Why Modern Dating Feels So Disconnected With Dr. D Ivan Young
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Release Date: 04/23/2026
Why Strong Women Struggle to Receive Love (And How to Change It) With Mama Gena
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
What if surrender isn't about giving up, but about unlocking your greatest strength? Could embracing pleasure be the most courageous act you take towards that allows you to receive love? In Episode 455 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why Strong Women Struggle to Receive Love (And How to Change It) With Mama Gena” dives deep with the legendary Regena Thomashauer otherwise known as Mama Gena, founder of the School of Womanly Arts and bestselling author, to explore how powerful, successful women can reconnect with their sensuality and pleasure—even if they feel stuck in "warrior mode. In...
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Menopause, Dating & Desire: The Conversation Every Woman Needs to Hear with Dr. Debra Durst
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Are menopause symptoms making you question your confidence and attractiveness—especially when it comes to dating? What if the secret to reigniting your energy, sensuality, and sense of self is as much about biology as it is about sexy confidence and mindset? In Episode 454 of The Charisma Quotient, “Menopause, Dating & Desire: The Conversation Every Woman Needs to Hear with Dr. Debra Durst” Kimmy sits down with Dr. Debra Durst, a leading regenerative medicine expert, to talk about the often-unspoken intersection of menopause, sexual wellness, and the dating world for women in their...
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ICYMI: Ditch The Dating Apps and Meet IRL
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Are you tired of the endless swiping and superficial interactions on dating apps? Do you long for the days where you could meet someone in person? In Episode 453 of The Charisma Quotient, “ICYMI: Ditch The Dating Apps and Meet IRL” Kimmy delves into the world of real-life connections and the lost art of flirting in person. She shares riveting anecdotes of individuals transitioning from disillusionment with digital dating to finding love through sincere real-life encounters and gives tangible tips on how you can too. In this episode, Kimmy shares success stories of going out...
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The Protection Paradox That Keeps You Safe But Single: Coaching with Kimmy
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Have you ever felt like you're doing everything right—putting yourself out there, looking your best, smiling at the world—yet you seem to blend into the background, totally unseen when it comes to love and connection? You might be suffering from the Protection Paradox. You may want love, connection, and partnership, but unconsciously you are doing everything possible to protect yourself from the very vulnerability that love requires. In Episode 452 of The Charisma Quotient, “The Protection Paradox That Keeps You Safe But Single: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy does a coaching session...
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How Your Hyper-Independence Is Blocking You From Love
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Have you ever found yourself saying, "I don’t need anyone—I can do it myself"? Do you sometimes wonder if your fierce independence is actually holding you back from the love and connection you truly desire? In Episode 451 of The Charisma Quotient, “How Your Hyper-Independence Is Blocking You From Love” Kimmy dives deep into the concept of hyper-independence and how it’s often mistaken for strength and confidence, especially among those successful in their second act of life. In this episode, Kimmy shares real-life examples, including clients who present themselves as having it...
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From Invisible to Irresistible: Where Are They Now With Lori
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Are you wondering if it’s too late to break old patterns or date when you feel like you’re starting over? Are you struggling to move past self-doubt, loneliness, or feeling like your best days are behind you? In Episode 450 of The Charisma Quotient, “From Invisible to Irresistible: Where Are They Now With Lori” Kimmy sits down with her client Lori, a woman who completely transformed her dating and personal life after decades of putting others first and feeling lost after divorce. In this inspiring episode, Lori candidly shares how she overcame her fear of rejection,...
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The Fear of Being Seen: How Finding Your Voice Changes Your Dating Life with Rachel McCord
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Do you ever feel like you’re hiding a part of yourself, whether in dating, relationships, or even your everyday life? Have past experiences, heartbreak, or even your own inner critic made you afraid to truly be seen and heard? In Episode 449 of The Charisma Quotient, “The Fear of Being Seen: How Finding Your Voice Changes Your Dating Life with Rachel McCord” Kimmy is joined by the inspiring Rachel McCord—television personality, author, founder of the McCord List—who opens up about her own journey from trauma and invisibility to becoming an "influencer of influencers. In this...
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Why People-Pleasers Stay Too Long in Unavailable Relationships: Coaching with Kimmy
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Have you ever found yourself giving endlessly in relationships, hoping for change that never comes? Do you wonder why it’s so hard to let go of someone who’s not fully available or why you keep waiting for love to show up the way you deserve? In Episode 448 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why People-Pleasers Stay Too Long in Unavailable Relationships: Coaching with Kimmy” Kimmy does a heartfelt coaching session with Mischael, who shares her journey of navigating a two-year-long distance “situationship” as a people pleaser. In this episode, Kimmy unpacks the intersection...
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Beauty Isn’t Confidence: Inside and Out with Supermodel Sofia Miagkikh
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
What if everything you believed about beauty, confidence, and attraction was based on a myth? Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought you needed to change something before putting yourself out there? In Episode 447 of The Charisma Quotient, “Beauty Isn’t Confidence: Inside and Out with Supermodel Sofia Miagkikh” Kimmy is joined by internationally recognized fashion model Sofia Miagkikh to peel back the layers on the persistent myth that beauty alone creates real confidence and lasting attraction. Kimmy opens with a look at how changes in self-image—especially after...
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Dating Isn’t An Interview: Finding Fun & Flow Coaching With Kimmy
Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love
Are you finding that dating, especially after a long relationship or marriage, feels more like a job interview than a playful adventure? Connection gets lost when you’re stuck in checklist mode. But you might find flirtation awkward and unfamiliar so you default to a dry and serious conversation. In Episode 446 of The Charisma Quotient, “Dating Isn’t An Interview: Finding Fun & Flow Coaching With Kimmy” Kimmy sits down for a coaching session with Florence, a divorced mother of twins and career nurse, who is bravely navigating the unfamiliar waters of dating after nearly three...
info_outlineHave you ever come back from a date thinking, "Where was the spark?" Why is it that so many conversations feel like boring interviews instead of genuine connections? How can you move past surface-level banter to truly feel something? In Episode 441 of The Charisma Quotient, “Why Modern Dating Feels So Disconnected With Dr. D Ivan Young” Kimmy dives deep into what it takes to spark emotional connection with her special guest, Dr. D Ivan Young—a renowned emotional intelligence and human behavior expert.
Together, they unpack why so many dates lack the emotional pull we crave and how generational and cultural patterns can block our ability to share or even recognize feelings. They explore how empathy works, why being a "people pleaser" works against you, and the neuroscience behind empathy and attraction—including how our brains react during meaningful conversations.
Dr. Young also reveals the concept of "weaponized empathy" - how people (and even algorithms!) can manipulate our emotional triggers for their own purposes, and why understanding this is crucial for creating safer, more genuine relationships. Kimmy offers relatable stories and strategies for breaking out of defensive dating habits and cultivating emotional intimacy, rather than falling back into transactional chat or "LinkedIn exchanges."
You’ll hear:
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Why so many dates feel like interviews, not connections
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The neuroscience behind fight-or-flight mode and its impact on dating conversations
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The difference between being empathic, people pleasing, and genuinely connecting
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How cultural and generational beliefs influence your emotional expression
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Tangible skills to boost authentic conversation and emotional vulnerability on dates
If you hate dating and find yourself in endless boring banter and disconnected dates, sign up for Kimmy’s free private coaching call here to figure out how to help you make dating more fun and effective: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/
Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels.
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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life.
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