decisions, healthier relationships, and fewer surprises, this conversation will give you a playbook.
Episode Outline / Timestamps
00:00 The hidden information problem
00:41 Guest intro + what you’ll learn
01:37 Chris Argyris + the “left-hand column” tool
08:07 Four reasons people don’t tell you the truth
12:06 Why smart/successful leaders struggle to learn
13:55 Jeff’s near miss: one question that revealed the truth
15:45 Psychological safety: why curiosity alone isn’t enough
21:35 Reactivity: the biggest predictor of future honesty
22:18 Responding well to hard feedback
25:00 The ASK Approach: Choose curiosity
29:48 Curiosity killers + “When you’re furious, get curious”
32:29 Busy leaders: “Pay now or pay later”
36:40 Quality questions vs. crummy questions
40:04 Better questions for feedback and performance reviews
44:07 Go-to questions for parties and relationships
47:48 Questions as a gift: helping others gain clarity
49:55 How to handle feedback you won’t follow
51:08 Reflect & reconnect: sift it, turn it, and close the loop
53:13 Cal’s takeaways and practical challenges
Practical Challenges to Try This Week
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Replace: “Do you have feedback for me?”
With: “What’s one thing I could do differently that would make your life easier?”
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When you feel defensive, ask one question before making a statement.
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When someone brings hard truth, try:
“That’s hard to hear—and I’m really glad you told me.”